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Hey thanks.

im like that now, like im just floating through the days. my best friend is so tied up in herself i guess i sorta feel alone. i dont feel particularly depressed, just really confused, totally like what pinknfluffy was sayin. now that im finaly honest with myself i dont know who i am or anything really about me. reflection, like writing and listening to music and stuff is sorta kepping me going these days.
hope u work it out.

how the f*** can u even write something like that when ur lost, wen ur lost u dnt even know ur lost….so stop being such effin posers going on all like “omg im so lost,i dnt know wat i am enymore”…blah blah blah
so seriously stop pretending to get attention n listen to wat reality is telling you!

I’m going through the same thing; stopped pretending about alot of things, and now I dont even know who I am - what I even want. Good luck to anyone else going through this, I know I need it.

@ isabeau_heinric:

you are a terd, obviously this isn’t a situation you identify with.

Wtf has my life become.. Im so smart yet sooo much more ignorant. I know there is an answer.. hell I even know the answer.. but am to pathetic to do anything about it.. I simply wish… I was proned to be better at life..

i feel lost. i dont know if its because i didnt really accept myself growing up.. i guess i just wanted to be something that i thought was better than me so bad that i really didnt care what became of my true self, and after awhile i got so far away from that person that i dont even really recognize my own self when i look in the mirror.. i guess when i was younger i thought it was what i wanted but now that im older i realize that it was a poor decision i should of just owned up to who i was in the beginning and accepted all consequences and outcomes.. now im stuck with this person that i am and im not even sure what the truth really is because i have such a skewed view of i what it is i really want. so i dunno i guess i just try to take it day by day and better myself in ways that are in my control, while also trying to get closer to my true self.. some days its easier than others and i can never really tell if im just pretending to be ok or if im really just okay.. i geuss its just life

I dont feel that bad the most time, but there nights when i became in nobody, i feel invisible and untouchable, i can´t hear my voice… i saw shadows around me once, im afraid i’ll see it again…. lost in the black deep night

hmmms…those who really feel lost i think its time to have a religious belief.i donno if it actually works to have a belief in religions.but who knows just give it a try to just pray to something..even if u have no reilgious belief.just pray and i seriously belief tat theres something in the air which u could pray to and u could do it alone without ppl arnd and it even help if nobody would lend u a litening ear..TRY IT,IT MIGHT HELP!!!

GOD BLESS

I don’t see how people can say that there friends aren’t paying attention to them so they feel alone. Well I have no friends. I go to work. I come home and I sit in my apartment just waiting for the day to be done so I can go to sleep, so that I can wake up the next day go to work and come home and sit alone till it is time to go to bed again over and over. I am 21 year old female and have never have a boyfriend because of the things my father did to me when I was a child. I cannot trust men. I avoid them completely. so I hope when you say you are alone that you really mean it. because when I say it. I mean it. I come Home from work and cry on a daily basis because I wish that I could just connect with one person in this world and everyday I am disappointed.

I sometimes feel lost like that but we all feel like that from time to time

yeah i totally understand what your all talking about till one day a man reached out his hand to me his name is jesus the creator of life ive never been the same since as i searched after him i grew to love him he understands all pain and he will come to you in your darkest hour a true friend and saviour is my lord jesus all we have to do is let him into our lives hes the only thing that makes any sense in this world look into his story chase it and embrace it you will never be the same your life will be relevant

I don’t know who or what I am anymore, I bet there’s a million other People out there like me, my friends all expect to be someone Im not and when I’m myself I feel as if I have no friends, all my friends care about is going out and trying too hard to impress.I just wish there was someone I could sit down and talk to about how s*** life is while that’s the thing I want most I keep on pretending that I’m some guy with no troubles and is never down. I wonder if I pretend long enough I’ll become that guy I envy people like that

you all sound so depressed but cant you see the answer is right in front of you? your all ashamed and scared and lonely and lost and feeling down, and no matter how many times you tell yourself that its just a phase that will pass, your wrong becuase this is who you are. and if you dont like it, then change it. start over and become a new person. forget everything from your past and make new friends who love and accept you. you all have the power to change who you are, and believe me its never too late to do that.

