Are you having the same problem as me ?
When I want to talk to someone about somthing like about someone i have feelings for, they dont understand what im trying to say, when im trying to get a idea out no one gets what I mean, and they wonder why i never open up. “stop bottling your emotions, tell me whats wrong”- they say. I rather not waste my time, i think i was better off when i kept my personal life a secret. I’ve just been feeling kind of down these last couple days, like im of no value to anyone. Im not depressed or very sad its just i’d like someday to be in someones thoughts, even if someone found a pinecone and picked it up for me, i would be so happy, but i guess im am invisible… Well im off to bed, sorry.
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I think we have all felt like that. I bet more people think about you daily than you realize!!!
Don’t take offense to this, but as much as you think that you are the only individual to have gone through personal and unique hardships, you aren’t. Everyone is special in their own unique way, but suggesting that nobody has a clue how to comprehend your hardships only gives rise to an elitist mindset.
I told this to someone else when I first showed up to this site: Stop being so self-aware. Recognize that everyone has their own place and purpose, and fundamentally, we aren’t so much different and non-understanding of each other.
Maybe I’m way off target. Regardless, I wouldn’t want to be in anyone else’s thoughts but my own. Although, that’s just me.
Adopt yaself an abandoned puppy (or any type of pet) =D
Or sponsor a kid from a 3rd world country.
Or plant a tree.
We all feel purposeless and useless at times in our lives, and the best remedy for that is doing something that is just a pure good.
Adopt yaself an abandoned puppy (or any type of pet) =DOr sponsor a kid from a 3rd world country. Or plant a tree.We all feel purposeless and useless at times in our lives, and the best remedy for that is doing something that is just a pure good.
And I can assure you that sponsored kid will be thinking of you every time he/she eats, or drinks clean water, or gets medicine for a sickness, or finally gets to go to school.
Pure good :)
I will be sorting the plants out for my garden very soon. I have made a plant tag (4DanTL) on it. There are two sorts of plants I use every year they bloom from april until November. One is white the other purple, which do you prefer?
Your name will be remembered with flowers in my garden
“like someday to be in someones thoughts, even if someone found a pinecone and picked it up for me, i would be so happy”
Ah, and how do you know this hasn’t happened already?
Feeling invisible.. I know that feeling so well. I agree with Maximina though, I’m sure a lot of peope think about you but you don’t realise it. For example, I have read a lot of your posts since being on this website and I can relate to a lot of what you say. I don’t even know you really, you’re just someone on the internet and yet you are in my thoughts. So I bet those who know you in person really care about you. :)
Some interesting remarks to your post.
I understand how you’re feeling. However, you are also in control of what you feel at any given moment. If they don’t understand you who cares. As long as you understand you that’s all that matters. Whatever you’re feeling, you need to accept yourself and accept it.
We all go through difficult times. And however small or large it is in perpsective, no one should judge it. It is very important to us and we want to find someone to understand. You’ve got people in this community who understand. I understand.
Let me give you and idea to contemplate for a bit.
What opportunities, possibilities, people, ideas, experiences are you not seeing because you’re preoccupied at the moment living in this bad feeling? Truly you are in control and can choose what you want to create and see around you. If you stay focused and committed to what you want in life you will start to see the opportunities. Perhaps you’ll connect with people who do get you.
Just a thought. Good luck and be well.
wow i must say im surprised and here i though there wasnt anyone i had so many things in common with. but here ill say this, you are not invisible and no its not better to bottle emotions i used to do this and i wasnt very happy, now the people you talk to may not have to say what you want to hear, but still listen i learned that even if i cant communicate good to my family they still want to help me and are understanding tell them the situation and remember what they say learn from this and grow their words can help more than you realize, anyways good luck and hope for the best!
It would be an awful shame and a waste to shut yourself off from people, just because you have a difficulty expressing yourself. The next time, someone says stop bottling your emotions, you could start by responding, “I dont mean to do that, I just have trouble finding the words I need to express how Im feeling.”….. or something along those lines. Someone who is a skilled listener will be good at drawing you out too.
sorry ,my english is so poor, so i express my mean in chinese.i wish you will be happy everyday.
oh, how sweet is that!
simon hu wrote:
Rough translation: “I think that a lot of people would have been in your situation, but would handle it much differently. It’s important to have a positive attitude above all else in times like these.”
That’s awesome…thanks for the rough translation…
You know what? i think there is a time when everyone feels like you do. l had a situation like that once but you have to always remember that everything happens for a reason. do you believe in God my friend? Even if everyone seems not to understand you, quite evident from some of the responses here, he always understands everything.If you do then you should look at your situation, and ponder, why? Maybe whatever it may be might not good for you. However l understand you and dont listen to the crap that you are selffish or slf aware. When you are down its only natural to cry out to others for help and people will give you the support. l 4 one. Great day
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