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Well, I’m really in love with this girl.

I meet her when she dated a good friend of mine and we got to know each other very well over the on and off year my friend and her had. I’ve known her for about 3 years now, and we’ve liked each other since her and my friend broke up. At different times shes told me she liked me, but her ex (my friend) would of beat my *** if I dated her. That’s not the case anymore, as he has moved on. The only problem is that now she has a boyfriend, and they’ve been together for about 6 months. She gripes about it being long distance to him (shes in High School while hes in College) to me and tells me about if she wasn’t with him she would be with me. I too told her at different times that I liked her too, its just that if she wasn’t dating someone, I was. It’s kind of weird, because while I love her and all, shes my best friend too, we tell each other secrets and stuff, hang out a lot (I hang out with her more than her boyfriend), we know each other insanely well. We’ve kissed a few times, we’ve laid in bed together, given deep hugs, cried on each others shoulder, and just lots of real deep emotional moments. I love the girl to death, I just don’t know what to do.

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Unnamed Desire offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Miami, FL, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (5 minutes after post)

tell her that you love her

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NessaSirfalas offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
NY, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (13 minutes after post)

i agree with fly… the only thing left to do is tell her…

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Zragon offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Broken Arrow, OK, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (33 minutes after post)

tell her u made mistake and u are regretful for it

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Well, I’m really in love with this girl. I meet her when she dated a good friend of mine and we got to know each other very well over the on and off year my friend and her had. I’ve known her for about 3 years now, and we’ve liked each other since her and my friend broke up. At different times shes told me she liked me, but her ex (my friend) would of beat my *** if I dated her. That’s not the case anymore, as he has moved on. The only problem is that now she has a boyfriend, and they’ve been together for about 6 months. She gripes about it being long distance to him (shes in High School while hes in College) to me and tells me about if she wasn’t with him she would be with me. I too told her at different times that I liked her too, its just that if she wasn’t dating someone, I was. It’s kind of weird, because while I love her and all, shes my best friend too, we tell each other secrets and stuff, hang out a lot (I hang out with her more than her boyfriend), we know each other insanely well. We’ve kissed a few times, we’ve laid in bed together, given deep hugs, cried on each others shoulder, and just lots of real deep emotional moments. I love the girl to death, I just don’t know what to do.

twistedsista_1 offline Unverified User #
AU | 1 year, 10 months ago (58 minutes after post)

well it’s good you have someone like her to have as a best friend, being able to tell each other deep and meaningful things is pretty rare in my experience, it sound as if you two really connect, maybe she is confused as to what decision to make or maybe it’s all down to the timing of things, if things are meant to be they re meant to be, don’t force things as that doesn’t work just tell her how you feel and that you would like to be with her and leave the ball in her court as to weather she decides to be with you.

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volkswagen_1 offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Port Lavaca, TX, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 17 minutes after post)

I’m not telling you to be a homewrecker and like break up her relationship but if she doesn’t like the guy she’s with now then tell her to break up with him. As for your friend…dont tell him that you plan on dating her until your ABSOLUTELY sure that he’s moved on. But other than that all i can say is GO FOR IT!! because you’ll never know till you try.

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xboxand_eq247 offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Fort Wayne, IN, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (12 hours, 18 minutes after post)

The relationship she is in right now is kinda dicy.
A week or two ago, me and her hung out at my house. We laid in bed togeather for about 3 hours and watched TV, and cuddled a some. When she was leaving, she gave me a big hug and we just looked each other in the eyes. It was one of the strangest moments in my life. It was one of those moments you just don’t know what to think about it. About 5 mins later she called me and we talked about stuff. She told me about how she’d be with me if she wasn’t with this other guy, how she felt kinda bad for it, that she was sick of her long distance relationship, and some of the aquardness we had while she was there at times. She says this and goes ‘I don’t know, I guess its kind of weird to tell you this now that you don’t like me anymore (I had been telling her I didn’t like her anymore because I didn’t want to get her bf mad at me).’ I said ‘Come on ___ you really should of known better deep in you heart..’ she simply goes ‘I did.’ Her drunk boyfriend calls her after this converstation and she was infurated with him (He had alchocal poisoning in the end). I didn’t really know how to respond at the time, because I just told her I liked her again and it was like 1 at night.. I have to go to my next class, so Ill add on later.

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1 year, 10 months ago (20 hours, 9 minutes after post)

wat does love feel like ?

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Anonymous #
1 year, 10 months ago (4 days, 8 hours after post)

Hey,
I haven’t had much experience of this sort of thing, however, a close friend of mine did.

Things are tricky for her right now, so just be there for her to talk to and stuff.
Do by all means make it clear to her that you love her, and also back this up by always being there for her.

You both know how you feel about one another; if it’s meant to be it’ll be.

Respect her current boyfriend and don’t give her ultimatums or force anything on her. She won’t respect you for it and it’s kinda wrong too. And, if after all this it never develops into a relationship, then maybe it was for the best and you guys will be friends for life. Often if a relationship ends badly, your friendship can go down the pan with it too. Remember, everything happens for a reason.

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volkswagen_1 offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Port Lavaca, TX, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (5 days, 14 hours after post)

I don’t know what to tell you. All i can say is that i’s up to her now. If she wants out of the relationship then she should get out. But give her the reason to get out. Tell her that “you do like her and that all you do is think about her night and day and that she is the only reason you get up in th morning just to hop that maybe today wil be the day that fate smiles on you for the first time and that you two will be together at last. Tell her that all you’ve wanted to do is be with her. It’s the only thing you can think about but it’s ok because any thought that deals with her is somthing you want to think about.” If you really love this girl and you really feel this way then tell her that and she will be yours. If you love her than go for it.

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Travisalexande offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (4 weeks after post)

i think i’m goin crazy

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