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i am stuck between two men.
I am engaged but no plans of marriage anytime soon and i contacted my ex two days ago, we have spoken and spoke about why we split up, me and the current fiance have bought a house together and i do care and love him very much, but why are old feeling coming back for my ex, is this a sign, should i tell my ex how i feel??
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there must be a reason for your EX,being your ex,maybe think about that,
he was in the forces and he has explained that the reason he finished with me was because he had got the news that he was getting sent to Iraq and he couldnt face telling me…
Concentrate on your new relationship. If you really don’t want to be with your current partner, end it and move on…but not back.
so you want to be back with someone who didn’t have the courage to tell you something important to your face and dumped you ….why don’t you give him another chance and then maybe he can do the same to you again when an issue arises, if thats what you like in a man
couldn’t face telling you what,that he was going to Iraq and didn’t want to hurt you if he got killed,sorry,idon’t buy that,but going backwards is not the answer.
its a lame excuse and i know that, he left me 100% heart broken and my fiance picked up the pieces… I dont know why i feel like i do about the ex. But we spoke at length last night about old times and i felt so happy, more than i have done for awhile… but now i feel terrible for going behind my fiances back…
old times lol, the good old days!!! get dumped once, no twice! no, three times!!! oh the fun of it!!!!
if your not as happy now as you where with your ex,then maybe you should concentrate on you,before entering into a marriage,and maybe hurting your partner of NOW
i just want my ex so bad, maybe its a case of you want what you know you cant have?
then,you’ve seemed to have made your mind,but,from my opinion,think how you felt, you are going to hurt your fiance,and maybe yourself all over again
the feelings your having for your ex are to be expected because you never stop having feelings for people that you have been in love with.
so i guess you just have to think about who makes you feel better and why you and your ex split up and if you would be willing to go through it all again
so, you are the meat in the “hug sandwich”? Well, no double timing, you know, tag teaming, I think you should go with the one with the better ethics.
i like sandwhiches ;] ^^
we always crave whats not good for us, i say give the ex a chance, ruin it with your fiance who helped pick up the pieces when your ex dumped you, lose him in the process (he wont take you back if he has any sense) and go back to the ex who will either not take you back or if he does proceed to do the same thing to you somewhere down the line and then you can come back and ask for advise after that, unless you will still have feelings for your ex after he does it to you a second time, how does that sound? see you after a few months
i think thats harsh deewani, but i suppose you are right in a way, whats happened once is bound to happen again, and then i would be back to square one.
Alicia-babbii, thank you so much for your advice, and the opinion of you all seems to be the same, that the EX is bad news. So, with that i will resolve myself to making my current relationship work,if it goes wrong then i know that i have tried. Love is never a game thats full of winners i suppose but second place is better than nothing. And my fiance has been a rock for me and he deserves me to at least be the same for him.
Thanks guys, xx
awwww bless your welcome hun and good luck with it all you will have to let us now how it goes
ok, so things havent worked out over the weekend, i told the ex how i feel and now hes told me that ‘us’ would be a mistake, but yet he said some very explicit things via txt on saturday night, we were both drunk and txt eachother saying exactly what we felt (well i did)and talked about my current relationship, which can be at times quite violent, not that my fiance has ever hit me, but he does have a bad temper and does things like punch glass doors through… My ex told me about his time in Iraq and i have never been so upset, some of the things he told me are too awful to go into, i think it has effected him so badly and i feel so deeply for him. I told him that i would leave the fiance if i thought that it would give me and the ex a chance and he kind of side-stepped the subject, however he flirts via txt and i am now even more confused… Please help, this is starting to effect me and my fiance as it is. I would never cheat but i cant help but want to know where i stand with the ex - is that wrong???
no its not wrong, but if the guy dont you that you and him would be a mistake, are you a sucker for punishment or something? and if you dont love your fiance 100% then leave him too before YOU break HIS heart
i think your ex finds it a sensitve subject and doesn’t no how to react when you say about getting back together. try giving it a little time and see hoe things go.
How our lives are different from how they were before,
I kissed you goodbye, and you went to war.
I found out recently that the time has passed
Without me knowing just what you have lost
You left me standing all on my own
And I never knew how to really move on
I wish things were different,
And I wish I knew how, to tell you I’m sorry
And I am here for you now.
My life is so empty, even though there is one
Who calls me his fiancée, this I cannot carry on.
I cry for you at night times, and you are in my dreams
Yet I know that your tears, they are not for me
The terrible things you must have seen, my brave brave soldier
What horrors are in your dream?
To tell you I love you would be untrue,
For I would devote all my life to just being with you
But this love that I feel I must put aside
And tell you for you, I feel so much pride.
