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I don’t know what to do about my friend Natalia, she is always mean to me and she used to be one of my best friends! we don’t hang out with eachother anymore and now after like a year or 2, she comes over to me and says she wants to be friends!!! after all the lies and rumours she has spread about me, i don’t know if i should give her another chance or just tell her to not care about me and just forget about her???? I’m too confused because no matter how mean someone is to me i hate to see people sad or see them mad at someone or me…. HELP!

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slimline2 offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Liston, 02, AU | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

forgive and forget and if she goes funny again drop her like a bag like any bag …..

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Shie offline Verified User (11 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 236 #
Gloversville, NY, US | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

you need to first.. let her know how her actions have hurt you!!! you need to get appologies from her… forgiveness is an easy thing to do… its the forgetting that is the hard part… as this has a big effect on your life… but my suggestions is.. tell her… you have this right to let her know how she acted was immature and unfair to you!!

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rabbit offline Verified User (8 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Scottsdale, AZ, US | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

Life is too short. Show your strength and maturity by telling her, hey, welcome back! Where have you been?!! I mean really? You were hurtful to me for awhile there, I did not like that. Hope we can be nicer together now so we can be friends.

Something like that, even said with some humor. And if she starts hurting you again, you know that you can tell her, hey, you came back to me, I’m here trying to be your friend, so if you want that, I’m here, if you treat me badly, I’ll still be here, but I’m not your doormat!!!!

You deserve to be treated nicely, maybe she was going through a bad time. lil_bit_shi is right about forgiveness.

Be well

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Eugene, OR, US | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 39 minutes after post)

Maybe you should give her another chance and tell her how you think that she was being a jerk for the past couple years.

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xxxburningflowerxxx offline Verified User (10 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 17 #
An Undisclosed Location | 8 months ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

i agree with slimline2 give her another chance if she does something stupid again just stop hanging out with her

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webjeff200 offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
Chicago, IL, US | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (3 weeks, 5 days after post)

You can give her another change but be careful about letting her know to much about you. She maybe trying to find out something new about you to tell everybody.

People do make mistake and be sorry for it later. Take your time in getting back into that friendship.

You may want ask her why she want to be friend again.

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