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Why is it?

I feel like absolute sh1t.
Why is it that every girl I like does not like me back?

Why is it that every girl I am friends with thinks of me as just a friend and not more?

Why is it that all my friends that are girls have a fun time with me and compliment me about things like my personality, looks, jokes, how good of a friend I am to them, and other stuff like that but they never actually like me?

Is it because I seem too happy and am always laughing? Is it because I may be very hyper at times? Is it because I’m almost always kidding around? Is it because I’m too nice? Is it because I might act too much like I’m gay because of how loose I am about things? Is it because I act too much like their friend and nothing more?

= (

I don’t know… Oh well. I keep my mind off of this most of the time but then comes along another girl and it’s on my mind again now. Every single time I like a girl I’m hurt very badly. = (

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Nightowl offline Verified User (1 year, 12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 minute after post)

Lower your expectations and practice being attractive on them.

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Absolute ****.
Why is it that every girl I like does not like me back?

Why is it that every girl I am friends with thinks of me as just a friend and not more?

Why is it that all my friends that are girls have a fun time with me and compliment me about things like my personality, looks, jokes, how good of a friend I am to them, and other stuff like that but they never actually like me?

Is it because I seem too happy and am always laughing? Is it because I may be very hyper at times? Is it because I’m almost always kidding around? Is it because I’m too nice? Is it because I might act too much like I’m gay because of how loose I am about things? Is it because I act too much like their friend and not anything more?

= (

I don’t know… Oh well. I keep my mind off of this most of the time but then comes along another girl and it’s on my mind again now. Every single time I like a girl I’m hurt very badly. = (

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1 year, 10 months ago (2 minutes after post)

**** we are on the same page i know how you feel buddy very frustrating, what i do to alleviate such frustration well i read do stuff i like exc.. and just keep looking your find someone as will i, i hope:)

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Why is it?

I feel like absolute sh1t.
Why is it that every girl I like does not like me back?

Why is it that every girl I am friends with thinks of me as just a friend and not more?

Why is it that all my friends that are girls have a fun time with me and compliment me about things like my personality, looks, jokes, how good of a friend I am to them, and other stuff like that but they never actually like me?

Is it because I seem too happy and am always laughing? Is it because I may be very hyper at times? Is it because I’m almost always kidding around? Is it because I’m too nice? Is it because I might act too much like I’m gay because of how loose I am about things? Is it because I act too much like their friend and not anything more?

= (

I don’t know… Oh well. I keep my mind off of this most of the time but then comes along another girl and it’s on my mind again now. Every single time I like a girl I’m hurt very badly. = (

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lyncha offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (5 minutes after post)

I am pretty sure there are girls out there that likes you your just looking at the wrong ones. All your attributes are a plus dont think down about them and dont change for anybody unless its to better yourself for yourself:) What you need to do is be assertive and say what you want be aggressive, come on to a girl and see what happens you will be suprised when you show aggression and interest i a female and what her reaction will turn out to be you have to be smooth and persistent ask for the number ask to go out ask to chill etc, then you will get what you want:)

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lyncha offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (10 minutes after post)

What I mean by being aggressive is going after the girl show her that you are intersted in her your problem might be that none of the girl you like know that you like them like you said you are a fun person you like to joke around alot they might be afraid you might turn them down I have plenty of friends like you you have to say what you want and go after it:)

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Murray offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (20 minutes after post)

http://help.com/post/122711-i-have-a-…

i got her, but now shes moving to N.Carolina in June :/

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lyncha offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (24 minutes after post)

Well you have to make the best out of what you got:) People do long distant relationships everyday:) You wont be the first or the last:)

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Murray offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (26 minutes after post)

iv done a long distance relationship… most never last. :/

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lyncha offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (32 minutes after post)

You have to be optimistic I know its hard but enjoy the time that you have with her right now dont worry about the future becuase its not worrying about you take care of what needs to be taking care of now that is forming a real good relationship so that when it does come time for her to leave you all would have established a strong enough relationship so that it can stand the test of time. You cant live in the future. Be with her right now live in the now make due with what you have right now its hard but I promise you in the end its worth it:)

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issybelle offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (54 minutes after post)

♥ here is some love for today baby ;D

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Murray offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

i dont worry about our relationship… only her. shes so kind hearted and naive.. i could see her getting taken advantage of when she moves. thats all i worry about.

and thanks issy ♥ :)

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downtowndaisy offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

Try not to beat yourself up about it. To tell you the truth my ex-boyfriend of over 4 years was a lot like you! The guy that no girl ever gave a chance to until I came around and gave him that chance. Funny thing was I was in the same boat! I used to feel that way too. Every guy I liked didn’t want anything to do with me… which is why I understood where my ex was coming from and we fell in love…. funny thing… he got so much confidence HE DUMPED ME!!! Only to move on to another girl a week later. So yeah how the boat turns… To top things off though I found a hottie of a guy that I have a major crush on who is someone I like and he likes me back! :) I guess my point is that there’s someone out there for you. Just be patient!

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Murray offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

hold alt and press 3 on the number pad

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Murray offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

theres tons of symbols

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lol thats 1-60

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Murray offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

11:17 here and i have finals tomorrow for my economics class :(

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Murray offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 26 minutes after post)

its what i do best :D

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nextstar offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (5 hours, 21 minutes after post)

I just haven’t met the one for you yet

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david_a_georg offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (3 days, 5 hours after post)

I know exactly how you feel. You feel as though you are worthless and that you will never find what you are looking for. I wish I had the answer but thought it would help to think that you are not alone with this. I always lose girlfriends to others yet keep being told how great I am and that with my personallity, looks and charm I wil soon find somebody else. What they dont realise is that I dont want to keep finding and losing over and over again. I want a friend for life I can trust and share with.

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coolgirljess94 offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
West End, M4, GB | 1 year, 9 months ago (1 month after post)

i feel exactly the same way tbh!! :(

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cutie4sho8 offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Lawrenceville, GA, US | 1 year, 9 months ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

its ok you will find someome it takes time trust me

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whaples201 offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 4 weeks ago (1 year, 2 months after post)

I agree and disagree with some, lower you standards, but not to someone you dont even like, just someone who’s always been there.
Also i seem to find that if it’s a white preppy girl and you’re not preppy, drop it, go home, and get on with your life.

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