I’m scared of growing up too!! and i’m 33.
Just make sure you got some one to grow up with. Doesn’t have to be a boyfriend, just a friend you will always now…. It’s comforting!
Growing up is not your fear, it’s dying that scares you. If you lived to be 500 years old you would’nt be alarmed would you? So live each minute of each day. You have at least 36,792,000 to go. Now thats a long time. If you dont think it is then try counting to one million.
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If you are scared of growing then when you are at the end of growth you will look back and wonder why you wasted al your time worrieing. Life is about growing.
i am scared of growing up, ive had this problem for YEARS. and yeah laydaze, i already look back at when i was 11, which then i still wanted to go younger again.
when i was 11 i wanted to be 5 again paying with my toys and running wild with my imagination. i think its because i liked having a lack of resonsibility in life and have an excuse to be innocent if im young.
i wish i could stay younger forever. i don;t know why, but whatever age i am i always want to be younger. i think its a control thing. i can;t accept i lack that over reality.
its so complicated and confusing. i think im also scared i won’t be wanted if im older. i think in my society younger people are recognised more and seem to be more accepted, hence the media.
the media is well annoying where i live. if u walk down a high street i could always see an edited photo of some model.
also im scared of change.
It sounds like you are regreting something. Regrets only lead to one thing ,setbacks. Put you blinders on and go forward. first of all you can’t stop time. but you are not alone so take some solice in that. we all are in the same boat girl!!
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GB | 1 year, 11 months ago (22 minutes after post)
Im 15 and im scared of growing up and basically leaving childhood behind. I remember when i was a little kid and nothing really mattered and i miss that feeling. I remember when i didn’t have a care in thw world and in primary school when you could go up to anyone and the next minute you would be playing like you were best friends, or when grazing your knee was the most painful thing. . . It makes me sad thinking about how i have to leave it all behind and i can never go back to it.
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what does solice mean?
I think its because i regret not having fun in the past and want to put that right. its a constant cycle hard to break out of that has been going on for me for years!
i get those feelings too emma!
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GB | 1 year, 11 months ago (23 minutes after post)
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i think its to do with liking having to not need any responsibility. we were able to depend on others where as as we are getting older we can’t have that anymore.
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GB | 1 year, 11 months ago (27 minutes after post)
Yh. Theres so much more stuff to worry about and do. And sooo much responsibility and its like it’s all down to you like you have to look after yourself and make sure you do everything that needs to be done. I mean i know theres family and friends but in the end its you who it all comes down to.
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yeah, so true emma, everything comes down to me and i don’t think im doing a good job sorting things for myself. im also a vulnerable adult because ive had mental health issues and the government is even giving my extra money for having a responsible adult.
but atm im learning to drive and im working on my independance, its just taking me a while.
I can really relate to this post. A lot. When I was ten I was so concerned about losing what I felt and knew then. I really do not think we ever have to lose that, sometimes we may need to work back to some of that.
Part of it is truely striving to live in the present, and not be stuck in the past or worrying about the future. You create your reality, and even tho we werent aware of it as kids, we were then and are now responsible for how we react to the world around us.
So it can be like, wow, it all comes down to me, but it always did. Kids approach life with love until it is beaten, ridiculed or hurt out of them sometimes, but that is still in us. We can slow down, stop panicking and learn to be carefree again.
yeah, living at the present.
i have had a lot of bad times when i was around 11, that was when the severe bullying began. that was also the first period i remember i wanted to start going back in time.
Ive experienced a lot of bullying, violation, diffculties and struggles. my dad also passed away last year and he’s not here anymore to be dependant on.
Wow. My father passed away at the end of october last year as well.
I can relate to you. It is a real struggle to accept the ever changing world around us and in ourselves. I guess it helps to feel that there is a purpose to everything if you believe that. I find it hard to believe its all that random. That seems like nonsense to me. But it is hard, I really want to be with friends today, its not working out, and its like blah!! So, I try to say, okay, not today, but another day.
I can see why you would want to ‘go back’ when you have had so much suffering. There is a part of me that wants the same, but also wants to leave all the suffering I went through behind, too. Maybe part of it for you, is seeking some help in reconciling those hurtful times, healing, seeing them differenlty, learning and empowering yourself to have new thought processes and skills to know you can start to have a great life today. YOu may have challenges now, but some of those things that hurt you are over with, let them be over. And honor your grief and remembering of your dad.
Solace= to take comfort in-
I have this problem too. I vividly remember new years 2000 like it was last year, and it freaks me out. I cant believe how fast I’m growing up and maturing. Its even weirder seeing your friends get into serious relationships and talk about marriage and stuff. I’m just trying to make the most out of my life. I feel like becoming a doctor would allow me to help out the most people, and I think its what God wants me to do. Who knows though, life is crazy to say the very least.
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thanks rabbit. in some ways i want to move forward as well but its like i want to hold onto the past and put things right and for me to have control over it.
I struggle because I find it hard, I look back at the past and then use my imagination to think of what I could have done and the best solutions. I then beat myself up for not to have done them and wish i could just change it all.
yeah i know alex, the year 2000 does seem like last year. I noticed also then when i was 3, 1 year was a very long time (if i had a conscience of it then it would seem to be) thats because that year wouldve been a third of my life.
now im 20 just under 7 years would be a third of my life.
do what you know ull enjoy, thats the best way. one big thing ive noticed is, don’t allow anything to make me happy i have to be happy first to feel fullfilled.
also 2006 seems like yesterday. im worried before i know it ill be 80! lol. id look around and so many people would be younger than me!
i like having older more mature people to look up2
Its really important for us to remember, no matter our backgrounds or whether we are religious/spiritual, that every major religion or philosophy that has ever existed has had some fundamental truths that existed in them.
If we can look past our own beliefs for a moment, and look for the commonalities, we would find some very eerie and inspiring similarities. And when we strip away morality judgments and shaming, which can be part of interpreting religion we will find some very clear, very doable, very practicle advice on how to live happier.
One of these is: BE PRESENT. Let go of the past, do not dwell on it. (although, like I said before I do believe there are times to delve in a little and process, but….we can get stuck and judge ourselves and get frustrated about things we cannot do anything about anymore.) Your past does NOT dictate your future. Just because things were that way in the past, does not mean they have to be now.
Also, do not dwell on the future, it is overwhelming and fear based to do so.
What we choose to dwell on right now, in any moment, and take action on, will dictate our future, not the past, or the future that does not exist. We must release ourselves from these unreal nonexistant states and free ourselves to be fully present as much as possible, thereby, really being alive.
I say all this, because it is my lesson, and I hope it helps with your feelings and thoughts on this. It takes an effort, but we all need to live fully in the NOW!!!
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