Does anyone ever feel constantly uncomfortable? Like the thought of change is just so overwhelming but you want it so badly at the same time? Good grief. I think its a generational thing, like I guess I’d be married with kids by now, sounds bad but still at least i’d have a purpose and direction. Life isn’t ****, its just a crazy maze that is unpredictable and thats the scariest and most exciting part. Yes there are a million people who feel the same way, but so many can hide it or put it into the back of their minds. I guess it’ll just pass like everything does.

i know exactly how u feel life is crap and then u die u just have to make the best of it dont ask me how cos i dont know but sometimes its fun trying to work it out.

i totally feel like that now

well i can relate to some of the post but not all of them. Im a guy who is 18 years old. Im half black half white. my mother is white daddy is black. i saw my father for the first time in 8 years just this year. i used to live in this little town called urbana. kinda was the kid who realized the bigger picture, that we all werent goin to be famous out of highschool. never really payed attention to the teachers, to busy with **** outside of school. always was the third wheel to all my freinds even though i knew in myself i could do it myself but wasnt forsure what i needed to do so i followed. ive lived in 4 diffrent places the past year for ove ra 6 month peroid. there was times when i didnt talk to my mother for 5 to 6 months straight. wholke family kinda shut me out for the choices i was making. started smoking ciggs, smoking trees on a daily basis. im basically raising myself right now and have been for the past 2 years. I forget to look up and thank the lord sometimes so i feel thats why i get punished, but i dont blame him . id rather sit outside by myself then sit in a room fool of yapping poeple talking about there money or what they saw on t.v last night. i basically grew up poor , you know , heat up the water on the stove put it in the tub , movin into flea infested houses , mother bringing guys home every so often trying to make us feel better ya know , i just want to say this , i sometimes cry and i dont know why , ill just be walking or when i go outside at night to look at the stars and hear the sirens and the booming systems , i dont want to ask how i get out of this stage but , i dk , i feel stupid for writing this but i have no clue anymore , i see **** diffrent then other poeple , i see the real deal rather then the sugar coated **** and i dont know how to prove that .

im that confused i dont even know what to write about :( i keep trying to better myself but something gets in the way some force is out there against me ………………………………. now i know by thinking like that i will attract it but its hard to brake the habbit sometimes ………… WAYNE DYER is a great man he may hels someone else here search him and listen he’s helped me a few time but iv got lost again

im confused about work, jobs, my Partner what ot do with my life i just keep goin full circle i wish i was 13 again and knew all the answers lol.

i seem to sigh alot these past days for no reason as though its even to much effort to even breath anymore, im begin to wonder if the most universal feeling is fear or lazyness?

im scared im empty hollow and every desision i make or plan i make dosent seem to work out i just mess it up or dont see it through

i dont know if anyone will even understand this but i guess we all searched im lost or im confused on google at random looking at our computer screen for no reason othler than we are lost

if anyone would like to chat email me at i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>

22/m/Scotland Glasgow

Hi im 26 from london england
please do not take my lack of punctuation for anything other than ease of exspression

For the last 2 years i have felt very lost in my life i have studied everything from science to religion even went into our worlds past to study past science and past religion(not literally) i do not have my answers YET but i beleive i have someother peoples answers and i beleive that if i help others understand a fraction of what there life can be then i am more than positive that i will find my truth of this i am certain.

here goes

We as a people have a knack for beleiving we need to be told the TRUTH by some godly
enterty, that we constantly need proping up by someone or something greater than ourselves religions,scientists and world leaders.This is not true at all we are the same as them and they are the same as us no differance at all only our beleife that they have the answers and we dont, but you DO. Things are not always what they seem, that is something i can garentee that everyone has heard before.
there are 2 sides to everything,Love/Hate Good/Bad i could go on forever, balence is key to truth.

Some of your stories on here are hard to read i have chosen to try and put myself in other peoples shoes with some hope that you have my answers but i keep coming back to the same answer ONLY YOU CAN HELP YOU and you ARE but you just dont relize it yet.We have great things in common that unites us(whoever reads this) that we know things are wrong and that we would like this to change.

sometimes i believe that it is wrong of us to say we are lost when we can pinpoint the fact we are LOST we know what we are and we where we are we just dont know WHY we are. Knowledge helps me see things like i have never seen them before i see great things so small to great things bigger than me it is in thease wonders of every day life that give us truth watching a young man or women helping a old lady accross the road on the way to work to birds and the bees flying around with a sense of purpose
gracefully doing what they are suppost to do. Truth must be what you want it to be, it must be something you understand personal to you look around you and take encouragement from all the great things that happen around you every day that up until you read this you took no notice of
To go back what truth is about as i said (no1) BALENCE gives you the stability to find the knowledge and have a good understanding if you are alone and have questions talk to people
if you are scared look to find ways to not be scared i.e do the opposite of what you are doing now,now you are scared do the opposite of what your doing now and you wont be(is it that easy does everything that is good have to be really hard?) (no2)KNOWLEDGE learn that we are brilliant and great people capable of extraordinary things we have great gifts to give out and share which brings me to the last thing i believe helps us find TRUTH (no3) UNDERSTANDING, understand how you work think about all the things that affect you most good and bad then you will have a accurate truth of what effects you in a positive and non positive way then try no matter how difficult it is to lean in the positive direction that makes you feel happy im not a wise man or a religious one i am a lost person just like you together we can find truth from within ourselves with each others help my email is
i> small>(email removed) /small> /i> if i can help or you would like to ask me a question or tell me to get lost i will not be offended. i just want to end with something that helps me understand a little clearer
Balance helps us to become stable in a always moving world, Knowledge makes a normal man a wise man and Understanding others can make a man understand himself.
thank you for your help i and i hope i have been some help to any one who reads this
John

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I feel lost within myself, I feel like I don’t know where I belong or what I am supposed to do.

