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The Basic Needs In A Relationship

Describe what you picture as the most need fulfilling to you for each of the five needs. Concentrate on how important each need is for you.

1. Survival (Hormonal Sexuality, Risk Taking, Money Matters, Security, Safety)

2. Love and Belonging (Love, Affection, Intimacy, Family Relationships, Friends, Membership)

3. Power (Achievement, Accomplishments, Control, Competition, Pride, Influence, Importance, Who Listens To Us)

4. Freedom (Movement, Mobility, Independence, Decisiveness, Many Choices, Creativeness, Fearlessness)

5. Fun (Laughter, Learning, Activities, Hobbies, Amusements, Games, Sense Of Humour)

Seven Caring Habits
1. Listening

2. Encouraging

3. Supporting

4. Respecting

5. Accepting

6. Trusting

7. Negotiating difference

The Seven Deadlies
1.Criticising

2. Blaming

3. Complaining

4. Nagging

5. Threatening

6. Punishing

7. Bribes or rewarding control

…. My shrink gave me this thingy, figured it’d be of some use to some of you. Also, if you eat pot noodles while really hungry, you’re gonna get pot noodle on your face… fact

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ɐʇɐɯɹǝɟ.Suc 5 #
Luton, I1, GB | 1 year, 10 months ago (3 minutes after post)

there were fireworks, and it wasn’t the 5th of november

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ɐʇɐɯɹǝɟ.Suc 5 #
Luton, I1, GB | 1 year, 10 months ago (35 minutes after post)

Where’s the 6th caring habit

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 1 year, 10 months ago (42 minutes after post)

lol oops

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The Basic Needs In A Relationship

Describe what you picture as the most need fulfilling to you for each of the five needs. Concentrate on how important each need is for you.

1. Survival (Hormonal Sexuality, Risk Taking, Money Matters, Security, Safety)

2. Love and Belonging (Love, Affection, Intimacy, Family Relationships, Friends, Membership)

3. Power (Achievement, Accomplishments, Control, Competition, Pride, Influence, Importance, Who Listens To Us)

4. Freedom (Movement, Mobility, Independence, Decisiveness, Many Choices, Creativeness, Fearlessness)

5. Fun (Laughter, Learning, Activities, Hobbies, Amusements, Games, Sense Of Humour)

Seven Caring Habits
1. Listening

2. Encouraging

3. Supporting

4. Respecting

5. Accepting

7. Negotiating difference

The Seven Deadlies
1.Criticising

2. Blaming

3. Complaining

4. Nagging

5. Threatening

6. Punishing

7. Bribes or rewarding control

…. My shrink gave me this thingy, figured it’d be of some use to some of you. Also, if you eat pot noodles while really hungry, you’re gonna get pot noodle on your face… fact

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tanya2731 1 #
Greensboro, NC, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

thats intersting….i think fredoms more powereful:)
im sure everyone wants to hav freedom and be free..
sometimes i wanna be free from my house..so..lol
idk…i just think thats special:)

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

for now the most important is Fun
number one caring habit is negotiating difference
deadly one is blaming.

but still i go for the fireworks. lol

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

Hehe

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ScreaminglyWonderful 12 #
Wilmington, NC, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 52 minutes after post)

What does it mean if I am confused my the first sentence? Never mind, don’t tell me, if I am crazy I don’t want to know. lol

All five of those top things are important to me. Do I have to pick just one? I am also guilty of the 14 habits below…. ugh….* crawls into bed and pulls covers over head*

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 54 minutes after post)

hehe, well it’s really just to identify what is important to you in a relationship, idealy you’d want to end up with someone who finds those things important too.

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ScreaminglyWonderful 12 #
Wilmington, NC, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 58 minutes after post)

ohhhhhhh…… lol, okay I feel better. ty for sharing.

Okay then, I like to feel loved (cared for), and I like to laugh, I like to have se* and I also like to have money sooooo hmmmm. I want it all dam^ it.

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 1 year, 10 months ago (2 hours, 19 minutes after post)

lol who doesn’t

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alishahazennapu 1 #
Monroe, NY, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (2 hours, 20 minutes after post)

haha I agree with screaminlywonderful

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 1 year, 10 months ago (2 hours, 33 minutes after post)

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Dan TL 1 #
La Mirada, CA, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (5 hours, 11 minutes after post)

Thats hard. I’ve never hade a relationship before.

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 1 year, 10 months ago (5 hours, 13 minutes after post)

It’s just a case of identifying what’s important to you

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fletcher 1 #
AU | 1 year, 10 months ago (6 hours, 31 minutes after post)

Hehe, iSpud..

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 1 year, 10 months ago (6 hours, 58 minutes after post)

hehehe

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Nensix 1 #
Nottingham, J8, GB | 1 year, 10 months ago (20 hours, 34 minutes after post)

Love and belonging and fun are my two priorities, but I would say my boyfriend probably cares more about freedom and power!

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Sully 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 day after post)

Freedom. If you are free, you will have fun, which generates love and belonging. As others see your love and belonging they see you as wiser then them selves. This gives you power. With greater power comes grater survivability.

When you truly listen to someone, you begin to accept them, which generates respect. With a respect for someone comes the natural ability to support there decisions. Mutual support generates trust. When you truly trust someone, negotiating differences is easy and hardly ever necessary.

Criticism should be given honestly and accepted as intended. Blaming is only necessary to determine whom to criticize. Complaining is a form of nagging and should be stopped before it becomes threatening. Be wherry of rewarding as the absence of the reword becomes a punishment.

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 day, 2 hours after post)

Nicely put.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 day, 6 hours after post)

The most important thing for me is : freedom .

the habit is : accepting .

the dealy is : complaining .

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Tennyson 1 #
Los Angeles, CA, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

Try eating the noodles with your hands. Facial noodling can thus be avoided.

Tennyson 1 #
Los Angeles, CA, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

So I guess what I’m saying here, is that eating pot noodles whilst hungry does not guarantee face noodlage.

Tennyson 1 #
Los Angeles, CA, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

Ergo, no. Not a fact, although I can see how one might beget the other.

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 week, 2 days after post)

lol, if you can eat a pot-noodle while really hungry and get none on your face, I’ll eat my hat!

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Tennyson 1 #
Los Angeles, CA, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 week, 2 days after post)

I hope you have a delicious hat.

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Ballinteer, 07, IE | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 week, 2 days after post)

hehe, Maybe I do…

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aehtla 5 #
Nassau, 23, BS | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 week, 5 days after post)

The most important thing to me now with the relationship i am in is fun cause we are cool on basically everything else.

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countessseph 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (10 months, 2 weeks after post)

Needs:
survival
autonomy
expression
at least one close personal relationship
Virtues:
creativity
thoughtfulness
style
passion
resourcefulness
Vices:
escapism
confusion
indecision
anxiety
sloth

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Anonymous #
4 months, 2 weeks ago (1 year, 6 months after post)

The most important thing for me: Love and Belonging
habit: accepting
deadly: Blaming

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