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I’m so worried

one of my friends self harmed last night, i only realised today.. but not from her i just worked out what was going on, she has self harmed in the past, but she only told me about a week ago, i think she did that becuase she knew she wasn’t coping well . she is 3 years older then me so i find it hard to talk to her often aobut hings becuase of the age gap. when i was talking to her last night she was upset and she told me that she was angry with herself and that she had made wrong decisions, about dumping a guy, i know that this must not be the only thing wrong becuase she is a much stronger. she promised yesterday that is she was ever upset she would tell me, and i know already sh’s gone back on this already im not angry with her, im just worried she hasn’t been on msn .. nd i should be seeing her tomorow and the next day .. but i need to discus this with her its important to me that she is happy as she is one of my best friends . i know that she won’t of told her family, she’s not that sort of a person . and i can’t let her do this to herself i just can’t sit here and do nothing, i have to help her but how? i don’t want to make her angry with me or make her worse of feel pressured or that people are annoyed or against her , but she needs to stop this i jus can’t watch anther one of my friends do this to themselfs , it relay tears me apart.
i’m just so worried aobut her
how can i help her?

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In-The-Making 6 #
Muranów, 67, PL | 1 year, 11 months ago (22 minutes after post)

Give her space, but be sure to be there for her when she asks for it ( which might not happen, actually), so it wouldn’t hurt to bring it up first, gently.
Encourage her to find something to replace self harm with, that isn’t as dangerous.
Don’t focus just on the injury itself, because that isn’t the real problem. The problem is the issue that makes her want to self harm.
Don’t expect change to happen quickly; and don’t hold on to any expectation that your friend can stop self-harming just because you want her to. She needs to want it too, its the first step to recovery.Find her a reason to stop.
Tell her it’s ok to FEEL.People who self-harm are purposely blocking emotions, as a defense mechanism, and it’s not easy to leave it once you started.
Don’t be critical, it will help her feel loved , instead of making her hate herself even more.But still be honest with her.
Don’t blame her, respect her right to do it, therefore don’t make her promise to stop.

And above all.. just listen when she needs it.

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Give her space, but be sure to be there for her when she asks for it ( which might not happen, actually), so it wouldn't hurt to bring it up first, gently. Encourage her to find something to replace self harm with, that isn't as dangerous. Don't focus just on the injury itself, because that isn't the real problem. The problem is the issue that makes her want to self harm. Don't expect change to happen quickly; and don't hold on to any expectation that your friend can stop self-harming just because you want her to. She needs to want it too, its the first step to recovery.Find her a reason to stop. Tell her it's ok to FEEL.People who self-harm are purposely blocking emotions, as a defense mechanism, and it's not easy to leave it once you started. Don't be critical, it will help her feel loved , instead of making her hate herself even more.But still be honest with her. Don't blame her, respect her right to do it, therefore don't make her promise to stop. And above all.. just listen when she needs it.

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Muranów, 67, PL | 1 year, 11 months ago (24 minutes after post)

I hope I made sense :P

I hope I made sense :P

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (1 hour, 25 minutes after post)

Lisen to Summer. That was good advice.

Lisen to Summer. That was good advice.

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Itchen, M4, GB | 1 year, 11 months ago (3 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Thankyou Lots!
i will do my best!!

Thankyou Lots! i will do my best!!

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Guildford, B3, GB | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 week after post)

i am also worried

i am also worried

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Itchen, M4, GB | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

martinpittaway wrote:
i am also worried

This confuses me.

[quote martinpittaway]i am also worried[/quote] This confuses me.

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Itchen, M4, GB | 1 year, 7 months ago (3 months after post)

Ehh? it is o.o?
anyway how can i close this post now?

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