marriage help: I’m in dire straights…my husband lost his job and we have 3 children to take care of. - Help.com

How’s your credit? Can you apply for a loan? How old are your children?

Was he just kicked out on the spot, or was he laid off? Did he get a severance package or anything? Any notice?

I guess those questions aren’t all that relevant. What do you mean by “straighten things out”? Has your husband applied for unemployment in the interim while he looks for another job?

Any lead as to why he was fired? Employment-at-will is an incredible pain in the rear end, so I understand if not.

But if I’m understanding you correctly, his company his fighting to prevent giving him any unemployment after firing him in the first place? Jesus.

You need to preserve your funds as best as you can. Take extra efforts to cut down your utilities and the like. Turn off your heat at night. Skip showers if you can. Never eat out. Browse this article for some other ideas.

If all else fails, have him get any job until the unemployment dispute settles—even if it’s at a fast food joint. Any income is better than no income.

I’m sorry that these times are so difficult for you. I wish I could be more specific to your scenario, but I guess I don’t know as much as I’d like about what has gone on. I hope that I haven’t been entirely useless.

Im from the UK so I don’t know how things work there, so ignore me of anything is wrong.
but the best thing I can say is you get an extra job just to make ends meet. try local shop for a few hours a week or a satuday type job until they sort your husbands unemployment out and hopefully it wont affect it as much, but it might get you through.
Check the legal things about you earning first though.
Also check local sevices and charities to see if there is a form of crisis loan you can get until this is all sorted or free advice or help. I know its a long shot but you have a family to look after you should be due to something.

Good luck I hope it works out soon

Vicki

leonari2 wrote:
going through chemo makes me so sick i can barely get out of bed. if i could get a job i would trust me i want one. and my hubby is doing all he can to get one as well.

This isn’t totally related, but drink water every chance that you get—and I mean every chance that you get. My mother had breast cancer and underwent several sessions of chemo, and her blood count would peak to its normal stage within 2 or 3 weeks of each treatment. She was almost rarely ever in bed apart from a few occasions here and there. It astonished the doctors, and all of us, to say the least.

She has been in remission for 8 years now.

Hope is always there, regardless of its apparent lack of existence. I’ve never veered away from that notion. I’m sorry if I sound like I’m throwing empty words.

Keep in touch.

If he can sell I can offer him a commision based job selling brazillian property… other than tha i wish ther was more. have you tried catholic charitys?

John Miller

Im like you. I dont know what to do ether. I,ve sent e-mails to cogress, the president,and any where else I can think of. All you can do is pray and hope that someone out there will take note. Check and see if there is a community action program in your erea. OCAP. If there is they can help with light and heat bills.

NO, It hasnt got any better.House payment is 3 months behind today,lights 2 months behind, will be cut off the 5th, water may go another month. Good news is we havent had to go hungry yet, maybe things will pick up soon. Keep up your faith.