Love help: so i been with my girlfriend for a while, and last night i got with another girl, a close friend of mine. - Help.com

if you aren’t sure whether or not you want to be with your girlfriend, then you need to give it some serious thought. you should NOT be cheating on her while you do this, that only shows that you’re too cowardly to face your problems. decide what you want to do, on your own. if you decided that things aren’t working with your girlfriend, talk to her about it. if things can’t be fixed then end it gently and then (only then) begin dating again.

you’re being very selfish by seeing someone else while you’re still with your girlfriend. did you not just say you don’t want to hurt her? you are.

Break up with your current girlfriend. Tell her you’re just not sure enough about how you feel to be in an exclusive relationship right now. Don’t hand on to her for convenience’s or inertia’s sake–play fair.

Good luck sorting this all out.

Decide who you would rather spend more time with, who means more to you, and decide which one is more honest. That should give you an answer.

It’s not fair for you if you aren’t honest with yourself. But it’s really not fair to her if you are cheating on her. If you are having doubts then take a break from each other. Sometimes you need to step back from the situation to see all of its angles and to find the answer. But don’t go behind her back. It’ll hurt her a lot less if you break up with her, then if she finds out you’re cheating on her.

I agree with cupcake to a point. But if you are not sure, you should just have a nice “chat” with her (girlfriend) and tell her what is going on. Let her know that you have a friend that is a female and you like being around her. I do agree that keeping her in the dark is not fair. Sounds to me like you want your cake and eat it too. Sorry, but it’s true.