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.yet again the ex wife is making my life a living he!!. She went out and got a personal protection order against me, so I cannot even see my newborn daughter. I have tried to reason with her, but she wants me to show up alone, with no Tape Recorder; then all she has to do is say,”He threatend me” and i go to jail. I was able to file against the PPO, I have never harmed her. Then the issue of my daughter comes up………I want to be a part of her life, but with the way her mom is acting, I will have to go to court to even see her. I have filled a motion to change judgment of divorce to include minor child; Can anyone tell me how she got a divorce without child, when she was 6 months pregnant? My doctor has prescribed some anti-depressants, but I still feel like my heart is being ripped out of my chest.
Then to top it all off, I have 2 kids living with me now, and they know something is wrong. I do not want to take it out on my family; so I do the best I can to hide it..but for the past few days it has been bubbling close to the surface, The smallest things bring tears to my eyes. I have been able to file, so in 10 days i go to court for the PPO, then 10 more days and I go in for the motion. I am kind of worried, I cannot find a lawyer to help me out, I am broke; and fighting with doctors; from a football injury…and a motorcycle accident. They tell me I should have been more carefull. Isn’t that great advice? I feel as if my life is draining away; and nothing I do stops it.

I email her at least once a day, asking to see my daughter where I do not have to worry about going to jail, or at least to bring a friend so that I have protection. But she refuses to email me back. But I am not supposed to call her (not in PPO). I was also told by the officer that delivered it that “I have never seen a PPO like this before) It says i can not go on her property unless invited. Also I am not aloud to kill her, or threaten too (which I have never done either). Like I said I have 2 Sons living with me; and just got the state to leave us alone. I have been cleared by DHS 3 times, so there is no way she can say I am an unfit father, but I should not have to go to court to see my daughter. So if any of you know A lawyer I can get ahold of that works with low income clients, Because she comes from money so of course mommy and daddy bought her a lawyer. And on the same token, I cannot get legal aid to help me, because I am not at the top of their priorities. I am afraid that I will screw something up and lose my daughter for good.

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r 0 #
Loranger, LA, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (55 minutes after post)

If a judge has not issued custidy to your nor your x-wife, and your daughter is legally yours, you could just go pick her up, and then refuse to give her back. There is nothing the law can do until the case is seen before a judge, who would then deside on the custidy issue. Although i dont advise doing this. First off lets think of your daughter in this issue. Already your wife has neglegted the fact that she needs to see her father. Tit for Tat is not going to solve the issue, therefore be patient, if you are a good father there is no reason why you will not be able to see your daughter. I would suggest setting up an appointment to meet with the district attorney for your area. Explain the situation.

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cheshirej 0 #
Traverse City, MI, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (2 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Thank you. I have called the district attourney and was told to hire a lawyer.

r 0 #
Loranger, LA, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (2 hours, 10 minutes after post)

http://www.michbar.org/public_resourc…
Free legal help in your state! Hope this helps

~Shie~ 1 #
Gloversville, NY, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (2 hours, 14 minutes after post)

for one… a pregnant mom is classified as one person without child… until that child is born… on paper through any state whatever… they dont hold that child in anything until the day it is born… as for the lawyer thing.. when filing for court.. you can actually file for a court appointed attorney if you are below income.. which sounds as if you do… also.. stop sending those emails.. even though you just want to know how your child is doing.. this is still concidered harrassing in the courts eyes… so stop.. i have no idea what ppo is… so im sorry.. however.. you need to go to court and file for visitations… and shared custody…

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RC 2 #
Jacksonville, FL, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (15 hours, 56 minutes after post)

you will be given oppritunity to answer allegations made aganist you on protection order,,judge will dismiss if not verified.then to proceed with visitation and child support guidelines.the court will always give you visitation unless you are proved to be unfit.if i had to do it again i would not need attorney,just stand on your own merits…one thing i learned is to always think…do you want to be right or do you want to be happy..its not worth a bunch of pety b/s ..do whats right for everyone involved…don’t let it eat you up.

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cheshirej 0 #
Traverse City, MI, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (2 days, 4 hours after post)

I have filed all paperwork for both ppo and motion to change judgment of divorce to include minor child. But yet again today I had the same officer on my doorstep with another ppo. My ex wife went and talked to the judge. I havent even seen my daughter for more that 2 hours in her life. And the judge is doing anything she wants…Im at my wits end, everything i do…she tramples…I dont know what to do next…At the soonest it will be The end of the month before i see my daughter again. She had emailed me visiting times…and then got a ppo where if i would have went over….I would have been arrested. And she is getting away with all of it. Where is the law for fathers?? Where is my protection?? She is talking with FOC and the judge, and all they tell me is to hire an attourney.

