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A boyfriend would be a band-aid to a larger problem from what it sounds like. You need to ask yourself why do you want one? Is it loneliness, is it because then you think you will be complete? If you are cutting yourself, you are harming yourself. You need to be the most important person in your world and love yourself…you are not doing this….It is time to, you deserve it. It is time to take action and get help. Check the number above or if you have health insurance contact your doctor and let them know you want to see a psychiatrist and go and get diagnosed but don’t just take meds, seek help, somewhere you can go to talk about why you do this and the pain surrounding it. It may seem like a hassle but once you allow yourself to take care of you and deal with what is surrounding this you will be able to move forward.

If you’re currently cutting, it may be hard for you to find a boyfriend who isn’t also a cutter.

What if a boyfriend would just make your life worse because then you’d be worried about constantly impressing him. Listen to the posters above and don’t try to cover up your problems with another problem.

It’s great that you found someone that you really like and want to be with. But, boyfriend or no boyfriend, you’ve still got to be happy with who you are.

That’s awesome and I hope you keep up the forward progress. Remember though that there’ll be times when he won’t be around because of school, vacation or whatever. You owe it to yourself to figure out why you started cutting in the first place and work on dealing with that. You know what? It’ll also make you a better girlfriend for your boyfriend because you’ll be happier, more self-confidant and more well adjusted to cope with life on your own. Good luck, l.

Cutting recovery requires support of all sorts. Friends, family, professionals,support groups. Believe that you yourself can recover from this with or with out a boyfriend. Dating and relationships can be a plus to help you through all of this. Stick with the support that you are getting now but seek out other support systems there are lots for free…check in your area. But you need to love and accept yourself for who you are and know that you want to change. Work on the things you want to change one day at a time. The more you work on yourself the healthier you will become. Invest the time and dedication into yourself it will shine through for everyone to see.I am sure that there are several reasons you began to cut in the first place, keep working on resolving those things too. Good job at not cutting!Once you are ready there are lost of docs to help remove the physical scars of it…Treat your body like a temple,its the only one you’ll get in this life. Take care of yourself…

hey..I got married YOUNG..(20 years old) cuz I thought it would help me “MOVE ON” past my childhood abuse..I was WRONG I SHOULD have got to know myself first, all I did when I got married, was put myself even further behind the scenes…I am now separated……trust me, relationships..ALL OF THEM….are stressful enough without already having unanswered questions/concerns/fears about yourself.

GOOD LUCK…..no matter how you feel….YOU MATTER