friends help: My friends are upset with me because of something that I didn’t do. - Help.com

I cleaned up your AOL speak. You really ought to type so that other people can read your posts—not just yourself.

Anyway, tell us what happened. Give us the details.

You’re still being unclear. You could have done anything from playfully calling someone an idiot to flat out lying and taking advantage of them.

Whatever it is that has happened, I think it’s up to you to decide whether you would stay friends with yourself, after doing whatever it is that you did. Don’t beg for them to see what change that you’ve done; they won’t appreciate how quickly you are appearing to forget whatever it is that happened.

Well, did you apologize?

And I mean sincerely: Did you apologize? An empty “sorry” doesn’t count. If you are willing to make things better, then you need to admit that what you did was wrong without getting into a fuss over it.

in my experience, if you offer an apology and can’t understand why they don’t accept it right away, then it’s not a sincere apology. understanding what you’ve done makes you understand how they feel.

if you’ve done something that bad, and you don’t feel they have a right to be upset even after you apologise, then maybe you need to consider your actions some more.

if you don’t think what you did was that bad, and feel that they’re being unreasonable for not accepting your apology, then maybe it’s time to find friends who have the same ideas as you about what is and isn’t acceptable.

the only way to show change is through time and actually changing no one will believe a change has been made unless it really starts to show over days and weeks

Forget about them & try to make new friends

loopylaura922 wrote:
basically ive taken advantage of thm caring for me and ive tried all i can but there avin non of it and said thy need tym 2 think but wht av thy got to think about???

sounds like you lost their trust… trust is a huge thing to lose in any relationship and always the hardest thing to get back… you have to just show them by being the new you… eventually they will see that you have changed and are trying to be more conciderate.. goodluck.