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Gloversville, NY, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (2 days, 21 hours after post)

i feel sorry for you… its not too often you find a father in this world that wants to be with his child(ren).. so i commend you…. as for an attorney.. have you tried to get one through the courts?? if you are eligible.. you can get one for free…. with any lawyer.. they will always….. always… try to plea down and get things to be agreed upon… dont do this.. once this is done.. so is your fight… continue with what you want… and dont agree on anything unless that is absolutely what you want!!!!! please read my story.. www.myspace.com/missing_my_children you will understand why i know all too well what happens in family court.. and why im telling you the things that im trying to tell you..

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audittdrv #
US | 5 years, 3 months ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

I can honestly say I feel your pain. I have seen my 12 year old daughter 6 hours in 5 months. And now when I speak to her on the phone (my daughter) she is VERY angry and VERY disrespectfull. I am out 100k on lawers and now I am going under fighting my wife and her 3 yes 3 lawyers. She has done much of the same thing PPO and all the rest. She actually filed a court document stating that she and the minor child were afraid I would come over to their house (MY HOUSE) and hurt their pets. Keep in mind that the week before as they were leaving town for thanksgiving, they called and asked me to feed those same pets in their absence. I had a long time friend say the other day that I was the one wanting to drag this out. RIGHT, every morning I wake up trying to find the strength to just go on one more day. I have to find a reason each day just to keep from taking myself off the planet. And if one more person tells me dont worry things will get better, I will KILL them! It NEVER gets better. I will say a prayer for you tonight when I say my prayers for my daughter tonight. It is too bad that the dads that want to be a part of childrens life get NO help from the system, but guys that ignore and abandon their children get all the attention from the court system. I want to be in my daughters life. I E-mail EVERY day and ask to see her or to speak to her. EVERYDAY it is the same… nothing. Now we are running out of cash and my wife is sleeping with our marriage shrink. I would say hang in there but I dont know if I can for much longer. Without my daughter my life has no joy no meaning no purpose. If this ends me I want my daughter to know that I loved her and faught for months to see her and be with her. Good luck to you………..
Good luck to all of us…

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 7 months ago (9 months, 3 weeks after post)

My husband and I are going thru many of these same things with his children. You need to not ask your ex for anything and get the courts to compel her to give you visitation. You need a lawyer! The amount of paper work is overwhelming and unless you have someone help you it will go no where. Also, try to remain calm, believe me I know it is hard, but you have to. You will go crazy trying to reason with someone who is unreasonable. My husbands ex wife tried to go to court to get a restraining order against me and because we had a lawyer and we went before the commissioner he said no way. You have to settle all of this thru the courts…It might take a year but in the end it will be court ordered and you will legally have the rights you fully deserve. In the mean time stay away from her and don’t try to compel her to do what you want let the system do it. I think too many fathers role over and let the mother do all of the court filing and they end up with nothing. Fight thru the legal system!

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 5 months ago (11 months, 1 week after post)

Hi, I was unhappily married to a sociopath , who slept around amongst other things. currently i am fighting to see my daughter but she is doing everything in her powers to block me. Its drainging and frankly unsettling. I am actually about to throw in the towel as i think i now have a record of all my efforts.

My brother went through something like this with his Baby mammas ( sugar in the gas tank , tuna on the car seats )and there was baby mamma dramas. Now , 3 yrs later the mothers are calling him and asking him to be in his daughters lives.

My options now based on all the drama I have been through and research i have made
1. Dont fight it anymore and wait till your child comes round to you , they always seem to do.
2. Fight from a distance , use whatever means you have, file stuff on your own behalf if you have too you dont have to be a lawyer to do that . Bribe people etc dont be intimidate by the Fcukr.
3.ART of war annihilate you enemy completely, go out of your way to proove she is incompetent useless, drug abusing and violent.Set up up in bar fights, have your sleevy friends pick her up at clubs and take photo’s of her in compromising positions . No holds barred co-vert stuff. Get her caught doing ordinary things that can be twisted to make her look completely incompetent, sleezy and wild . get her evaluated if you have too. ( google an article called how fathers can win custody. Failiure is not an option my friend.

Whatever you do decide to do, make sure you maintain your sanity and you put yourself first otherwise you will be useless to your family and to yourself. Putting yourself 1st means maintaining your sanity , focusing on your goals putting energy into your family.

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 3 months ago (2 years, 1 month after post)

stop asking for divorce to be changed. simply file a motion for visitation

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