I moved from my town to the capital city of sweden to try find a life, I my old town I was for over a year just sitting down doing nothing but staring at things. I met people whom I just didnt connect with, the people I meet is allways having so much peoblems and tries to place em on me or tries to reach out to me, how can I help anyone if I cant help myself.

So i moved to the capital city, for 4 month now I have been doing nothing, met countless of people without success, same story all over like from my old town. exept I got myself a job and now I am waking up, going to work, going home and pretty much does nothing.

I eat badly, I also have headace’s, feel sick, I feel lost, when I find people I try to connect with they just don’t get it, I put my trust and tries to be there, but I guess they feel i get so close and they already got what they need.

what am I suppose to say here, I allways feel sick or hurting somewhere, like my teeth, I look like a model and have a body of a bodybuilder, you’d think that would’ve help’d. it doesnt.. I have since about almost 2 years thought of just kill myself..

I have these feelings too, i think everyone does, but i dont understand why we dont see the beauty in life anymore, granted we have a constant stream of entertainment and media at our disposal but i think thats why a lot of us are disolusioned with our lives, take the time to value the small things, the things you wouldnt think twice about, family things and maybe you might find solace

PLAY!

DO THINGS FOR NO REASON!

this is the key!

do not seek an answer, you will find many, but they will be wrong!

do not seek a specific feeling, you will achieve them only to find they are not what you thought they would be

there is nothing you should or shouldnt be

and happiness and sadness do not exsist

they are categories into which we place memories

but a moment CAN be joyous, so long as it is allowed to be other things too

even if those other things include pain or lonliness

they do not exclude eachother

the real name of what you seek is ALIVNESS

stay in motion

stay at play

if you can achieve movement

you will have all that you seek

and you will forget that you need them

stop thinking about endings,

be eternally beginning

do not worry about whether you are doing a good job

you cant do a good job

you cant do a bad job

you cannot succeed and you cannot fail

you can only live or die

you choose

and remember

life contains the inherent promise of living

but if you steal yourself from being

you will cease to be

-Ronald Spencer Tokarz

ps- i cant seem to shake this feeling either

i m feeling lost……..i love him and i know he is not love me…..i hate myself

i don’t know anymore. That’s the general expression that describes the state i’m in right now. The peak of my happiness was when i was 13,14 years old. Meeting people, finding a girl i like….and then losing it all. Life spiraled out of control and i sunk into depression. We have the tendency to lie to ourselves when we have depression. For me, i just told myself to keep moving forward and time will heal everything. Boy was i wrong. I’ve discovered you have to get closure with things and move on as opposed to running from them. It took me 7 years to figure that out. Now here i am, typing this up, hoping that i’m able someday in the near future to muster up enough courage to find that closure. I agree with some of the posters above, you start to feel lost once you start being honest with yourself. I can’t help but feel like it’s a good thing though, because honesty means were on the way to healing. i’m more lovesick than anything, but i’ve got to believe that finding closure in things that hurt is the key to emotional pain, no matter what the obsticle. But i don’t know, i find myself questioning everything i believe nowdays. Ready to move on and find some happiness, just seems really hard at times. For me, i’m a freshman in college. feel really alone in this small college town with no one i know, but would feel even lonlier at home knowing everyone else is at college, having fun, and working towards their career. Sort of a catch 22. Guess we just have to manage the best we can and hope were able to find something. I find i’m learning from my mistakes everyday, just wish i had known what i know now when i was happy. Desperation and Depression are the key words to my emotions. Feel like i’m stuck in a rut and can’t get out, hoping to find someone or something to push me out and get me moving again. Don’t know where that is though, so i just take it one day at a time hoping that i’ll find happiness one day. Can’t wait till that day comes, but i’m getting less and less optimistic everyday as it’s been a really long time since i was happy. Makes you value someone or something that makes you happy even more, because without it, you feel lost and confused. Those are the worst feelings of all, because they make you feel like you have no power over yourself.

I think that we are all lost at times… the key is to find something that you love. many of you seem like you would like to meet a person that you can really connect with… maybe a love or a friend… but there are other things to, music for example is something that i am not in love with, but it helps me. it lets me know that things are going to be ok. i am not much of a piano player, but i like to go down and try and play a song or two… i would suggest,

If you are feeling lost find something that you could love!

