Love help: i love 24 guys years old and i am 14 since 4 monthes i think its not a crush is it ? - Help.com

Could be a crush,, but depending on where you live probably not a good idea. Wait a few years, like…4…lol… and maybe hell still be there.

I’d say it still could be a crush. Sometimes crushes can last for a very long time. To move beyond that, two people have to really get to know each other… and since you’re 14 and he’s 24… well, as the poster above said: Wait and few years! :) You can still keep him in your heart.

Is it a guy you know well and spend a lot of time with? If you are lusting from afar it’s unlikely to be love I would think.

Make you you’ve been friends for a long time before you think of being with this guy. DO NOT let him pressure you into anything.

Does he love you? HE should know that you are, at this time in your life, going through emotional changes that can blur your judgement a little. Although what you are feeling is powerful, it probably isnt real. You are programmed naturally to be attracted to men at this age…. in time you will begin to understand the morality that must be attached to these feelings. I am hoping that this grown man does.

Love goes beyond thinking about someone… you have to interact with them and really get to know who they are, and when things really click with your personalities and you find you want to be together day in and day out, that becomes love that can grow. When you mostly “think” about someone, you are pretty much creating a person that is not real, if you don’t really know them very well… but of course, in the imagination that person can be PERFECT and totally in love with us too.

See if you can arrange to meet him, maybe at a party or with your friends, and get to know him. Please be cautious however, if you’re really obsessing about him then your judgement may be impaired and you risk being manipulated.

Have fun, but don’t believe you need this guy. You don’t.

Nensix wrote:
See if you can arrange to meet him, maybe at a party or with your friends, and get to know him. Please be cautious however, if you’re really obsessing about him then your judgement may be impaired and you risk being manipulated.

Have fun, but don’t believe you need this guy. You don’t.

SHES 14!!!! Hes 10 years older than her…. I DO NOT SUGGEST you arrange to “meet” him at a party.

I didn’t mean alone. Maybe it’ll get the obsession out of her system. I would agree avoiding him completely might be the best idea, but does she sound like she is going to do that?

i dont know what the laws are in Jordan…. but is this going to put you in danger if you were to meet with him? Are there serious consequences for this behavior for either you or this man?

your 14…you dont know love…wait…and as for him if he is 24 hitting on a 14 year old..can you say pathetic?