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This might seeam a weird question to others.But it is very important to me.Those who understand my situation,please help me.Here goes the story…

I studied in boys school all my life.Yeah till my higher secondary,i was in boys only schools.Now i am doing my engineering and the college is of course mixed.Since i studied in a boys only school,i was shy to speak to girls at first.but i made it up.now the shyness is gone and i am quite comfortable in my new college.But there is a little event in the story which i forgot to tell.There is a girl in the class who stares at me often(u know what i mean).You may ask how did i see it ?.See,she falls in the line of my sight to the blackboard and anybody can easily feel if someone is staring/glancing at you.And she is quite beautiful.in other words i like her.after first few days of her staring business,i started reciprocating her stares.when i look directly into her face ,she turns her face down.she is happy to talk to other boys in the class,but she seems nervous to talk to me.SOMEONE TELL ME WHAT IS GOING ON PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!

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Nikki_d offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 78 #
Long Beach, CA, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

she’s nervous to talk to you because she like’s you. you should break the ice and start up a conversation. the more you talk in every day conversation she will feel more comfortable around you and be as nervous. things can only get better from there.

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9 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

i dont know the chemistry of women.you mean i should start a conversation?
thanx for the reply

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garthwhit offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

you are over thinking the simplest of communications skills (talkin)…you already have alot in common, you are in the same class, school, and intrest (engineering)…go ahead engineer a topic…

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Nikki_d offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 78 #
Long Beach, CA, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

yea just start a conversation with her. just because you are reciprocating doesn’t tell her how interested you are in her.
if you start a friendly conversation with her she may then realize that you are interested in her on more then just a staring level.

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Anonymous #
9 months, 3 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

Hey I forgot to add one thing.this staring business was on since last Nov.Looks like i should engineer a conversation.i just needed some encouragement

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Nikki_d offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 78 #
Long Beach, CA, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

she’s clearly into you if the staring thing is still going on. some girls are old fashion and feel that they should be approached and not the other way around. if you are a sociable person you shouldn’t have any problem starting a conversation on a topic you have in common. Start with talking about your class! you can do it and you’ll feel good about yourself for doing it :)

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garthwhit offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

Here…she knows you are staring at her not get a better understanding of the topic of the day…you have already made subtle contact with her…ask her about something said in class, you just findout that she is struggling to keep up with the course (or she just be able to help you get a better grade)…

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Still Breathing offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

she obviosly likes you so just go talk to her. start a conversation. hey it might go somewhere.

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_appleboy_ offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

thank you all for the replies.according to garthwhit’s suggestion,she is a bit weak in maths and C programming whereas those are my strong areas.she never asks doubts to me,but all others do.dont think that i am boasting.those skills are in my possession because i chose maths and computer as my main topics of study everytime

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_appleboy_ offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

i no longer wish to be anonymous.

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garthwhit offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

be subtle with your help though…let this conversation develope and flow with natural vibes…

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Perdid offline Unverified User #
Boulder, CO, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

whau! Funny that I should open this post right now. I am a guy but feel that I am the girl in the situation you describe. Have a staring and smiling thing with someone I see a couple of times a week. It feels really good. She warms my heart. I am convinced that she likes me and I know that I like her. Unfortunately I am really shy in situations like that and it is very hard for me to initiate conversation with her. I am afraid I am going to have to break through that. She doesn’t come out at shy to me but I am afraid she is old fashioned enough that she will not be the one opening up to me first. Arrgh! I wish so much that she would because it really is hard for me.

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_appleboy_ offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (39 minutes after post)

Perdid ,thats funny

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Perdid offline Unverified User #
Boulder, CO, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

Yearh! It is.

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Perdid offline Unverified User #
Boulder, CO, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

…and my point is that if she feels like I do, she is going to be very happy if you initiate conversation.

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_appleboy_ offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (41 minutes after post)

_appleboy_ is A.K.A Vivek

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_appleboy_ offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (42 minutes after post)

thank you Perdid

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Perdid offline Unverified User #
Boulder, CO, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (43 minutes after post)

Now it is extra “funny” because I just came back from seeing her and many others and regret that I didn’t go for it and talked to her.

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Perdid offline Unverified User #
Boulder, CO, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (43 minutes after post)

You’re welcome

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garthwhit offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (44 minutes after post)

Vivek you are already on the way to find out something about her that you would never have known otherewise…what do you think Perdid? What plans you have to make your move too?

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Perdid offline Unverified User #
Boulder, CO, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (45 minutes after post)

I gotta say that of things that I regret I think more than 90% are things that I didn’t do.

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_appleboy_ offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (47 minutes after post)

i surely will startup a conversation tomorrow.there is only one life on this earth.i gotta do it

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Perdid offline Unverified User #
Boulder, CO, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (48 minutes after post)

Me too

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Perdid offline Unverified User #
Boulder, CO, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (49 minutes after post)

I hope it is not the same girl;-)

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Perdid offline Unverified User #
Boulder, CO, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (52 minutes after post)

:-)

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_appleboy_ offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (53 minutes after post)

Perdid i will shout to you tomorrow

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Perdid offline Unverified User #
Boulder, CO, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (54 minutes after post)

I will shout to you too

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_appleboy_ offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (56 minutes after post)

wow. c-o-i-n-c-i-d-e-n-c-e

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garthwhit offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (58 minutes after post)

good job guys!!! LOL

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_appleboy_ offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (58 minutes after post)

garthwit….thanks

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Perdid offline Unverified User #
Boulder, CO, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (59 minutes after post)

Pretty cool. Glad I could help. And swuupti I got helped too. More than you might realize. Thanks

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_appleboy_ offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

Perdid,you know how i feel.thats what u just went through

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_appleboy_ offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

Perdid,be sure to make this feb 14 a special day

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Perdid offline Unverified User #
Boulder, CO, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

Yes. This February 14 is a special day for a lot of people:-) The coming one will also for you and me:-) And two girls:-) I gotta sleep now. It is very late where I am. Goodnight.

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{Felicity} offline Verified User (10 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 201 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 59 minutes after post)

I think she wants you more than the others.!

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i love Tigger!!!!!!! offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 750 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (10 hours, 49 minutes after post)

she obviously likes u. aka ask her out

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babacup offline Verified User (10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 31 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (12 hours, 21 minutes after post)

You say this girl is beautiful and has not trouble talking to other guys in class. Let me tell you from a girls perspective. I always had guy approaching me for my appearance. I felt like they were all like dogs trying to hump my leg. Sorry to put it in that way but it is true. So when a guy was genuinely interested in me as a person it felt great. Since she has noticed you and you have not been all over her like a dog in heat, I am sure she appreciates you already. I suggest not asking her out the first time you talk to her. She gets that all the time. Let her get to know you and you her. Just my $.02. Hope it helps.

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UCreateUrReality offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 day, 7 hours after post)

she likes you

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Jose M offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 day, 10 hours after post)

dude talk to her!

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