Love help: I met a guy in Mexico while on vacation he is older than me be a fair few years.

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I met a guy in Mexico while on vacation he is older than me be a fair few years.

After talking for a while i decided that i would return and give this relationship a try, now a year later and im still here (in Mexico). But i dont know if im here for the right reasons. I am 20 he is 33. Am i here because i really love him or because i want to love him. I feel in my heart that i love him but some times i question it. Especially when ALL my friends back home are partying, seeing the world and well making the most of their youth. Im saving to buy a house, car, refridgerator, planning on having kids in the next 2 years. And when i feel he is talking to me like im an idiot and he shows no consideration for others feelings and responses i have to question it. But then on the flip side when i see how clever he is and funny and loving, i reassure myself.

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missmeow 0 #
GB | 1 year, 10 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Just came out of the exact same situation - in some ways its easier to stay with someone than to leave - but the fact you question your own feelings shows that you aren’t happy. You only have one life to live - accept it as part of your journey in life and get back to where your heart really lies.

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Chelita 1 #
Cancún, 23, MX | 1 year, 10 months ago (34 minutes after post)

Yeah excatly, but its finding out where it lies that seems to be the problem, and im soooooooooooo far away from home 12 hours flying to be exact!

snowflake048 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (49 minutes after post)

why don’t you talk to him? tell him that you miss home…if he’s as loving and caring as you say he’ll be able to help you find a solution.

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Chelita 1 #
Cancún, 23, MX | 1 year, 10 months ago (52 minutes after post)

Yeah but then he goes through this “Your going to leave me, i knew i wasnt good enough for you, i cant stop you from going” drama, his an actor!!

n1lko 1 #
Coventry, RI, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 32 minutes after post)

I know it is hard, but leave. Don’t give up your freedoms already, and especially not to an older man. I can guarantee that he will treat you like crap/take advantage of you, say goodbye before it is too late.

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Felicity 8 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 day, 3 hours after post)

It may not seem like a big deal,the times when he belittles you but trust me,its a big problem and if u think he’s gonna change Forget it.it can only lead to bigger problems.Everytime some one puts us down it takes something away.And it WILL affect the kids ,they will have on respect for you.We teach people how we want to be treatedDont allow s one to take part of your soul.I know what I’m talking about.I won’t tell u to get out,the choice u make has to be yours.If u do decide to stay,Tell him he is taking a part of you that you and your children need.Then hope and pray.If you decide to stay for convenience reasons,money,situations etc. those are just excuses.Ignore those thoughts.Save YOur soul .You are worth it.

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snowflake048 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (2 days, 16 hours after post)

Chelita wrote:
Yeah but then he goes through this “Your going to leave me, i knew i wasnt good enough for you, i cant stop you from going” drama, his an actor!!

tell him to stop it, he knows better. the more you let him wallow in that, the worse it’ll get. ask him if he’d consider coming with you.

the love of your life won’t hold you back

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elizabeth_k 0 #
Louisville, KY, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 week, 2 days after post)

RUN!!!!! Chelita!!!! RUN!!!!

I think that sunshine and tequila has gotten to your head.

The age difference has NOTHING to do with this. It’s only 13 years…so what!

You are far too young to be “trapped” . We save that predicament for our 30’s and 40’s.

Stay only if you love him…truly love him, not because he manipulates you into loving him. You have stars in your eyes from both the possibility of losing your youth to this man and to your friends who ae ‘using-up-their-days’ with fun.
Be real…I know this is the hardest thing a woman can ever do, but do it before you involve children. It simply isn’t fair to involve them in your days-of-drama.

It seems as though you already have doubts. Take a break, go home for a couple of weeks and see if you can live without him. If so, stay home. If not go get your Yacatan honey!

magic.2 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 3 months ago (7 months after post)

babe your gorgous.. he jus dnt know how us brits like it! im coming to mexico in november 2 08.. rui cancun.. ask 4 me and il show u a good time .. wink wink , ian x mwah

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