Love help: Is what Im doing wrong ? - Help.com

You’re not doing anything wrong–you can’t control your emotions, you can’t always pick who you love. I’m proud of you, even though I don’t know you, because you are letting her have her relationship without any trouble. I know how hard it is to love someone and watch them with someone else. It hurts really bad. You are doing a wonderful job. Just give her some time. Maybe, hopefully, she’ll come to love you too. Maybe she already does…

I know how you feel. Sorry I can’t help much.. it’s a tough situation. The best advice I can give you is if you think she loves her BF and would not choose you, run as fast as you can as it will only get more painful. BUT, I was/am in your friend’s situation. I’m the one with the BF and actually, if the guy had told me he loved me, I think it would have turned my whole life around. I think I could see it but could never tell for sure and I was scared he didn’t love me so I hid my feelings for him and then time slipped and here I am still with my BF. I’m not sure what happened. I say, don’t go too fast as being in your friend’s situation is a lot more complicated than it seems, but DO let her know how you really feel. You never know, she may just feel the same, but just needs some time.

Its alright, I mean if she never EVER has feelings for me I’ll still love her, its who she is that has such a grip on me. Its strange she is the personification of what I dream.
Thats the thing to, she seems to show signs that she has feelings for me (calling late at night talk for hours, tells me im her insperation, i found drawing of me in her folder (shes good), and one that really stuck me is when her sis kicked her out she said “I was going to ask if I could stay with you, cause… your so close [not geographicly]” but didn’t think her BF would be to comfortable with that.

I want to tell her soo badly, I just dont know whats going to happend. Am I going to loose the greatest friend i’ve ever had ? Will i loose the one first love ? What if I did tell her? :::

“{her name}, I think its time i tell you,… I love you, i love you soo much. you are the most amazing person that has ever come into my life, everything about you i love, your up beat humor, your laugh, your smile,. That day at the park (when i told her i had a crush) and you helped me open up, my feelings just grew. I know no words that can describe how i feel about you, but i’ve never felt this way about anyone, and I guess you were right; I will one day say it… “i love you”. I know you love {his name} and if your happy, then Im so happy for you, cause you truley deserve it and so much more. I just wanted tell you ”

wow, you really do love her, that little messege is soo sweet. it sounds like she does have feelings for you from what you said, she might be a little nervous about sharing them too. You should tell her. Good luck

Your love sounds genuine from that little message, and when it is genuine it feels so unique, so unending. But, on a more logical note, there are 3.5 billion female humans on this planet. If you throw all of your love on this girl, either you will get her but you will be the one responsible for her breakup, or (statistically more likely) you will shove a big awkward wedge between you two. I’d say, go experience some of those other 3.5 billion, and you assuredly will find out that some of them are amazing in ways you’d never expect and that love is expansive, not necessarily restricted to two people. Then you get the best of both worlds, a chance to love openly and you get to keep your best friend.

Love is a two way street. Unrequited love is not true love. It is painful infatuation. The only thing you are doing wrong is to involve yourself in painful infatuation. Stop it.

As I said you cannot know being in love unless you are getting back what you are giving (a two way street). Since she loves her boyfriend, as you tell us, that means she does not love you, and in my opinion, you cannot be truly in love with her. Trust me your painful infatuation is very close to love, yes… but you know as well as I, if she were to return your feelings to you, you’d be in HEAVEN!!! - THAT is love. So tell her how you feel. She will either give you a chance or deny you the chance. Either way you will live on to ‘love’ again.
Bright blessings ~ Richard

Ughh… decisions,decisions…
-I want to tell her; to get it off me and just let her know, even so i can just move on, or get closure.
-I don’t want to tell her; Cause her friendship is SOO valuable to me (shes always there for me when im down, she seems to always care how im doing)
Ugh… What to do. I guess when the time is right, I will do it, and the only way to find out where this path leads is to walk it.

Aww.. Dan..that is sooo powerful..if u love her ..tell her. dont be afraid..i can tell u really care about her..dont hold back ur emotions..tell her how u feel….i would..:)

I think you should tell her. For yourself. To get it off your chest and so you can either move forward with this or get closure as you said. At least so you can know where you stand. She sounds like she really cares about you so I don’t think you would lose her friendship…but if you keep it to yourself, it’s your mind you’ll lose along the way. I’ve been there! It seems fine at the sart and you think you can handle it, but if you really love her you’ll get lost in all the details and all the signs and what they mean…and it’ll become so confusing you’ll wish you had told her a long long time ago! If you love her this much, don’t watch her go away or you could really regret it. At least if you try, you’ll be able to say you did the best you could.
Personally, I was really afraid and at the time it seemed like I had a lot to lose (in both my relationship and his friendship)if I let him know…so I couldn’t decide what to do…but now that I’ve pretty much missed my chance, I realise I had everything to gain and now it’s gone. I lost everything. And it hurts. So don’t do what I did! :)

Don’t be afraid of what you could lose.. That’s the biggest barrier we put in front of ourselves in life. Think of how much more you could get. :)

girls r good at understandin stuff

if u nva tell her ur feelings ull regret it for the rest of ur life n ullwonder wat it wld b like to b wid her

my advice tell her yeh it mite break up ur relationship bt ull regret it if u dnt
get up da courage n tell her c wat happens once u told her u cnt do nuthin mr it b up to her c wat happens b4ore u dnt n regret it 4eva