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This is interesting.

Ok, so I’m bi and I happened to have taken a liking to a girl I know. Of course, my speculations were correct: she’s straight (I saw her cuddling with her boyfriend). I knew this was most definitely the case in the back of my mind, but it still hurt to see it, you know? I mean, I’m not on the floor hysterical, mainly because I kinda expected this, and even in the moment, while I was very upset, I went about my business (very easily) as if nothing was wrong (after all, I was ice-skating and having fun with a group of friends). Unfortunately, I feel like I really can’t talk to anyone about this incident because it just feels so weird (even with the ones who do know and accept me and my sexuality). So, long story short, has anyone else had a similar problem?

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happ offline Unverified User #
Beaumont, TX, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 minute after post)

the girl could still be bi. even if she does have a boyfrinedf

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aarcieri2 offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Unfortunately, I don’t count on it. Another thing (that I should have included): my mother is still in the process of accepting my sexuality. My father knows nothing of it, and I prefer to keep it that way. As a result, I highly doubt that I could have been/could ever be in a relationship with another woman because it’s just so complicated. Thanks for the help, though. I feel better.

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1 year, 10 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Well hey, there’s nothing stopping you from becoming better friends with her. We sometimes idolise people a little more from a distance than we do close up. Just an idea.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (21 minutes after post)

Hmmm…thanks anonymous. That’s actually a good idea, considering that I am not really “friends” with her anyway, and I don’t know every aspect of her personlity….

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newday offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Milwaukee, WI, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (5 days, 1 hour after post)

Great feedback Anonymous!

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