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I am losing my faith.

I don’t know what to believe anymore and it is scary. I was researching the BIble and I figured out mostof it was not what I thought it was.

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cooljbird288 offline Unverified User #
Denver, CO, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Then you should keep believing in what you thought it was, if it worked for you and made sense. The Bible is just a book, written by people just like you. It doesn’t necessarily have to be truth. Just have faith in what makes sense and seems good to you.

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an absolute beginner offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Alhambra, CA, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (7 minutes after post)

YOU see that is the thing, it just stopped making any sense to me. I discover some things about it that convinced me that it was just not true.

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 years, 4 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Everyone’s interpretations of the text is different. If it scares you that you interpreted it differently then others have, maybe you should find someone very spiritual, like a pasture, and talk with them about it, and the way you are feeling, and get some things clarified.

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Bethlehem, PA, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Believe what you want to believe. If you find that religion is not a firm bases to believe in, no one is forcing you to stay with it. Just think about it, do you really need to have something to believe in to live? I personally chose to believe in what I can prove, but you are pretty much forced into this category if you don’t believe in the either extreme: religion and atheism

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cooljbird288 offline Unverified User #
Denver, CO, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (17 minutes after post)

I just believe that there is a God. Someone looking out for all of us. I don’t really think things like religion can be defined or researched–everyone has their own opinion, all claiming it to be fact. Just believe in SOMETHING that feels right to you.

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Lady_Murian offline Verified User (5 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 37 #
An Unknown Location | 5 years, 4 months ago (21 minutes after post)

How about trying Islam?

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an absolute beginner offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Alhambra, CA, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (23 minutes after post)

Mornie wrote:
How about trying Islam?

I don’t think trying another religion will help. I am starting to question the existence of God.

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Lady_Murian offline Verified User (5 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 37 #
An Unknown Location | 5 years, 4 months ago (24 minutes after post)

Well! God exist!

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an absolute beginner offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Alhambra, CA, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (25 minutes after post)

therapsis wrote:
well, it’s good
exercise critical thought, use your own judgment, don’t believe things unquestioningly

I am starting to question the thing I took for granted, it’s like I walked into a new life and I am very uncertain about what is next

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Maximina offline Verified User (6 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 5 years, 4 months ago (25 minutes after post)

Sometimes questioning your faith can lead to a spritual discovery. I don’t think you can have real faith in anything, unless you have fully questioned it first. You are perfectly fine. Allow your self to analyze the world and in time you will discover your own answers.

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ndc7209 offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Bethlehem, PA, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (27 minutes after post)

Maximina :) wrote:
Sometimes questioning your faith can lead to a spritual discovery. I don’t think you can have real faith in anything, unless you have fully questioned it first. You are perfectly fine. Allow your self to analyze the world and in time you will discover your own answers.

thats probably is and is going to be the best answer your going to get

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Lady_Murian offline Verified User (5 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 37 #
An Unknown Location | 5 years, 4 months ago (28 minutes after post)

Maximina :) wrote:
Sometimes questioning your faith can lead to a spritual discovery. I don’t think you can have real faith in anything, unless you have fully questioned it first. You are perfectly fine. Allow your self to analyze the world and in time you will discover your own answers.

Yes! this is the best way!

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an absolute beginner offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Alhambra, CA, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (31 minutes after post)

ndc7209 wrote:

Maximina :) wrote:
Sometimes questioning your faith can lead to a spritual discovery. I don’t think you can have real faith in anything, unless you have fully questioned it first. You are perfectly fine. Allow your self to analyze the world and in time you will discover your own answers.

thats probably is and is going to be the best answer your going to get

Yes it is. Someone told me something similar…that this is an opportunity

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Maximina offline Verified User (6 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 5 years, 4 months ago (34 minutes after post)

I have been their absolute. I can honestly say that I am completely comfortable with my faith in God. Although, many may not agree with my views, my faith is pure and honest. Don’t be afraid. To many people are afraid to question out of fear.

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an absolute beginner offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Alhambra, CA, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (42 minutes after post)

Maximina :) wrote:
I have been their absolute. I can honestly say that I am completely comfortable with my faith in God. Although, many may not agree with my views, my faith is pure and honest. Don’t be afraid. To many people are afraid to question out of fear.

