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sorry bro, your parents should spend more time and consider you a little more.

I am sorry you are in such a horrible situation. Are you still in contact with your friends from Saudi?

What things do you enjoy doing? Are there any clubs or interests you can persue that you enjoy, and make friends with?

As for school, just be yourself, and true to yourself and in time, the people worth being friends with will become, all the others are just not worth your time. People at school can be very narrow minded. Dont let them get you down.

omg i cant believe they say that too you….thats disgusting!!

im from the uk hun, and it can be so hard here…people are so cruel. but you know thats illegal for them to say that.

they cant racially discriminate you. are you even a muslim?

at least at 16 you wont be in that school for very long. you can go to college when you leave and start again where there will be more mature people,

everyone will be in the same situation, starting a fresh. not a lot of people will already know each other. so it will be a better situation.

come to the midlands where i live! you can be my friend lol :)

Sometimes, nearly whole schools are made up of a single type of community, and if that community is the type that won’t ever accept you, you’ve got to make friends elsewhere. My suggestion, if there is no way that you can find common ground with anyone at school, after school go a mall or someplace where you can meet people from other schools and build a social life outside of school.
Also, Raver.Barbie’s right - you’re 16 so you are almost at college age. At college you’ll meet new people, it’s not that far away.

Good luck to you.

ah that blows.
i’m sorry, it must be tough.
i know what it’s like to be friendless though…and it hurts. it really does.
all i know how to do is talk to people, and if that doens’t work, i dunno what to tell you.
goodluck ♥

Okay, first things first: While it would be nice if your parents took your concerns into consideration more, they aren’t at the moment. I know you don’t want to, but the best thing would be to talk to your parents. Otherwise, try to seek out a school guidance counselor. He/she would be more than willing to help you, I’m sure. Just try to make the best of a bad situation; keep looking at the brighter side instead of mourning over the miserable one, as hard as it can be.

In any case, I can understand how hurtful your situation is. People reject you because of “racial profiling.” They are wrong for labeling you and others of that ethnicity like that. But then again, people are afraid of the “unknown.” My best shot is try to smile and be friendly, as that is what attracts people to others (not sexually; you know what I mean…). It may be difficult, but if you be outgoing and fun, the issue of your race may diminish, and people will accept and like you for who you are. Who knows? You may break the barriers of their narrow-minded ways and make them more tolerant of other races and creeds which they otherwise deem “different,” “strange,” or “abnormal.” –And all just by being their friends!

ThatPersonOverThere wrote:
ah~ u guyz ,Thnx alot for all the encouragement and stuff~
i really appreciate everything u said , and i’ll put them in deep consideration.
all i need u ppl to do now is keep wishing evrything goes well for me~ (^_^)
for some odd reason , i feel rly better now lol
again , thnxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

well you got us!! your never alone hun. chin up! xx

i believe you, the only reason we only hear about terrorists is because it makes good gossip on the news…we dont get to hear about all the good things. and terrorists are a small organisation of people, compared to the rest of the arab/asian, europe! uk! america!…white people can be terrorists too you know.

in the london bombings a couple of years ago there were TWO white people.

so i think discrimination is wrong.

well done for standing up for yourself, i hope you can do it at school to as you dont deserve what you are being put through

Where in London are you if you don’t mind me asking? I don’t know how much you are allowed out to socialise but I know you can find a load of middle eastern kids somewhere near, or American kids, or people who aren’t going to be racist arseholes to you - grrrr! I never understood in London how people brought up in the most cosmopolitan place on Earth could still be prejudice.

I grew up in London and moved to the US when I was 30, so a bit different I know, like it being my own choice. Even though when I moved I was friendly with people from my work, the first six months I was so, so lonely. It wasn’t just about hanging out with people less, but not having that ’shared consiousness’ you get with friends, where you can say one word or phrase and everybody laughs or cries without you having to explain a thing. I was lucky in that I somehow bumped into a few common souls and seven years later they are still my best friends, one’s even my husband and I swore up and down I would only stay here for two years. Although when I say ’somehow bumped’ I mean I accepted an invitation from a co-worker to go for drinks for her birthday and found my husband. I didn’t actually get on that well with the co-worker but I remember siting at home telling myself I just had to go to everything I was invited to.

I guess looking back I was the sort of the same way at college when I was 16. I had some good friends but it wasn’t until I met the ones that were right for my that my life exploded. I know it’s so easy for me to say but you will eventually find your niche group again, you’ve just got to get up and out there doing anything and everything. Answer an ad in Loot to join a band.

Aren’t there any activities you can do outside of school? Martial Arts, I think would be great? What about training? You don’t necessarily need to have alot of friends. I know you have to have at least one? Him/Her makes no diff, as them if they like to run, go do something, who freaking cares about what you look like, its wit and character that makes a person, although hand to hand combat is pretty effective also for those bastards that like to talk crap :-) Don’t dwell on the past dude, thats long gone, well at least for now since your to freaking young to do anything about it, maybe when you finish college with a degree, you can go wherever the hell you want, its way to freaking early to feel all down over worthless people don’t you think… I had lots of friends in school but they weren’t really people I can call “real” friends. I didn’t hang out with them that much, I was somewhat of a loner, but since I played football, I did hang out with that crowd. Still I didn’t quite relate to them, I just trained all the time, working out at home you know. Eventually I found breakdancing lol and a whole new fun crowd to hang out with. I think that you should find something you love and do that, and if you really love it, other’s with the same passion will be attracted to you and you might meet some interesting people. Stop worrying about that whole, are you a terrorist, or are you rich crap, be witty about it lol You feel lonely now but that won’t last forever, find something you like to do on your off-time, I reccomend weight-training, to keep your mind off of being “lonely”, you know, find something fun to do also, maybe learn to dance something, or sculpt, or whatever is “in” right now, I think free-running is pretty cool? Well I wish the best for you, keep your head up, FIGHT ON!

eleanor.robert wrote:
Where in London are you if you don’t mind me asking? I don’t know how much you are allowed out to socialise but I know you can find a load of middle eastern kids somewhere near, or American kids, or people who aren’t going to be racist arseholes to you - grrrr! I never understood in London how people brought up in the most cosmopolitan place on Earth could still be prejudice.

just to let you know, ‘white’ or ‘english’ people can be non prejudice aswell. im not :)

Well you know in the UK you can hang out in bars from when you’re 16!!

Only on a sunday between 12-4pm….

you cant hang out in bars till your 18 lol and i should know

You can hang out in a bar by yourself from aged 14! It’s up to the person who owns it if they let you in or not. Just can’t buy your own alcohol until you’re 18.

Not true.

From the age of 14, you are aloud to go up to the bar with your parent or guardian, but it is illegal to even have ’shandy’. And this is up to the person who owns the bar/pub then. but no one below this age may do so.

From the age of 16, if you are in a ‘family pub’ not a ‘bar’ you are aloud to be brought by your legal guardian, one small glass of wine or half a pint. but no spirits, and you have to be having a main course meal.

From the age of 18, there are no limits. We can go wherever.

Ha, ha, I’m totally drawn into this p***** contest:

Licensing Act 1964: 14 and over: may be in the bar of licensed premises during permitted hours at licensee’s discretion

and I’m from London and believe me, we studied those laws well!

Right. Now that i would laugh at…i can just imagine livin it large in a bar on a saturday night and a 14year old walks in lmao.

time waster.

goodbye

We start young in Hounslow

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