Love help: Age difference in relationships. - Help.com

What’s the rule?

Older person’s age divided by two plus seven.

Or whatever.

I believe the age difference isn’t a problem…
…but the maturity level might be.

At 30yrs you may know exactly what you want, however;
Being in your 20’s is an odd time in life. I know for sure that
4 yrs ago (when I turned 20) I had no clue what I wanted from life…
…hell, I still dont.

Something like this could make, or break, a relationship.

thanks everyone

I guess I’m just worried I don’t have enough to offer here. Brody kinda seconds my thoughts.

As long as you both are in love =)

I guess what I’m saying, is be careful…
…only you really know the other person.

Falling in love is great, and seriously:
“Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all.”

I say…
Go for it!

(If it helps, every guy I know my age is with an older women…and quite happy)

I third Rah and Anon’s answer. As long as they’re both adults (meaning not minors) and they’re responsible. Love knows no boundaries or age limits. My parents were almost 12 years apart in difference and it worked out just fine.

I say go for it too. Love conquers all, even birthdays.

Ok, is the guy older, or the girl?

That would make a diff, no?

No, I don’t think it matters who’s older really. The whole “man must be the superior” is just a stereotype in my opinion. I don’t think it really makes a difference. Except maybe to teenagers.

No, I agree with that, but in some circles it may be easier still.

Just curious :P

I met my soul mate 12 years ago, been married for 8…… 23 years age difference, age is just a number, if two people connect the only people who may have a problem with age are those who are insecure with their own relationships. Enjoy your love.

I agree that it is not with the age, it is the level of maturity. There are old people who behave oddly like kids and there are younger ones who are more matured in handling things. The key is get to know the person’s way of handing situations and emotional capabilities.

My fiance is 10 years younger than I am….He is 26, but he works a lot, his job is very demanding and he said that when he dated girls his age, they didn’t like his hours and couldn’t put up with his work schedule. We do have some issues, but they would be the same no matter what his age or mine. If you are compatible….the age really shouldn’t be that big of a deal. There are times that I make it a big deal, just because, at 36, I feel like there are things on my body that aren’t standing up to a 20 somethings body, if you know what I mean….but I think that all women feel that way at one time or the other…no matter how old there partner is.

No problem in and of itself. If you two like who the other person is, tend to bring out the best, all those time-of-life things are just what they are, and there’s time-of-life things no matter your age.

doesnt matter. never matters as long as its love

My parents married when they were 13 years apart, so I guess I’m OK with it. Just make sure you’re making good choices. :-)

i have no problem with the ae diffrence

Hmm… I don’t have a problem with it either. Maybe it is because I have a crush on someone who is quite a bit older than myself. It can’t be helped though… so many wonderful qualities I admire, respect and can learn from. :) I think this could be the case either way though for some folks.

age doesnt matter at all.. well unless its illegal, then you should wait but early 20s and early 30s thats fine who cares? as long as your ok with it then everyone else will be too

My ex bf was 12 yrs older than me and my current is 8 yrs older… maybe im just attracted to older guys…???

the question is, are you feeling the age difference? and the next question is, is it bad?
the last seven people i have dated have been younger than me, four of them by ten years, one by nine years, one by seven years…i look younger than i am and the young ones go for me. i guess i go for the young ones too.
my current boyfriend is ten years younger than me. sometimes i sense the difference in that i am more experienced in virtually everything and i have traveled more also. it doesn’t bother me or him. so, you can do it, if you want to. caution: beware of others judging you.

Thanks magickmuffin.

I was hoping for someone to say something out of experience. . .

I do worry about it, since it’s become rather apparent it’s impossible for us to hang out with each other’s groups of friends.

That bothers me. But then again, could be worse, I’m sure.

I really believe that age difference doesn’t matter with true love. Your son is old enough to make his own decisions and he really doesn’t need your opinion unless he asks for it.

illegal, wait until ur 18 i doubt u’ll feel the samew baout him when hes 30 something and ur just starting ur life

I would mention that you are dating someone, but not show them, and say you’ll introduce him when you guys are getting serious. When you get older age doesn’t matter as much

Love is love - but in America, I’m not sure - everything has a rule…. ageism is a huge problem here…. I think people really lose out on opportunities for real love - but they grow more superficial every day. If you have things in common and you really love that person, it shouldn’t matter.

The age difference between my partner and I is 27 years… and we are perfect together.

Can you elaborate a bit? That sounds exactly like me (age dif, separate cities) and what you said about not being candid/not interacting with schooling and youth opportunities interested me. Do you two tell others about your relationship? Are your parents okay with it?

wow…