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if he was really trying and he really wanted to be with me then wouldnt he want to spend time with me?

i mean he always says he screwed up and wants me back but everytime he has money instead of coming to visist me (he lives 200 miles away) he goes on ski trips with his friends, he has gone on ski trips the past 6 weekends each one costs him about 300bucks (gas, hotel, lifts, food) but the gas to come see me costs him 60 bucks. he invites me but i dont have to money to go so i cant and he still goes i mean if he REALLY cared wouldnt he wanna be with me even if its not super fun? I know he wants to have fun but if he loved me then would it be atleast a little fun to be with me? plus when he is with his friends im lucky if get so much as 3 texts a day!

i know he is not cheating i have friends that live there. he says he just gets busy with his friends and he thinks its rude to be on the phone, but he lives with his friends so….? IDK

being with him makes me happy! and i do have friends but they all have boyfriends who like to spend time with them so that leaves me alone again. Ive talked with him about it but he just says im being irrational

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amberlauren2 offline Verified User (5 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 years, 4 months ago (1 minute after post)

He’s a guy, that’s all. I think they are just LIKE that, unfortunately. :/

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 years, 4 months ago (45 minutes after post)

I agree…it sounds like maybe he hasn’t gotten to the point of maturation where being with one person and living to make one other person happy is the world to him…hang in there…i bet he will see it and things will turn around…good luck sweetie.

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Gloversville, NY, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (4 hours, 8 minutes after post)

it sounds as if you are a bit jealous. long distant relationships are the hardest kind of relationship to keep.. and although he makes you happy… he does have a life where he lives… my suggestion… make a date for him to come visit.. that way.. he will already have plans for you… instead of trying to make one when he has plans with them…

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