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Thanks Richard. I see both sides and yes there are circumstances that allow you to speak your mind. I am not suggesting that everyone turn into ‘yes men’, but to annhilate someone’s self esteem when they asked for help is wrong. There are some people who might say, ‘well they asked for my opinion so I am going to give it’ and then take it to be their mission in life to tell you what they think of you or your circumstances regardless of the damage it will do.

You can express almost any thought with tact if you choose. There are times when humor is not taken as intended, but for the most part I have no problem getting my point across without insulting someone.

Thanks Tink.

thanks, I hope it touches some people.

It will touch everyone it needs to touch, I have no doubt.

Thanks Jade. One time when I was younger (and more self-righteous) I had this “friend” who was so annoying that I felt it my obligation, my duty to humanity, to tell this woman what I thought, and what others thought about her too, so I sent her a letter (chicken). Anyway she was devastated, she had really liked me, she thought I was a friend, she had thought I was a nice person and fun to be around. She had no idea how annoying she was, and I’m sure if she had a nicer friend they would have overlooked that for her better qualities, or said nothing at the very least. I wish I could have taken that action back, but I can’t.

Then one day a few years ago I’m rolling along, grateful for the great group of friends I have and feeling pretty good about myself, when WHAM, I get an email from a woman who was supposed to be my friend, the email was not unlike the letter I had sent all those years ago. (karma?) Anyway this email sent me home from work, I was emotionally a wreck (and i am not a crier), I sat in the shower for an hour with a knife in my hand wanting to kill myself(chicken again) Our words have more power than we can possibly imagine./