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I have a daughter who is now 16 years of age and a son who is 10 years of age. I have been engaged to a man for the past 6 years. My daughter told me that she and my fiance and were wrestling and he touched her butt ; he agreed that they were wrestling but he didn’t touch her butt. Now, 6 years later they have a better relationship, but I am still leary about what happened. This is causing us not to get married. I believe that my daughter is telling the truth. I love this man and I want to marry him but I don’t want my daughter, my mom or my sister to hate me. They of course no longer wrestle but I can’t seem to let what happened in the past go and nor can my mother or my sister. Mother likes him alot but she also holds on to the incident because she was molested by her step father when she was a child. My sister does not care for him because of the incident as well. He says he didn’t do anything and wants to marry me because he loves me and the kids. He admits that he shouldn’t have been wrestling with her to begin with. He feels that if we can’t get past this issue after 7 years then we should make a decision to go our separate ways. What do i do?

Confused Mom/Fiance

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TheJDevil 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (3 minutes after post)

uh they were wrestling so its kind of likely that he mightve unintentionally touched her butt or that her butt hit something and she thought it was her hand.

if your daughter is cool with it, go for it.

Help me with: im in a childcare class and i have to make a language arts lesson plan for a group of two and a half year olds.

browncreation 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (14 minutes after post)

You know, I think that maybe you should go to a health food store and see if there is something healthier for your dad to try. I hear that Mangosteen is excellent for cholesterol. But yes I would definitely keep him away from that grapefruit if it causes a reaction to the medication that he is taking.

TheJDevil 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (17 minutes after post)

haha thanks but this isnt my post.

Help me with: im in a childcare class and i have to make a language arts lesson plan for a group of two and a half year olds.

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HELP!!!!!
I have a daughter who is now 16 years of age and a son who is 10 years of age. I have been engaged to a man for the past 6 years. My daughter told me that she and my fiance and were wrestling and he touched her butt ; he agreed that they were wrestling but he didn’t touch her butt. Now, 6 years later they have a better relationship, but I am still leary about what happened. This is causing us not to get married. I believe that my daughter is telling the truth. I love this man and I want to marry him but I don’t want my daughter, my mom or my sister to hate me. They of course no longer wrestle but I can’t seem to let what happened in the past go and nor can my mother or my sister. Mother likes him alot but she also holds on to the incident because she was molested by her step father when she was a child. My sister does not care for him because of the incident as well. He says he didn’t do anything and wants to marry me because he loves me and the kids. He admits that he shouldn’t have been wrestling with her to begin with. He feels that if we can’t get past this issue after 7 years then we should make a decision to go our separate ways. What do i do?

Confused Mom/Fiance

vandawn 5 #
US | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 29 minutes after post)

Wow! It happened how long ago? Have you talked to your daughter? Would she tell you the truth if anything else has happened since then? Has he done anything since then?

If you love him and your daughter is fine with it and NOTHING else happened and you are absolutely positive of that, then go for it. Tell your mom and your sister to mind their own business.

I think your fiance is right about going your separate ways if you can’t get past this, especially if he didn’t do anything to begin with. It sounds as though he may be tired of it, he stated that he shouldn’t have wrestled with her, I think you need to talk to your daughter to find out where she stands.

Good Luck to you, Confused!

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