hurt help: i think people are too worked up about other peoples lives. - Help.com

your rite they need to leave them all to there own lifes and take care of theres

I have found that the best way for me to learn is to teach another. I myself am going through a very rough time right now. Its easy to get lost in my own sea of misery, if I allowed myself to do so.

When Im here helping others, or even elsewhere doing the same, it helps me deal with my own life at the same time. The advise I give others is to help them, but in turn, It helps me see things more clearly in my own life as well.

I was fired from my job of 8 years less than a week before christmas. I wasnt fired because I did anything wrong. I was fired because I refused to involve myself in the illegal activity they took part in. Ive only been in this town since August. No friends here, no connections. My wife picked up extra hours at her job to help. Im behind on my bills, to include child support. I could go on but theres honestly no point.

I have a great resume, good references from the company I was fired from. I transfered to this area so I have friends still in that company. Im reporting thier illegal activity to VP. Ive met this man. He is an honorable person and should have the opportunity to fix it without getting the law involved. If he choosese that route, thats on him. Ive spoken with my sons mother, and she is awesome! The money will come, she is not withholding my ability to be there for my son.

Ive heard too often of people losing jobs and not being able to find work. “There are jobs out there. Do what you have to do keep from going crazy, to provide some income for your family. In most areas Ive been in there is an unemployment rate. Theres also a lot of companies hiring for different work. Find a job, but dont stop looking for more career oriented goals.” Ive given that advise dozens of times. Here and elsewhere. I finally understand what they meant. I took a job serving in a restaurant. I hate serving, Im good at it, but I hate it. I had to swallow my pride and just do it. I dont expect to be happy doing it, but Im thankful for the opportunity to make rent. :-)Im also continuing my job search, I havent given up.

More to come…..

I dont put others ahead of me, I keep them next to me. Its a whole different perception when looking into someone elses problems. Its very difficult to see your own life with that kind of clarity, but it is possible.

Help others when you can. Feel good doing it, its OK. But dont forget to hear your own words.

Im not thankful I lost my job. Im thankful I have the opportunity to find new work. The only way I can see this is not to look at the past. Not to look at at what I did for that company over 8 years. Its also not possible to look at how bleak the future could be. I am thankful because right here, right now, I have much to be thankful for……..I have a comfortable home, I have understanding family, Im healthy, I have food in my fridge……..The point is, there is much people take forgranted. If you have ever broken a bone, you know how thankful to be not to have a broken bone.

I could go continue this rant, but its enough for now…….

I wish you well also. Great post, good conversation.