life help: There are many roads a person can travel. - Help.com

Dear Muzikfr88,

We live in a society where people tell us what to do. Where people tell us what is right and what is wrong. These people are our closest, even beloved people most of the time. Our family, best friends, teachers, even unknown persona like tv and various media. I am not saying, those people do this because they do not like or even love and care about us. They most likely do not know what they are doing and only mean to be good. But, wherever you look you see and hear what others think is best or worst for you… although is it not us to decide about ourselves?
We must do what we love most. No matter what it is. Many of my students study things and make desicions about things, just because they hear all the time “how good it is”. An individual, that studies something, because it has been told, it is the best thing to do, even if that individual really does not like it, usually finds itself spending the rest of its life doing that certain thing… but never really feels happy , thus cannot possibly become really successful with it. We can only find joy in those things that we love. If we do those things, happiness, fulfillment and success will follow naturally, no matter what it is we do. We must find things that resonate with us, otherwise we cannot possibly become happy in life.
If you take a look at todays society, you will find that people tell others what to do and what to do not. People, trying to change what outside of them. In turn, those people affecterd by this act like they really do not feel, are not, because they believe they should be that person that others believe they should be. Bottom line is, society gets confused, people go mad and all sorts of things follow.
We must find ourselves and be ourselves. Only then things will become clear and we will lead a fulfilling life.
You are totally right about saying “there are many roads a person can travel”. It is totally up tp every single individual to make the choice. And those choices never cease. We even have to make many decisions when we go to the supermarket to shop for dinner. the only way of making the right decisions is by trusting our own hears and souls. Trusting others leads to suffering. There is an Indian saying.. it goes something like “Do not follow me, I might not be your leader. Do not show me the way, you might not be my leader.”
so it all comes up to the choices we make for ourselves…. we also may decide to give in to others.. But how can we become ourselves if we give in to others? How can we be free?
Only ourselves can know what is right for us and if we follow that inner voice speaking to us, we may find ourselves.

“Road Not Taken” by Robert Frost

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that, the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
two roads diverged in a wood, and I –
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

true, sometimes it isnt fair.