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amy

Pretoria, 06, ZA

I need help.

I cannot get happy anymore. I even started collecting all the mpilsdoctorsprescribe me and made a list of waht to do before I die. I am not suicidal just tired and desperately unhappy.

Been in a intimate relationship with a splendid guy for mote than a year now after my divorce. However he never introduces me to his family and allways have me over when he is not expecting friends. He is the perfect gentleman and I am really interested in this getting serious.

Could it be because he is European and I am Afrikaans and also from different religions. (Both Christian though?

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jcd 1 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

Tell him you would like to meet his family and friends. If he says no, ask him why not.

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fawn.buckle 1 #
Chicago, IL, US | 11 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

make sure your happiness doesn’t depend on this guy’s feelings for you. if you cannot be completely content (happy) being single - you won’t be when you are in a relationship either. he will let you down, he will disappoint you…

maybe you should talk to him about wanting to make more of a commitment. see where he’s at in his feelings for you.

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robertbrenner 3 #
Melbourne, FL, US | 11 months, 1 week ago (37 minutes after post)

Amy, it may help to talk about things, try to change your perception of it.

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amy 8 #
Pretoria, 06, ZA | 11 months, 1 week ago (38 minutes after post)

Robert,Talk to him?

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ople #
Irving, TX, US | 11 months, 1 week ago (5 hours, 9 minutes after post)

I need help! i dont know why?

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Anonymous #
11 months, 1 week ago (15 hours, 27 minutes after post)

Hey Amy,

You sound like you’re having a tough time of it, first with the divorce and now with this new guy.

Call me a cynic, but I’m worried for your situation. If you’ve been seeing each other for a year, then having you around at his place when nobody is there and not showing you to his friends and family can only mean one of a handful of things:

- He’s leading a double life.
- He’s slow to commit and is mistrustful of people.
- He’s not that into you and has no plans of making this serious.
- His friends/ family would judge him by this relationship somehow.
- His family/ friends would never accept you and he’s seeing you behind their back.

Either way, it holds no promise of a good future. The best thing that you can do is to sit him down and have it out with him. Refuse to continue seeing him until you know more about what’s happening. If he is using you or making a fool out of you, rather you find out sooner than later.

Best of luck with everything and praying that you feel better soon.

amy 8 #
Pretoria, 06, ZA | 11 months, 1 week ago (17 hours, 7 minutes after post)

Propably true,

I dont think he is leading a doublelife. He might be seeing someone else who is also italian thiough. WE talk each morning and evening as well as sometimes during the day.

He has been divorced many years ago and before he met me asked someone else to marry him. I do not know who she was or even if he is still in contact with her.

I think it is more of a fact that he is ashamed of me, i am not the pretiest of people and that he doesnt want his family to make me feel uncomfortable. He is also much older than me.

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Izzle 0 #
GB | 11 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 1 hour after post)

Try to find something exterior-as in, not to do with him that makes you happy.

I find when I’m feeling super low, if I sing a bit, or write something, it helps to lift my mood a little.
Not majorly, but enough to stop me hurting myself.

Do you have any passions aside from him?

kslmtndt #
US | 11 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 12 hours after post)

one of the most basic things that people need in relationship are honesty and faithfulness.

make sure that he’s being honest and faithful to you.

it doesn’t matter if we are christians but dont live like it. i think what you need now is to know God more and how He’s loving you more than anything and wants the best for you.

wish you the best for your future and sure be praying for you.

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amy 8 #
Pretoria, 06, ZA | 11 months ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

Izzle, yes, I also love singing am not that shallow just to depend on him. In any case this is on the road tonowwhere. I am also not young any more so I shouldknow better than to make myself dependant on someone, they all dissapoint you at some time.

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