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I feel bad, I need emotional support.
I feel like I traped with no support. My husband and I having lots of arguments. Sometimes I do not feel like comming home. I do not know if I should stay in this marriage or should I leave it.
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May I ask what the arguments are about? Some things can be worked out, others really cannot.
For how long does it last? Maybe it’s just a temporary crisis.
A person lives ones, ………….
A chair is a chair.
A table is a table.
A computer is a computer.
A chair is not a table.
A table is not a chair.
A computer is not a car.
Unsatisfied life mustn`t be.
You mustn`t be unhappy.
A person lives ones,
If you don`t like it , leave it.
Or see the movie `I think I love my wife.` with your husband.
It sounds like you really need to communicate with him about how you are feeling. Arguments can sometimes be due to bad communication and bad habit too.
Sometimes the smallest changes can improve the situation and people can feel better and happier …AND IN LOVE AGAIN …very fast. Of course, it depends on emotional maturity, willingness and whether the impetus is there to put the work in. It must be pretty bad if you are considering leaving and don’t want to go home… It sounds exhausting. :-(
i really hope you manage to sort your problems out and that things become calm again for you. take care x
I hope that your husband would cooperate and do his job for the sake of the marriage. Seek counseling.
Let us know how we can help you. What is making you feel trapped?
He is selfish. His priority is himself and his family (parents and siblings). I asked him many times to go counseling but he refused, he thinks he would be able to fix everything. He tries, but quickly, he comes back to his comfort zone. His father is a very bad role model of marriage life. He does not even consider the mom as being. Her opinions almost does not count.
I got very good job in another city I will move from here in two months (he will join me after 6 months). Initially, he does not think that he should come at least for few days to help me sttele. He suppose that I can do everything by myself, instead he always ready to travel to help his family members.
I am just sick, I tried to communicate to him. Explained my needs many time! he does not get it. I even got counseler to help
It is not working
How long have you been married? It seems if his father treats him mother this way and He is treating you this way. It is the way he was raised. It is not something that changes easily. If he does not see it as a problem he will not change. You need to let him know how serious this is. You can not be happy if this is how he is going to treat you. I say either he makes an effort to work on the marriage or you tell him it is not going to work.
We are married for almost 4 years. You are right I should be more seriously talking to him.
Since you will be part for 6 months , that will give you plenty of time to think things through. With my husband working in another state it has made our marriage stonger. We appreciate each other more. This time apart can make a change for the better in your marriage. But you can not avoid the problems. You need to face them head on. Good luck.
sounds like your married to my husband-only prob is I have two children who are starting to take notice. My eldest-5 now recognizes the lack of respect/emotional attachment my husband shows me and ignores my pleas for co operation. My husband has a ft job and also runs a family business with his dad & brother. This only allows for more time emotionally spent outside the home-he gets home late-expects that our marriage can survive on dates every 4 or 5 months and daily telephone/cell phone conversations. I”m bored, but stuck with him as he’s the father of my children….advice? who knows, I’m trying depression medication but it doesn’t help.
This is my response: I have been in a very similar marital situation as you but for 22 years. Sorry to say this but it doesn’t change. Selfishness is a very evil and destructive force and that is what is happening here. When one of the mates feels this sad and desperate then you to realize that you are in this alone. A marriage is suppose to be a unified process not a singular verb. I only stay in my marriage for my children and it is a very lonely existence. My advice after all these years is after the kids are adults and on their own (and I have tried everything imaginable)if you can you will need to leave your present situation. You can medicate yourself until the day you die but the other partner has to take responsibility for their role in the marriage. And I can relate to you being on medication too………….It makes sense because you have been carrying ALL of the emotional WEIGHT in the marriage. A loveless marriage is hard to live…..And leave when you have children……
I empathize with you……
try talking to him ..and if he is not open to that try and get close friends or family to intervene gently.and then after all has failed think of taking an ultimatum
Oh, can I relate!
I had a huge long post, but it was too long to post here apparently.. so, if you want to shoot me an email, I’ll send it to you ( i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>)..
I have the same problem myself. My husband of 17 years has never met my emotional needs, but he refuses to see no wrong in anything he has done. I have not been perfect and I know part of this is my lack of trust in him. He has not had an affair, but he often tells people (including our children) our business which I absolutely deplore.
In fact, he complains that I am distant, but that is because I am nor have I ever been fed emotionally. It will be another 11 years before my youngest is 18. I feel as though he doesn’t love me and I am not certain if I love him. In the last two years, he has pushed for a divorce several times, but I have remained constant due to our kids and my inability to get a job during this economy. There are many people out there in this same situation.
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