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What’s the point?
Everybody says I’m not ugly who I know around me. I go out today, buy my family member some clothes, and the girl at the counter wouldn’t even look at me. Smiles at my family member and says thank you to them. I fricken paid for it. I said, Have a nice day, they scowled and looked down.
Go to a club to play my visuals for my DJ friend while he spins, girls at the bar sit down opposite me, I look up, they scowl at me. They are way younger, I only saw them for a second, and they scowl. Wasn’t like I was trying to pick them up, it was a one second glance.
WTF!! I’m sick of this life. I’m not some priest or monk, I don’t want to be alone forever, but if I can’t even just walk through my day without being treated like s*** for just walking around and hanging out, then wtf’s the point. I’m done. I have never given up, I pray about it all the time, and nothing changes. What is the point. I’m getting too old for this. I don’t want to give up, but it’s not changing.
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never give up. keep hope hun…there is osmeone out there for everyone. maybe you are looking in all the wrong places
that’s really weird. Try smiling at them first? Most people will meet a smile with a smile.
I don’t think it would be the way you look, most people aren’t that mean.
sorry you had a bad day.
ill be praying for you
you shouldn’t care about what other ppl think.
you don’t live to please them.
let them be how they want to be.
the best way react is to keep your head up.
confidence can override anything sometimes.
I had s one here on the site just last night,They had cut themselves on their face and understandibly they thought they were ugly.I dont know how to give links,but i think if you find them and read the responses it may help.I’ll get back to you with titles to look up.try this.imagine you’re out and you see s one that has scars on their face.what would be your first reaction.?A little surprised,a little thrown back?Think on that for a minute.You would,like any one else,probably ? and go on your way .?
Another thought,Sounds a little like what anorexics think of their body.I don’t have any experience in this area,but maybe they could relate.I’m sure there are others that have the same or similar problem.Say,vietnam vets,burn victims,accident victims.-overcomers.I would personlly read from their stories,simply to get their detailed.feelings.That’s something we can only see and assume in a movie……hun,were going to get to the root of this delimma together.brb
here are the ones i mentioned.kanneybby-(Title)=’I was wondering ‘& Get In The Hel-’I am really,really lost mentally’.,,,,,,,What’s the worst that can happen if you found out you really are a little ugly?Think on that for a second.,,,I did’nt like my name for a long time,for different ,stupid reasons.It wasn’t until my daughter revealed she didn’t like her name,that I realized that hurt a little,as a proud mother, i put thought and love into that name for her-a gift .It made me realize that when my mother may have heard this,I was disrespecting her .and thus,hurting her.And when i Got to Know Jesus,I realized when I was trying to’fight’ the depression that was a sort of disrespect to God.Because he made me with that imperfection for a reason.He gave me an ugly gift,but a gift none the less.Something to learn and grow from for a greater purpose.To stop the curse in my family.to better myself,to leave a legacy.(hopefully)It helped me to come to terms with it ,accept it-PEACE and contentment.I sure hope this helps.and i’m not done yet.Hang in there, baby.!
What about the family.Who you look like,do u see them as ugly?No matter what it is in my life,even everyday little things like food i ate or? I think it could have been better,and it could have been worse.What do u tell s one here on the site when they ask what to do when they are bullied for being fat or ?That is your answer.If u know me,I’m not one to judge and i know talent and beauty when i see it.I’ve seen you’re picture and I don’t see ugly.My son is very good looking.everyone says that.But he used to walk around with this scowl look on his face.He was actually a little scary.My point being,he heard he was good looking but didn’t believe it.It goes to believe that u cant judge a book by its cover.Whaat’s on the inside is what counts-has value,worth.You really need to dismiss peoples first impression of you.It’s fleeting and doesnt matter.
I’m not saying in any way that u are - - - -.But maybe if you heard the thoughts and feelings of those that are physically challenged,like midgets,crippled,etc…?……And what if u had plastic surgery and had the same type of reactions?I’m sure u woud see that it’s not u- it’s them.Not to condemn “them”because we are all ‘them’-a little judgemental,a little superficial,etc…normal….honey,I’m really grasping at every aspect,I understand you cant be on the computer every second,but i’de really appreciate you get back to me asap because i cant do this alone we have to work together.I’ll be waiting..With all good intentions,respect and compassion for you-Kim
A smile is the greatest asset to anyones appearance!You said you pray,DO YOU BELEIVE THAT YOUR PRAYER IS HEARD ? If you do,things will inprove,if you don’t beleive solidly,focus on that..it will radiate..Dont tell God how big your problems are,tell your problems how big your God is !Nothing in our life changes ,till we do!Happiness is not having everything you want,but wanting everything you have!Your Friend Samoasteve
Thanks everybody, I really do appriciate this. I just so tired of being alone, and just going outside and feeling judged and unwanted, while I watch all my friends meet people so easily, including my nephew. I know its a broken record, its just hard to know how to change this and my negative thinking around. I feel like this has been going on for so long, its too late, too messed up to get around it anymore. I’m kinda okay, but there are times I just think, man, if my mother was no longer alive, I wouldn’t be, because I don’t want to do that to her. Then, I think, what a horrible thing to say, I want my mom to live a long life, I already lost my dad. I hear what your all saying, I just think I need to read this stuff over and over, and promise I’ll do something to help myself. But its alwasy tomorrow and I don’t do it. I my friends just don’t call unless they need a favor, really, and yet, I know i have good times with them too, its just I get so negative I screw it up or don’t take it in. Ranting….
I’m not sure what u meant about your mother,and its never too late,The thing about your friends and favors.Do u have a problem saying’no’?Been there,done that.Maybe u could post it.I’m sure it would help lots of people
you know what,maybe u look sad or stuck-up.?thats my problem.I did not know it till a close friend pointed it out.Hey,I cant walk around with a smile on my face all the time.lol.I was so extremely introverted that on the inside i was filled with anxiety and worry about every little word,movement etc but from the outside i was viewed as stuck up,I think part of that was I had a real hard time with eye-contact.Sorry so long,If this rings true for you ,let me know.It can be remedied.
Felicity, this has been my post all along
i know hun.How are u?>
I’m not sure what u mean,did I do s thing?
No no. See my shoutout. Course not. Just thought you didn’t know. lol
And why the heck are there Schleich knights at the bottom of my post as sponsored link??? What the heck is a schleich knight.
Many of my friends who had almost given up on the one true love, found their perfect match on eHarmony (or similar sites). Maybe something for you to consider? There your matches come to you, based on your personality. And people are really serious to commit. No games. Might be worth a try?
look mate everyone in there own way is good looking, and its not always the looks that count its the personality. so there is a point. dont put yourself down !!!
Will change your life.
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