reason help: Is it natural for human beings to fear and distrust each other? - Help.com

Some people are shitheads

i have a huge problem with trusting people.. every person i have ever trusted.. have broken that trust.. ive forgiven a few.. and those few believe i trust them now.. but i really dont.. i honestly do not trust anyone.. just because of my past

i think about things like this all the time.. i get angry with myself because i have falsely accused people.. not meaning to.. and ive ended up hurting people i care about..

a lot of people have trust issues.. im working on mine

her teacher should have apologized.. no excuses.. she sounds extremely disrespectful.. even if she does have trust issues.. she should have cared enough to apologize..

most definitely pride gets in the way of things for a lot of people.. its frustrating.. i agree.. but i believe we all go through it at some point

Yes, it is.

I know my answer , but i need to think how to put in into 500 words or less. Never been asked this before, really

short answer, its kinda like what my Grandfather told me about loans: dont loan if you cant afford to lose it.

Trust, don’t give it if you can’t survive being betrayed.

Abd your story illustrates a thing about perception. From you and your daughters point of view, this was a tragedy, a horrible accusation that deserves to be addressed…I agree

From the teahcers point of view, it was just a little mistake, a misunderstanding, and its no big deal to her…I agree

hehe, like how i cleared that up?

Hi!

Many people give promises they cannot or do not keep. While this hurts the person (the victim so to say), affected by this, it hurts the person not to keep the promise at a way larger scale.. even it does not seem like this at first. The person not to keep a certain promise (or to lie about something) most commonly does find a solution to “save the day”. But this will and cannot change the mind of the “victim”, who mistrusts the person to brake the promise… unless, the very person to brake the promise apologizes for the situation. Unless an apology or a valid (and true) excuse is presented, the person to brake the promise (or to lie) will suffer a great deal of self-trust and self-confidence. This again leads to more unkept promises or lies by that person. Bottom line is, that unfaithful individuals only doom themselves.
Again, the right thing to do is to apologize, however this works only if the apology is honest. Any psychologist will tell confirm, that the only way of cleansing a certain “act of mistrust” or “embarassing secret” or alike, is to confess whatever the situation is about and to apologize. If we think of ourselves as a “victim” of such a situation.. would we not think highly of the person, if the person were to apologize for their act? Still we may not be thinking as higly about that person, as we would about a trustful person, but we would for certain think way more highly of that person, than if that person were not to apologize.
Bottom line is, if any individual does not keep promises or keeps lying, that individual will mostly hurt itself, than any other “victim”. Such acts will only kill their self-trust, doom the person and possibly lead them into a trauma.
Every individual is responsible for their own acts and will be faced by the consequances sooner or later. It is said: “As you sow, so you shall reap”.
It is ego alone that drives humanity mad.

It’s not “natural,” but some or maybe many people have not been taught or realize fully the importance of every single human beings feelings. And some rationalize their behavior, and some just forget.
I think that most of us have grown to be like this from the time we were young because, especially as a child, the world seems a cold and harsh place. So we act accordingly. If more people were taught from childhood that it is not like this, then we wouldn’t behave as such, instead of having to unlearn it all our life. Thats what I think

Ego, you’ve got one, I’ve got one… everyone’s got an ego. What function does the ego serve? Primarily that of protection. The ego is there to protect you from yourself, and from others. The only problem is that ego does not function with any form of reason. If someone insults you, your ego is ready to step up to the plate and make you into the Mr. Hyde you always wanted to be. It’s very ‘natural’ for the ego to act in such a way. Our spiritual goal in life is to not get rid of the ego, because that for certain would be folly, but to know the ego… to know the Mr. Hyde inside your Dr. Jekyle and control it.
Bright blessings ~ Richard

Yes Richard, you are totally right about that.
We are born egoists and the most important thing is to master how (and what for) we use our egoism. :)

Richard is right, and there is nothing we can do about other people, we just have to live and learn from them.

That is true Dragonlady. There is nothing we can do about other people, other than being examples to them (which all of us are in one way or the other).