Sometimes you need a break. A space where you can figure out what you want to do. For some dreams, it gets too late.. but not all of them. Give yourself sometime to realize what your actually missing. What you can do about it. Maybe reigniting the thought of an old dream you never fulfilled. Everyone feels like your feeling every now and then. The biggest thing is to believe in yourself and never to give up. As long as you have a goal in life, age doesn’t matter. Just follow your goal and you will never be depressed.
Well Rabbit. Let me just say Good Job on NOT giving up. You have hope somewhere inside you. That helps keep you alive. I have days where I just feel kind of lost or in my own dark place. Remember your talents music, probably a good listener, you are there for those who may or may not call because they need something. Maybe you are their constant and it is often hard to see that. Think about what does make you happy or tick inside. Think about what elements of those good things that gives you that good/happy feeling.Think about what interests you that you have not explored or tried before, and research those things and take it from there. Remember to love yourself and give yourself a special time and place just for you to reflect uninterupted.You have made it this far in life so give yourself a bit of credit. Believe in you and don’t ever let anyone or anything get in the way of those hopes and dreams you have inside you.This time of year is often hard for people and take one day at a time.
rabbit.. let me start off by telling you that you are a great person with a huge heart… that is awesome… so please.. keep trucking on… give life the best that you have… and from what i see… you are doing just that… so.. dont give up.. lots of hugs..
First of, while you may not know it, people do appreciate what you do for them. They may not express it all the time, but the appreciation is definitely there. Don’t worry about that.
Next: don’t feel like it’s too late. It’s never too late to rekindle old relationships. Maybe the reason why people only ask you for favors nowadays is because they want to respect your busy schedule, and only wish to bother you with important things. If you feel the way you do, speak to them, and explain to them what you’ve expressed here. If that sounds too direct, then the next time someone calls for a favor, strike up a conversation, and at the end, proceed to ask if they’d like to spend some time with you one of these days. It may not come quickly, but eventually people will get the message.
Good luck! I hope this helps…
But, I don’t feel like I have anyone to lean on. They are either kids I deal with who I can’t lean on like that, or friends who have their own kids and are too busy.
I’m just feeling so alone today. I tell my friends all the time, i need them too. It happens occasionally, and I’m trying to make all these changes, I really need them right now. And its like they have a life, and I’m part of it, but I have nothing without them.
well, i know that im just a cyber friend.. but im here for you… and although im a big kid at heart… im an adult who will listen and you can lean on me..
Thanks. I really feel that life, the universe, whatever, is forcing me to face myself and my own choices rather than always get my self esteem and love from others. But, I really just want support right now too. Its like, all I want is the opportunity to spend time with loved ones, be of help, but also to feel their support and love, and it does happen, its just these last few days, being on medication, dropping alochol out of my life, wanting to work out, feel good, eat right, date and have some fricken romance back in my life…..I just get really impatient and untrustful. I know that that doesn’t help me, I need to be patient and trusting, I just need some flow, some action, and I know I have to take it, but….i just want to snap my fingers and stop feeling this way, take the compliments I have gotten recently, the closeness I did experience, and trust it is still there even on the days it doesn’t feel like, but have a life, and things to do. Augh. ranting, expressing, thanking you for listening.
patience is the issue here… i believe that what is going on is the test… you having to get rid of all the bad in your life to finally find yourself… and this brings you back to that low point in life.. so that you can start new… to start that climb up as a new person… i think that once you find your true self… with out the alcohol and other stuff.. you will see that things will start getting better in your life…
Yeah. Finding the climb hard today, and simply feel sad and alone. Guess i have to deal and trust tomorrow is another day.
lol.. i know that all too well… trust me…..
well, thanks, g2g for now, just really feeling low, and a little exhausted from some of the situations here and in life, and yet, I am glad for all the lessons, and I hope that everyone is working through too. Thanks lil_bit_shi.
you are welcome rabbit.. friends always… ~tammy~
honey,all the answers are inside of you.and you know that you have the knowledge in your head.I do ,we all do,deny ourselves happiness.Maybe you’re trying to hard to be something you’re not.my personal EX;After reading every self-help book i could get my hands on,I moved to ’success ‘literature.I couldn’t figure out how to implement that for myself.When I came to the realization that I’m just not that kind of person’ It’s just not in me’ to be a risk taker.,travel,and be around lots of people,and the time that may be taken away from my family.hence;I was trying to become ?successful,rich,? Now after accepting myself as i am.I’m happy with me.(I learned a lot in the process though.)If this isnt the case 4 you ,thats fine.You know your self You are not a loser.Now stop that talk and use your own advice,and do what feels right for you.With that said,Did you read my new post’my child’? I think u need it now.With all good intentions,truly Kim your friend and fan
You know, the funny thing is, you’ll have succeeded when you still feel this way, but it’s normal for you. The details you can handle along the way, but it’s getting up each day and making the trip that defines you.
‘Course, that’s a two-edged sword, but that’s another issue.
Sorry, not feeling very smart today. Could you elaborate a little on when I succeed I still feel that way, thats normal, and what you think the double edged sword is.
Thanks for taking the time to comment at all, if you have time, would just like a little more detail.
Peace.
When the feelings you’re having are part of everyday life for you, you’ll pretty much have succeeded in what you’re going for, and a lot of other things too.
Something that a lot of people want to shy away from is how much work life really takes. It’s kind of like Rocky. You get a once in a lifetime shot, (that being life) and you have to choose if you’re willing to put in the work to take it seriously. Mentally preparing is hard, physically preparing is harder, and actually climbing into the ring can be the hardest or easiest part of the whole thing. But if it’s worth it, it’s worth it.
Further, what happens if you don’t take the shot? You are defined by that choice, just as much as if you had chosen the opposite. A “common” life is not something a person is born into, but something they choose. You can choose to sit on your butt, watch Opera and eat bon-bons all your life, or you can choose to go into the ring with Apollo. One choice pays off now, or seems like it does, the other almost seems like it never pays off. However, the people kicking back watching the TV are looking at the lives of people who decided to get into the ring, so I’d say that one path is better than the other.
Wow. Thank you Mako for taking the time to say that. Awesome. I am selling my tv, seriously, I’ve been thinking about it for awhile. I know your not meaning that literally, but you really hit the nail on the head there.
The four agreements says, “sinning” against yourself and being afraid to live is sitting in front of the tv all day not willing to take a risk.
I will think on what you have said here, and more importantly take action on it.
Peace.
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so glad that you got a little bit of an outlook there rabbit… how great is that… yay….
but.. maybe instead of selling your tv.. disipline yourself hun… just like a kid… only allow yourself to watch it at certain times…
yeah, tried that, but your right, i also could use the cash tho!!!
Yeah, selling the **** thing is a good plan. You’d be amazed at the difference it’ll make in how you see the world. Besides, it’s easier to find yourself when you’ve got fewer voices in your head. (Totally serious.)
I will of course always recommend a perusal of the scriptures starting with Proverbs, since that’s where I went when I needed to make a change. And that was only about a year ago, so it must’ve worked.
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