Love help: Am i abnormal?

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Am i abnormal?

i am inlove, the funny thing is the only communication we have is thru phonecalls and chatting online or emailing, i am getting impatient, i often shed tears because it is so difficult to deal with this feelings. We planned to settle down soon but i prefer action more than words. I voice out my disapointments with this matter, but he told me to be patient for he is impatient as i am as well. We live in a diffren continent, he`s in US and i`m in Europe but my origin is from Asia. The weirdest thing is we never meet in person, but we both love each other. We`ve been together for 1 year and 1 month talking online and via phone almost everyday but without touching each other and without seeing each other in person. Although, he`s been there emotionally with me when i am down but the physical contact, even a shoulde rto cry on is absent.It makes me realized that what i feel isnt real but it hurts too much. We both knew it is real only the conflict towards our works makes it difficult to visit each other. He planned somehow to visit me this year but because he made a promise before to visit me and wasn`t able to fulfill it, now i don`t believe anymore and my candle of hope is dying. I sometimes don`t want to talk to him anymore because i am afraid to be more dissappointed, He knows all my frustrations about this certain subject. I love him but i am lossing my grips. Is it wrong to feel this way?

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (3 minutes after post)

It is normal to feel like loosing it. But you have been together that long, i am sure you won’t let go in such a snap. When you first started everything you knew it was difficult. Having ANY relationship is not THAT easy to maintain. Even seeing face to face. As long as the trust is there, there is always a reason to hang on.

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Sans 57 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour after post)

if he said he would meet you and then didn’t, he may not really be who he says he is. do not send him money.

or it could be real love, i don’t know. be careful.

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Toronto, ON, CA | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 43 minutes after post)

They say that some huge percentage of communication is nonverbal, and comes across in gestures, tone of voice, actions, etc. That’s why I always wonder how people can say they fall in love over the internet when you only have words and none of the rest. But you also have had phone calls, when you get tone of voice, so you could ask yourself if the phone calls are better and tell you more about him? I think it’s not good that for a whole year neither of you has made it possible to meet in person, so youu can find out for sure if this is real or not. Good luck to you, hope you can take some decisive action that breaks the frustration and going in circles in your own head. I don’t think you’re crazy, it’s more like you have not much concrete to base all your thoughts and feelings on, so all your doubts seem plausible.

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Carson City, NV, US | 1 year, 10 months ago (6 hours, 45 minutes after post)

You are not crazy for feeling confused. Falling in love and having a relationship is hard enough without your added stressers. I suggest you talk to the man and tell him how you feel and that you deserve more out of life than a relationship that is not complete. Also be very cautious of people you meet on the internet. We’ve all read the stories…Remember above all else you are a valuable person and deserve real love.

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US | 1 year, 10 months ago (17 hours, 37 minutes after post)

I wanna follow up on this post, I think it most intresting…I will make an extended comment later.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (20 hours, 50 minutes after post)

You’re not abnormal. However, I will tell you this: you need to meet him and spend time with him in person before you decide whether or not you love him. I’ve met a lot of people online, and in person about 95% of them were NOTHING like they were online. You can’t possibly get the full scope of someone’s personality and presence online.
Please, please be careful with this. If you do end up meeting him in person, bring a close friend with you and meet in a public place. Spend time with him, get to know how he acts in real life, keep an eye out for negative habits or tendencies. And I’m not saying it’s likely, but be prepared for rejection on both sides - he may decide he doesn’t like you in real life, or YOU may decide that you don’t like HIM in real life.
As sansceriph said, since he’s broken the promise to visit you, he may not be genuine. Do not send him money and do not trust him completely, unless and until you manage to meet him and assess him in person. If he continues to break promises, I’d recommend breaking contact with him, simply because continually being disappointed will hurt you and you don’t deserve that :)

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 day, 3 hours after post)

Wow! Thank you everyone who shared thier point of views regarding this post. I didnt expect after posting it yesterday it will attract quite a few viewers and for those who shared thier opinions, it is very much appreciated… I hope when i post here again, one day it will be a positive result from my side. Everything you have stated in here are all true… Thank you very much to all of you.

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