Music is something that almost everyone connects with it doesn’t matter where you are from. go to an ‘open mike night’ at your local bar! there will be people there, buy a beer have a good time. dont worry about finding yourself! especially if you are 21, because you are just beginning to evolve into the person that you truly are!! going home to an empty apartment doesn’t fit. i have a roomate and i would definetly feel alone if i didnt have him. there are plenty of people that are looking for someone to connect with.

Live! love! and seek out your dreams!

arp197 wrote:
I feel the same - lost - don’t know waht to do about it . doing nothing just adds to the feeling of emptiness

Hi guys im lost im feeling really down

my turn…ive experienced the thought,”i just want to watch something grow” lately. my account wont grow, my musical ability keeps hitting the same wall, i am physically deteriorating, and i feel privacy is what is missing. even in some empty rooms i can find myself hiding from thoughts that i picked up during brainwashing. i just want to hit the pause button or catch my breath but i cant find true privacy. to let my guard down. this is a marathon. perhaps exibitionism would be a solution too but im not an exibitionist.

I felt lost when i stuck it int the wrong hole. I’m so sorry oooooh! from the bottom of my soul, because i stuck it in the wrong hole

Get out of your heads, stop thinking. Stop the thoughts. Just be. Stop the thoughts when they come. Just be…that is all we are anyway. Beings. Everything is just fine for all of you. Just be..plain and boringly simple. Love is being.

I’m in the same boat … What I’m doing here ? This doesn’t make sense

i know how you feel, sometimes looking at everybody around who have already their life already figured out. I jump from one profission to other…i seek for something that can really motivate me but i find myself settleling down but I ask god who has being with me to show me a way

Hello,
I feel kind of silly doing this. But I am lost. I feel as if I have no one to talk to that would understand what I am going through. I dont know why I feel I can just put it on here and feel maybe a little better but when this is the only means of getting it out I suppose, in a way, it does help. I recenlty went to Italy with a friend. I know now it was a bad idea. I wanted Italy to be something, releasing, an adventure, a moment where life would just be free and unforgetable. Well it is now in a bad way. I didnt want to regret my trip but I cant help but feel that way. It took so much from me. Time, money, my free idea, and a friend. Lots of them really. Things didnt happen the way I had pictured them at all. And I know that things dont happen the way you want them to. So we came back to where we are working and… Im sad.. feel alone… no friends… and drama comes at me immediatly. Everyone has something to say about me, to me, toward me, all bad. I feel cornered, and like I am being attacked and everything is all of a sudden my fault when I have no idea what I did. I have people yelling in my face, a couple at a time and I am not good with confrentation so I say stupid stuff really stupid stuff that dont make sense. And then it ended with “nobody likes you” “everyone hates you I hope you know that” And my brother was right there and said nothing and did nothing. I dont know what I expected him to do, but everyone was, I feel, attacking me. And he let it happen. Like he was in agreeance with them. I feel miles away from home with a trip that took all that I have. Confrentation at every corner and no one to talk to. I feel like a Zombie just going through the motions of the day.
I dont know if anyone else does the same thing I do. But when I am upset like this I not only think of the problem that I am having but all my problems as a whole. I am getting older and never been married or have any children. I live across the coutry from my family and have no plan after this job is over. It seems like they all have familys to go home to. But me…. a car and just my stuff in storage. I can deffinetly relate to the saying “me against the world” right now. And I know that otheres have way bigger problems in there life, but does that make my problems in my life less significant? Its probably true, I have nothing and Im being stupid. I dont know.

Erickc8 I feel for you mate… I was in a similar situation not too long ago without the windfall though :) Let her go be there for your kids and make sure your the best dad you could ever be… Why did she cheat? There is always a reason but none the less take this as a new fresh start

Wishing you all the best… People that follow their hearts will only end in an emotional despair follow your mind it is always the sharper and more honest of the two…

Im lost, i have tried my upmost best in my current job - it’s has been 3 months, and should probaly get notification by last month end, but now still didnt get any feedback from my superior. The other colleage who came in same day with me, had been confirmed 2 weeks ago, and I’m still getting no feedback about it. I have google back my current position in jobwebpage, it is now open again for vacancy, obviosly, im going to be replaced soon. Im very upset about it and Im thinking to work oversea, not to work in my own country - Malaysia. But, having various consideration and negative comments from my parents, it’s very hard to find a good job in other people country. And I might get bullying as well. Same as the foreign workers in my country, people just look down at them, bad treatment from company and local workers.
Thinking of finding a new job again, it’s very tiring, should I employ myself with a small business? since my current employer doesnt seem to appreciate my work…or should i just fly over to my admired country like UK to start my new life there…

Hi Everyone, There is a book called Who’s Talking?The search for who I am. by Rudolph Unt.Its better than anything on the market today. this book will end your suffering and set you free and get your life back.It works no mind rubbish!

Tuppy

I would recommend seeking a counseling professional whom specializes in identity development. It can be very helpful. Best wishes!