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sometimes it can help to write things down

When i have some troubles, i sometimes want to get away for sometime and i will be back refreshed. OR i deal with one problem to the other, fix those things i can solve and i do not dwell on those i could not do anything about.

problems like what? family? friends? hmmm… maybe i would try to see if those problems are REALLY worth fixing because sometimes i make a mountain out of an anthill. :)

first of all, i am sorry to hear about your loss. Is there someone taking care of your sister? you must be very worried about her.

Maybe if i was in the same situation, i would give myself time to write down a journal or paint (once upon a time, painting helped me with emotional stuff), i talk to people like trusted friends, counselor at school, mentors), then i would have to join a voluntary organization where i can help children in need, and since i love singing, i might join the choir or something like that. It all depends on what you like to do.

What do you like to do Cazzy?

yes i notice that you like to express your feelings in some ways, that is a very good sign. Some would keep all those feelings bottled up or suppress them. You are such a strong person. If you are more on an extrovert or a little sociable, joining good organizations would do. They have activities that you might like. When i was young, i used to teach kids in a church and i think it helped me a lot overcome some of the negative vibes i had as a teenager.

oh counselors, what they do is they welcome you in their office, and they ask how your day is. Actually, their job is just to talk to you and make you talk about anything you think is important. It can be about your classes, your classmates and stuff. OR you can share about your family if you are comfortable enough. If not, they tell you to talk to them about anything you want to.

I am teacher and i can also be a counselor. I counsel my students a lot everyday. So my job is 8-5 and sometimes i end up going home late because a student wants to share something important with me. And i let them talk whatever and how long they like. After a couple of minutes, they feel relieved. :)

no problem! :) keep me posted! :)

Xdolly is right write them down even if its a lot . then write them down again in order of importance . Tackle the ones you can easily solve first , the ones you can’t solve easily can then be taken on each of their merits as either solvable or not , if you personally can’t solve them ask for help from people who can help. If its the ilnesses you can’t cope with then ask a friend to have a chat with you. We can’t help with the outcome and neither can you really apart from being there and helping as much as you can without causing yourself some grief. My mum , older brother and mum in law all died with cancer my dad from a massive heart attack. I was there at the end for them all and for the family and hope I helped them too …..thats all we can do

Exercise and prayer might help.

cazzy wrote:
how do u cope with problems i need to no please tell
me thanks from cazzy

I’m responding to this post to cope with my problems.

I hope that helps.