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Well I don’t see how you see it as “good”.

For a temporary rush at the cost of scars that stay with you for the rest of your life? I’ll take a naturally induced euphoria any day.

self mutilation is pathetic.

you need to find a bitter outlet for your anger, i would recommend something like a punching bag or maybe go run around.

Or you could think about how much better you have it then people in third world countries who live on the streets or are abused in a closeted society. That helps sometimes, at least it always makes me feel guilty knowing i have so much and feel depressed whilst people endure so much pain and suffering and still strive for happiness.

dude please dont - your a good friend to me. I hate to think of you hurting. Please learn of some other way to release your pain and upset.

zazerz wrote:
self mutilation is pathetic.

I kindof agree. It’s kind of like, are you so lazy and selfish that you’re not going to find something positive and beneficial to do with your time, and learn from your problems instead of cutting. I see it as ‘giving in’. Also, it’s extremely addictive. Take a nap or something instead.

I guess it’s not the worse thing in the world. I mean you could be taking it out on someone else. But it’s very unproductive & kind of gross. Kind of like banging your head against a wall. Pointless.

i wouldnt call it “pathetic” at all.i would call it a coping mechanism. one that is obviously not productive or solving anything, but a coping mechanism all the same.
pathetic it definitely isnt.
and while it can be helpful to think of those less fortunate than ourselves, it does not help at all to compare oneself to someone in the third world i dont believe. yes, we have more than them, but we were born with more and should not feel bad or guilty for that. everyone has problems, and those problems are very relevant and real to those individuals. it is not helpful to say”you should feel better because other people have it worse”. doesnt solve any problem whatsoever, just creates a new one of guilt.

cutting ans self mutilation arte symptoms of deeper, repressed feelings which need to come out in a productive and healthy way in order to be properly dealt with and overcome. talk. talk to your parents, your teachers, a counsellor…any adult you trust and feel comfortable with. dont cut. it doesnt solve anything

tell her!!!..talk about it.
if its real depression see someone, could be a medical condition. and talking to a therapist or something might be a good outlet, its helped me in the past.
just don’t cut, its self mutilation which is not good no matter how you put it, and its just giving in.

Resolve to use your life to change the world. A sense of purpose can be really helping in dragging yourself out of a ditch.

With im guessing resources at your disposal like a good education which many people dont have you could make so much of what you have.

I’m going to be honest with you shadow. The reason people are responding so negatively to your post is because the way you have worded your question makes it sound like you think what you’re doing is something that others should respect. “I’ve taught myself to endure pain…” etc. In reality, anyone can cut themselves. But you need to see that there are other ways of coping with pain. Like writing, drawing or like zazers said… get a punching bag or something.

If you need attention maybe you should devote your feelings and turn them into a passion for something… like acting! Where you’ll get all the attention you want.

^^^^^^ *nods*

*nods* was to inaboxbythestep

inaboxbythestep wrote:
If you need attention maybe you should devote your feelings and turn them into a passion for something… like acting! Where you’ll get all the attention you want.

History is riddled with people turning their pain and suffering into beautiful and classic works, and innovations for society, etc. You can use your pain to make so many things lol! Why waste it on cutting?

Everyone feels pain.

Many people have horrible things that have happened to them and imagine that 3/4 of the world has it worse off then you yet many of them still strive and work hard without sadness.

I know some of you might think that thinking of people worse off then you doesnt help and just makes you feel guilty but at least for me that guilt can turn into determination and has in the past.

I’m so glad you posted that courty, I would’ve written something far worse directed toward those who said “think of people who have it worse” and “called cutting “pathetic”. :)

Shadow: Try focusing on expressing yourself in different ways. Find a hobby. One thing that helped me out of depression was feeling a sense of accomplishment. To do that, I made a daily planner in which I recorded all my activities for the day. I still do this, actually. As I go through the day, I basically check off the activities that I needed to do for the day. So, in a nutshell, try setting short term and long term goals for yourself. It will help you feel better, raise your self-confidence, and raise your self-esteem, which is essentially what you want. Just don’t start cutting. Talk, distract yourself, exercise…just do something that’s a healthy alternative to expressing yourself. You don’t want to cut, it’s not the road you want to go down.

Maybe you just don’t realize that people do notice you…I’m sorry I can’t provide any useful information. In any case, just promise us to talk to someone, even if its here on help.com, before you cut.

I actually really am regretting saying those harmful things now shadow. I didnt realize my insensitivity until it was to late. Im sorry shadow.

tis no problem for a good friend :)

nooooooooo dont slash yourself it can get addicting and it is really embarrassing in pe and stuff

slash something else instead like a sponge or something

Shadow .. I hate to see this :(
it DOES get addicting, and I hope you quit soon or ugh… hate to think about it.
Adam, cutting isn’t the best way to get attention if you need that, there are SOO many better ways. Listen to rekaru. You should try to fix it before it becomes something worse, and you’ll regret every single scar you have and probably end up in therapy if your parents find out. If you find it that you cant stop already, really, it’s better to talk to someone NOW then be forced to do it later.

You can always talk to us, but there aren’t many proffesionals qualified to help you. If you need to talk though, we’re always here. Talk to me whenever you want to.

dear shadow,

i got the same…your just attention seeking they said,, it felt like horrible whispers in my ears taunting me every time i did it the 1001 reasons why i slashed my wrists so much was those taunts. every slash didnt hurt though, i know how you feel by that. every slash made me feel slightly more relieved and even more happier.
But one day i realised what i was doing. using my pain to cover up the rest until one day the other pain came back to hit me. Felt like my mam and dad had give me a kick up the arse,, no like when they go on about school work and u start doing better stuff like that… thing is i was helping myself in a way but hurting me and others around me. it killed my friends to see me do it.

if i were you id stop now because its the one thing that well taunt you for the rest of your life if you carry on.. im saying this as a friend because i no the consiquences.

If you need questions answering or just to talk im here…

regards Katy x

Someone on here said once, instead of cutting, to hold onto a piece of ice when you feel like that. As others have said, talk to your mam, and don’t give up on finding help for yourself. You know deep down you deserve help, and you can get it. I had to fight for it too. I told three of my closest trusted friends at the time, I wanted to die, and they all ignored me. but I kept seeking help until I found it. You can too.

another good way is to seek advice from a doctor adam i live in stockton and i seen my GP about it and she really helped there also there to listen x

quit calling him emo thats f****** immature of you

why hide from the world when were scared to admit this that we see in life?

is it easy to hide from the turth or would be us that as a cover up?