Love help: I don’t know if I know if I know how to be in a relationship.

AlmostLuver

I don’t know if I know if I know how to be in a relationship.

I’m watching “Roxanne,” which is an old Steve Martin movie based on the play “Cyrano DeBergerac” by somebody I don’t remember. And this guy, Chris, is really shy and he’s SOOO clueless! And I was thinking…oh dear! Will I ever be in a serious relationship? It’s been driving me crazy for absolute ages. I’m not really guy crazy, and I’ve been in love with this one for years, and I’ve never been in a real realtionship. And I’m most likely not going to be in a serious relationship for forever. But a girl can wonder, right? I’m seriously going crazy.

But basically, I don’t know how to be around guys that I like. Sure, there’s some that I can hang out with as friends, but I can’t talk to lots of guys. And the first time a guy asked me out (through an email), I immediately said yes, because I was so ready to be attatched to someone emotionally. And that was a mistake, because he said he loved me too soon and I wasn’t ready for it. I was sick in bed the next day and he texted me. Yeah, that didn’t work out so good. So now, I’m wondering if I’ll ever get that special feeling. But it doesn’t seem real, watching the relationships of people around me. I watch the one real couple at my school, and I get almost jealous, because I want what they have–that special closeness, where they can be themselves and still be mushy and stuff.

I’m so seriously hopeless.

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I don’t know if I know if I know how to be in a relationship. I’m watching “Roxanne,” which is an old Steve Martin movie based on the play “Cyrano DeBergerac” by somebody I don’t remember. And this guy, Chris, is really shy and he’s SOOO clueless! And I was thinking…omg! Will I ever be in a serious relationship? It’s been driving me crazy for absolute ages. I’m not really guy crazy, and I’ve been in love with this one for years, and I’ve never been in a real realtionship. And I’m most likely not going to be in a serious relationship for forever. But a girl can wonder, right? I’m seriously going crazy.

But basically, I don’t know how to be around guys that I like. Sure, there’s some that I can hang out with as friends, but I can’t talk to lots of guys. And the first time a guy asked me out, I immediately said yes, because I was so ready to be attatched to someone emotionally. And that was a mistake, because he said he loved me too soon and I wasn’t ready for it. I was sick in bed and he texted me. So now, I’m wondering if I’ll ever get that special feeling. But it doesn’t seem real, watching the relationships of people around me. I watch the one real couple at my school, and I get almost jealous, because I want what they have–that special closeness, where they can be themselves and still be mushy and stuff.

I don’t know what’s wrong with me. So, the end.

Help me with: Sometimes, when I read a romance book, I get this really painful ache in my chest.

AlmostLuver changed the tags on this post: they were "friends, Film, Watch, Love, Emotion, Steve Martin, school, Martin, girl, jealousy" 1 year, 11 months ago.

Help me with: Sometimes, when I read a romance book, I get this really painful ache in my chest.

Anonymous #
1 year, 11 months ago (15 minutes after post)

there is nothing wrong with u…im the same way u r…like everything u just said describes me…so ur not alone…but someone will come along thats just perfect 4 u..i promise..its just gonna take a lil longer…=)

Peekay 1 #
Los Angeles, CA, US | 1 year, 11 months ago (32 minutes after post)

I’m the same exact way too. That makes 3 of us here then, doesn’t it? You’re not alone.
I sometimes get jealous of my friends in relationships too. Just try to work yourself out of it. That’s what I’m trying to do also. I’m sure someone will find you or you will find someone, sometime in your life. Whether it be this year or the next, it’ll happen.

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UM | 1 year, 11 months ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

god i can totally relate, there is this girl i like yet everytime im around her cant think of anything to talk about so it ends up being uncomfortable silence, to be honest i never have even really had a relationship and god i must say it is frustrating, and i totaly know what you mean, i have a friend that is in a relationship with someone, i get so jealouse! and worse it was so easy for them it just happened! and yet i have absolutly awful luck. anyways hope at least you find what you need!

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UM | 1 year, 11 months ago (1 hour, 29 minutes after post)

thanks ill try to keep that in mind, its just lately i have been getting so impatient in that topic, but thank you it is reassuring.

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daretodream 0 #
Chicago, IL, US | 1 year, 11 months ago (2 hours, 8 minutes after post)

Hahaha, and me.

I’m practically socially inept, my relationships wouldn’t stand an chance. I’m sure that like me you’ll find someone who accepts you as you are and probably thinks your cluelessness is cute. At least we can hope for that anyway, otherwise there will be alot of lonely people in the world because you are definitley not the only one.

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♥Miki♥ 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (3 days, 13 hours after post)

I think most of us have been there, really. Or will be at some point High school is one of the most confusing times when it comes to life, love, and relationships. I too, wanted just the emotional connection when I was still in high school (God, that makes me feel so old saying that now) And I also, dated the first guy who gave me the time of day. Who actually turned out to be a real jerk. It took me a while to realise that there IS more than just the nothingless of a relationship. It IS out there. Sometimes, it just takes a little time for some people to reach that area where they want that one special person they’ve met, for the rest of their lives.

Keep your head up, hon. It is worth it. Don’t rush into it so quickly. The wait only brings better things later one. Patience is a virtue.

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