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I’m starting over, my kids are in college and i want

to move to my old hometown, not sure if its a good move but their is a job and i own property there, my ex is sometimes in limbo and wants me to ask him back into my life, but i have someone i live with now and i’m not sure if i want to let go, i no longer want to raise kids and he(the guy i live with) talks about getting custody. Thats a big NO for me, what do i do? confused?

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ooochies_coochies_la offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Raleigh, NC, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

I was in the same situation you are in. It took me some time to decide what to do. I looked at all optons and I chose to be with the man that i came to love dearly and that is my second husband now. When have been together for 7 years now.

I can’t tell you to do the same thing just decide what is best for you and the children. It is not as hard as it seems, until you pull back alittle from both sitautions your answer will be right there.

May God Bless You and Your Family….Take Care

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{Felicity} offline Verified User (10 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 201 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

abot your b-friend,Maybe spend some time thinking about the possibility of raising kids again will give u clarity.I think you know what the right thing is.We all have a hard time choosing between the easy way and the right way,what we should do.Your ex,I bet you’ve heard that going directly from one relationship to another is not good .

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Raleigh, NC, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

very true Felicity - {kimkriss}

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Pretoria, 06, ZA | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 32 minutes after post)

Do what is the best for you and the kids. My kids wants to live with their father more than me and I will have to make peace with that.

Do not go inti a new relationship immediatly. Tried that and in my case it did not work.

Start off on your own and see how it goes!

Good luck and blessings.

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babacup offline Verified User (10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 31 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (3 hours, 30 minutes after post)

You know what you want in your life. If you see yourself as being done with raising kids I would say do not be in a relationship that is going to put you in the position of raising kids. Don’t feel guilty about it. Its who you are and where you are in you life. You create your life. Create the one you want.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 15 minutes after post)

Arrange your priorities in life , your kids , your boyfriend , your hometown , then decide

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (22 hours, 8 minutes after post)

i have kids (single dad) and would not want to be with a woman who resented them. the kids have to be his first priority, and if you’re not on board with that–recipe for disaster.

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