Pride that you loved me, and loved me enough
To leave me and save me,
But I never gave up…
This is a poem i have written for the ex, it says everything i want to tell him, should i send him it???
why does boys cheat for of u have a good girl that love your and want to be with you no matter what you will cheat…….. love is a hard worl tro said to some one because you really have to think about of your in love or not because some time boys will just says that then love you but all then want to in your pants that all
hi, life is so hard when you are stuck in between 2 guys i know i am , but juste remember to listen to your hearts because only it will know the way
I do not think u deserve to have a guy at all. The right answer is to leave your ex behind trust me. Being engaged to someone else is what you are. Go ahead and break that you idiot. That man that you are engaged to will be devastated. Never you behind someones back you ***** you shouldn’t even talk to your ex like that and you shouldn’t really talk to him at all. I ******* hate people like you.
i am in same situation im stuck between two men, after i broke up with my boyfriend i met a nice man we got to know eachother we got engaged and planing to get married,then after a week my ex contacted me to say that he miss me and he wants me in his life and want us to get married and that was our dream,i dont know now what to do.
Girl stay with your fiance if he couldnt tell you nothing important like that then he don’t deserve you. Your fiance loves you and he seems good old feelings always come back but remember one thing your in love and will become a beautiful wife. SO leave him alone and DONT fall into his love trap because if he loved you that much then he would have came on out and told you.
how do you listen to your heart? I know what u feeling so much!! you only live one life and you’re scared to make the wrong decision, but part of living is making wrong decisions and getting dissappointed but you have to ask yourself are you willing to take the chance. Is the love you feel for your ex that strong that you are willing to leave a good man that does nothing but love and care for you?
I’m in the same situation and I’m stuck…
wow sounds like a situation I am going through right now. the only thing I can say is do what your heart says.
I’m in love with this guy and i need to know what i should do because i also have a man at home but i am morehappier withth guy on the outside can somebody help me.
in my experience, my ex felt the same way . you just gotta sit down and give your self time to think about everything how you feel about your ex and your fiance. whats best for you and what you want , to know where you really stand. in my opinion your not completely over your ex note by calling him when you got finance. and if you really loved your fiance why would you go hit your ex you don’t need closure.move on wit your life. but if you were really happy since a very long time and it wasn’t wit your fiance then you need to really be careful because someones gonna get hurt and to start talking with your ex would also cause you to bring back certain feelings your already stuck in the two you don’t want anything to happen like cheating so be sure to not let him get to you. just find out how he feels about you and how he feels about you and him, avoid social conversations.strictly business, until you know how you really feel and what you want to do wit your life. what ever works for you just find out where you stand and see where you wanna go take into consideration your ex and your fiances feelings .there’s a lot of emotion involved so be careful its really to hurt hurt the ones you love wit careless judgment. good luck
i know its been a year but just for future refrences or future relationships you can help other couples get through what you went through .
I’m so glad people are stuck in highschool. Why do you need advice if you should leave someone for an ex, clearly you want to. You are just to chicken **** to do it. Be the person that ruins something perfectly okay for an old flame. Humans lust. . . If I was the one that bought the house with you, and caught you texting with an ex (to the extent that you were), I would leave you in a heart beat. So yeah, if your man is anything like the majority of men, he prob has an idea that you are splitting feelings or straying from him. The more you talk with the ex the greater the chance your man finds out and decisions are made. Make your choice before you ruin everything you have.
Miss confused, The only thing you need to do is, to go with ur heart and take a decision be it in the favor of your ex or your fiancée. Trust me majority of people are suggesting you to go with your fiancée, but they dont know that when you sacrifice one thing for other that stint always remain in your heart. Even if, you would marry your fiancée you would always regret of not going with your ex.
Nothing and noone is perfect. Just go with what your heart and be ready for whatever happens, be it good or bad…
MY ADVICE: Get over your fiancée, because even if you get married to him both of you can never be happy. Coz your heart you always b wanting something else. 3 lives would be ruined. At present if gets shattered, he would manage to cope up. But if he later comes to know that you are cheating on him. He would never be able to get over it. So, better give your ex another chance and be where your heart is.
i am so intrested as to whom you went with? but in case if your still confused look forget everyone,everything, the past,any current problems with either one of them..now picture yourself in the arms of one, and now the other…which feels right to you…its almost like when you kiss someone you just know! but i mean really spend time holding them…who can you picture your whole life with?
Good Day,Troubled person.
Yes it is indeed a sign, from your ego, this is not intended to be an insult or smart alec comment, I genuinely would like to help, if I am able to I too will learn.
Your spirit needs nothing or no one it is complete, however our spirit’s are trapped within the confines of our earthly bodies and everything we allowed our society to impose on it, most of it is not the truth and this diminishes our authenticity (who we really are without our prejudices etc.
There is nothing wrong with loving your old partner and even having a relationship with your old partner within the confines of what is acceptable to your new partner, we humans are tested in this regard with old partners whom we share children with, however to believe that you will be happier with one more so the than the other, is a fools paradise you truly create your own happiness, not due to the partner you choose, but due to the person you choose to become.
The message I have sent is far from conventional wisdom and will not resonate with everyone, I sincerely hope it resonates within you!
stay with your fiance! I’m sure he truly loves you, more then your ex does, because he is willing to marry you! Don’t go down the same path you have already taken with your ex.
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