The thing is…I am scared s-less. This is all very new to me, it is like walking a tight-rope without a net to catch you

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Bethlehem, PA, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (43 minutes after post)

And at the opposite spectrum, I have also questioned god and found that it is impossible for me to have faith that he exists. Therefore I stand an agnostic, but more leaning toward the atheist side only because there is more physical evidence (from what i can see). I do understand that I could be wrong which is the only thing that keeps me from being a full fledged atheist.

btw, don’t try to figure it all out…. what you need to find out you will find naturally

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Maximina offline Verified User (6 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 5 years, 4 months ago (46 minutes after post)

It is ok to be scared, as long as you are brave enough to face the fear. Too many people have blind faith because they are afraid of the after life. Blind faith is not real faith. It is just an illusion. Be brave and know that you are not the only one who has walked this path. When I admitted for the first time I was not Catholic or even a Christian I remember how odd and scary that felt, but I had to admit that in order to be free and have real faith in God. Your path is your own and in time you will find your way.

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Watcher offline Verified User (5 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Winter Haven, FL, US | 5 years, 4 months ago (9 hours, 32 minutes after post)

What is it that you are questioning? Is it that God exists at all? Or, is it that something has happened that has made you feel that God is not doing what He’s supposed to do? God wants you to know Him, and unless you have questions, there is no way to learn more. If you simply accept what you hear or someone tells you without confirming it for yourself, then you will be one mixed up person. I am assuming that you are Christian, as am I, so my answer comes from that. God is not the author of fear, it is Satan. If you are questioning things, it’s ok, God is big enough to stand up to your examination. Do you need proof that God is there? Or what is it you are seeking?

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5 years, 4 months ago (13 hours, 8 minutes after post)

Pray and see who answers. Trust your gut. Thinking God comes to us in only one way is probably thinking too small (the Bible, Torah, Buddah, Nature worship…. all have good aspects to them).

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Tinauga offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 years ago (3 months, 2 weeks after post)

I feel your pain, Absolute Beginner. I have three beautiful children but I am divorced and raising them while dealing with unemployment. I say this because although I am truly thankful every single day for my safe home and food to eat and healthy children, I too struggle with faith, suffering and God’s existance.

I cannot just take pat answers such as “He exist” or “Just believe.” I want to and often I do but sometimes I feel the pangs of doubt whether he sees the suffering of children during war, injustice towards women and oppression of people all over. People of all races and religions reach up or bow down in pray to him but I wonder if he truly hears or cares. Does he love us only if we love him back? Or does he love us dispite ourselves?

The closest thing I come to God is realizing that each day is a chance to seek him out. Sometimes in the Bible, sometimes looking at the wonder of nature and sometimes just the shine in a child’s eye.

So does he exist and if he does then how do we come to a place of belief. There is a beautiful verse in the Bible that tells us to stop and often reflect. It says,
“Be still and know that I am.”

Take comfort that you are not alone. For all who believe, pray for his faith, health and happiness.

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 10 months ago (1 year, 5 months after post)

I am in the same mindset. I have been a Christian for many years; decades. I am not questioning the existence of God, but the church and find man has caused so much turmoil that I do not attend anymore. I am uneasy and know God is there, but it seems I need something else and don’t know what it is.

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 5 months ago (1 year, 10 months after post)

Dear one,
It is difficult to address your questions or interpretations with so little information, but I want you to have all the answers you need!
One important issue is - what have you been placing your faith in?
Many people have sincere intentions and deep religious interest, but never realize that they are placing their faith in themselves. Any faith that depends upon one’s own ability to do right or be acceptable will lead to disillusionment.
The death of Jesus on the cross is the center of the Christian faith because it accomplished the perfect acceptance from God that no human could otherwise experience. This is the consistent message of the Bible, and even in Jesus’ time it was consistently misunderstood. He was constantly encounering the religious leaders of the day with their hypocrisy and their obsession with keeping the commandments when they did not really know God.
Of course, I don’t know if this is your situation. It may something totally different! There are also many sincere people who have a living relationship with Jesus Christ who experience doubts because of difficult circumstances, challenging encounters, succumbing to temptation or other things! These issues can be addressed specifically. There are many excellent resources for questions about the faith.
It is most important to remember that God is deeply and personally interested in you and concerned for you. Keep reading the Word and investigating good resources!

