Love help: He loves me more than I love him?

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He loves me more than I love him?

Me and mine have been together for almost 4 years. He was the love of my life. He is a truly terrific man. He buys me new flowers EVERY Sunday. He always tells me how much he loves me and how beautiful I am. He is not a club hopper and very much so a home body. My feelings have been changing for him over the past month and a half. He doesn’t wanna get married or engaged cuz he’s simply not ready. His family comes first!! And when I say home body, I mean he doesn’t even like going out with me. And that stuff has been making it very hard now for some reaon. And to make matters worse, an old friend has come back into my life. And when I say friend, I mean friend. But he came back with these feelings he always had for me just never told me. And there the same feelings I had for him and never told him. We both didn’t wanna ruin our friendship. Now I’m stuck. I don’t know what to do. I have reasons other than the friend for wanting to break up with my boyfriend, but when I read back those reasons, it almost seems ridiculious! I started crying my eyes out earlier today cuz I am soooooo confused! I don’t wanna break up with my man for another guy. And parts of me feel like I am making excuses to do this. But the bad feelings I been having have been there before my friend came back into my life. He’s just making it easier for me to use them to break it off now. So confused and don’t know what to do! Can anybody help. Please email me if so…. (email removed) This is just a call for help. I never done anything like this before but for once in my life, I am truly stuck.

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shy girl 1 #
Stoneyford, S5, GB | 5 years, 4 months ago (9 minutes after post)

i know exactly how you feel, i am new to this tonight. i think if you are unhappy then you should seriously consider what you really want. there isnt too many guys out there that would put family first etc. i had a guy that didnt even wana take me out for a drink lol

Help me with: Need some advice guys!

Leiah10 0 #
US | 5 years, 4 months ago (2 hours, 54 minutes after post)

That’s how we started off. But now if I really beg, he’ll take me out. But I’m tired of begging. I want him to do things cuz he wants me make me happy, like I do for him. Anything he wants to do, whether I wanna do it or not, I do for him with a smile on my face. He NEVER has to beg!!
Thanks for your reply

shy girl 1 #
Stoneyford, S5, GB | 5 years, 4 months ago (13 hours, 24 minutes after post)

no probs i know how u feel. i gave up begging too and my 5 year relationship ended just before christmas. i was always wondering if i should finish it because i was tired of how he was treating me, but i was way to afraid to end it. now that it is over i feel so much more relieved, even tho i am heartbroken (if that makes sense) lol

Help me with: Need some advice guys!

Dragonlady 1 #
Eagle Lake, ME, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (16 hours, 12 minutes after post)

please dont take offence, but i wanted to tell it to you just how i see it. It dosn’t seem like your confused. it seems like you know just exactly what you want. your just waiting for someone to tell you its ok. well if you dont love him the way you used to, thats it, and if you have feelings for your friend then thats not fair to him either. theres nothing that can be done about it. let him have someone who will appreciate new flowers everyweek, and someone who will appreciate him staying home and wanting to be with only them and his family. if you truley love him than stop talking to your friend and commit yourself to him. hope this helps you. I’m sorry if it seemed harsh.

Help me with: I am so sorry.

Leiah10 0 #
US | 5 years, 4 months ago (23 hours, 41 minutes after post)

SHYGIRL: If your not heartbroken over a five year relationship, then it didn’t mean nothing anyway. So that is totally normal. But I hope all works out for you for the New Year.

DRAGONLADY: It was kind of harsh but you totally made sense. And I appreciate that. You are right. I should just do one thing. And I believe inside of me wants to be with this other guy. I just feel so bad cuz my boyfriend loves me more than anything in this world. And I feel horrible that I don’t feel the same anymore. I always thought he’d be my “forever”!!! Still waiting to be brave enoguh to do something though. Thanks again!

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The Hyde, K8, GB | 5 years, 2 months ago (2 months after post)

I have just come back from 2 months abroad where during that time i decided my 5 year relationship should end. I am utterley in love with my boyfriend. He’s inspired, brave, generous, loving. However we have worked together for a long time and when things went wrong in the past it was always my fault or he was disappointed in me. And over time it ate away at my self esteem, to the point where my friends say i’m not the woman i was 5 years ago. Although i feel i’ve bought it to his attention again and again it seems he forgets or doesn’t pay attention and or thinks that he was justified in what he did. I had an abortion in february because he rejected me when he found out i was pregnant. he came round 2 days later but having looked at me the way he did when he found out, not touch me and then the next day smash up the office you can understand why i was adamant i could not have the baby. I couldn’t risk being trapped in a partnership where i was resented. Having come back and said i was leaving he’s been so understanding, loving, wonderful you name it. Everything i’ve always needed him to be and my mum said he missed me terribly whilst i was away. He has kids and me and my family are theirs and so its a massive decision to leave and one i fear will either be the biggest mistake of my life of i’m simply to frightened of losing him to make. Lord knows what is the right answer.

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 6 months ago (1 year, 10 months after post)

Just wondering did you end up breaking up with your boyfriend?

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heyyyheyyy 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 4 months ago (2 years, 12 months after post)

i am in the same situation with a year long relationship. But it is with my bestfriend. The problem is he loves me more than i think i love him. id love to hear from you through an email for further explanation.

biscuitmille #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (3 years, 1 month after post)

Girl im going through the same thing like i love my boyfriend i just dont love him enough to be with him i mean im not the type of girl to date a guy that is so ghetto and loud and always gets in trouble and i dnt like that its not classy. He loves me so much but i dont love him anymore we been together 5 months tommorrow it will be 6 months and i dont knoe if i want it to go on any longer because he’s not my type and he’s not what i want my husband to be he’s talking about selling drugs for a living and im dont want to be part of that. because honestlty im a girl that like good smart tall handsome boys not thugs. And i dnt know if i should end it should i ? Please help me ! :)

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