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hi,my name is ?

????? and im pregnant with my boyfriend that is 21 and i we are having some trouble ,, like last night i call him to see what he was doing he was a bar and drinking with money that we dont have and soo i called he later that night and then he have his phone off ,, should i think he doing something ,, im just scared that im going to have to do it on my own i just lose my job and he dont have a job,, what should i do please help me (please if you can talk to me and help me please IM ME and (email removed) thanks you soo much)

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mike offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Calgary, AB, CA | 1 year, 11 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Hello,

Please know that the advice I am giving you is given with a direct approach as I do not like to dress things up. I say it how I see it and sometimes that can be scary and blunt.

You and your boyfriend are very young and having a child is serious business. It sounds like your boyfriend is fine with getting you pregnant but not so good with the responsibilities that follow. This is a very clear sign as to what you can expect from him in the next few months. Most likely, you will be in this on your own and it will be you who has to deal with most of the stuff surrounding the pregnancy. If it is not too late I would explore abortion options or adoption opportnities.

You seem too young to have this child and I would not want to see it prevent you from growing as an individual and finding your place in the world. I wish you lots of luck…

MB

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tomboi2007 offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (3 days, 15 hours after post)

dont let him keep worrying you like he is, because it’s certainly not good for the baby.
confront him, no matter how angry he gets you have to stand up for what you believe in, and i know how hard it is to try and state your point when you’re afraid of losing him or for what ever other reason,

and also i know this isn’t a good way to keep a good stable relationship but try and hide some money from him, that way it’s not going to get spent and try and add to it everynow and then.

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