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 5 months ago (1 year, 10 months after post)

One important issue is - what have you been placing your faith in?
Many people have sincere intentions and deep religious interest, but never realize that they are placing their faith in themselves. Any faith that depends upon one’s own ability to do right or be acceptable will lead to disillusionment.
The death of Jesus on the cross is the center of the Christian faith because it accomplished the perfect acceptance from God that no human could otherwise experience. This is the consistent message of the Bible, and even in Jesus’ time it was consistently misunderstood. He was constantly encountering the religious leaders of the day with their hypocrisy and their obsession with keeping the commandments when they did not really know God.
Of course, I don’t know if this is your situation. It may something totally different! There are also many sincere people who have a living relationship with Jesus Christ who experience doubts because of difficult circumstances, challenging encounters, succumbing to temptation or other things! These issues can be addressed specifically. There are many excellent resources for questions about the faith.
It is most important to remember that God is deeply and personally interested in you and concerned for you. Keep reading the Word and investigating good resources!

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 2 months ago (2 years, 1 month after post)

Whether we beleive in God or not has a lot to do with our environment and training, but if God wishes to reveal himself to you then you will get to know the real person. I beleive God gave his son Jesus as proof that he loves the world and intends to save it and all scencient beings he has created. Very few see this because of their training or their fears, but love never fails and God will not fail in his mission to restore all. You may not understand much about this but you can have faith in God if he gives you the faith to beleive in him. That faith will be tested throughout your life.

So whether we beleive in God or not he believes in all of us, unless he does not exist. Then all we have is our short life and back to the dust. My heart crys out there is so much more and that the human race is just getting started.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (2 years, 7 months after post)

Do not judge yourself God is a reality even for non believers he is there he is always there but there will be days when we must prey but after the storm there will be peace

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 4 months ago (2 years, 11 months after post)

Hi everyone…Im new at this site. I am struggling to the point that I dont know who I am any more. Im bisexual…failed nine relationships. Four with females and five with men. These relationships were anywhere from 3 to 6 months to 3.5 years. Im the one who has commitment issues because I cant define who I really am straight,gay,sex worker..or what?

I have always went to church and repent and ask God for forgiveness. However, my anger gets the best of me because I never asked for all this confusion and my parents…well they just dont understand. Pops was never a good mentor in my life and as a child he verbally abused me to the point that I have a hard time trying NOT to believe in it. “Your a burden to me”, “Your a punishment from God”, I should take you and hang you your worthless. Old testament states Thou shalt not lay with mankin as women…Lavitucus. Then the new testament states love all Gods children as you would love yourself, love your enemies…etc. Yet, I cant help to feel that uneasy feeling whenever i get into any relationship whether its with men or women…or when I keep my enemies close and show love even though I dislike their selfish ways. Now, what I mean by that is that people always have a hidden agenda and i tend to allow them to unfold upon me…even though we have spoken clearly about whats going down. Life is so complicated for me and I dont want to be alone the rest of my life. One final note. I became HIV positive 2005 at age 31. I always tested myself every 6 to 8 months cause of my lifestyle. Now, help me here, did I become positive because of Homosexuality? I was not haveing permiscuos sex…until I became positive…but only with other HIV positive people. Anyhow, I really dont understand why me. Why couldnt I have understanding parents to guide me through my sexuallity and fears.

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chamundo9 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (3 years, 8 months after post)

in the bible it says.. blessed is he who believes without seeing. no ones perfect
in this world. dont ever give up on God, that same God who had to bear the pain of
seeing his son die. His HOLY, Sinless son die for us. so that we could live every day worry free and so that one day we may too see his beautiful face in heaven. listen to me, if you need anything find a pasture, or someone you can trust or even me if you need to. dont ever doubt him, because everything he does he does for a
reason. God bless you and ill keep you in my prayers.

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