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♥
i love you
be strong baby

tell me something good.
anything good.
it doesn’t matter if it’s as small as butter on bagels or as momentous as your first kiss.

We’ve all—I think—been to those dark places. Part of being alive is feeling the pain of it. If you truly have no one to talk to, you might think of getting into counseling. Just saying the words aloud to another human being can really help you process what’s going on with you. What issy is saying is helpful too–tell her something good.

And, remember, there are people who care about you.

here are some of my examples;
kisses on the neck - oh god
highlighted notes for school - so helpful
oatmeal - yummy
stupid movies that make you laugh

stuff like that.
i’m not saying oatmeal is enough to to live for.
i’m just reminding you, there’s things in this world that can still make you smile.

Maybe she didn’t know how, or maybe she’s human and messed up… We all do.

So what’s going on?

Maybe your guidance person didn’t understand how bad you were feeling, or perhaps she is just not very good at her job and didn’t know how to help. Can you doctor refer you to someone?

Are you doing the right things?

hi sweetie… i feel angry too, and i feel like crying, then i when i look into the mirror i feel like smiling because tears are of no good… just a smile is the begining of everyhting good =)
lots of love
*hugs*

“but whenever i try to do something to make me smile….it just makes it worse.”

how and why?
example?

Why are you so angry? Who or what are you angry at?

You could always go in person to see the counsellor? She would never on purpose hurt you. But theresape is right, maybe she didn’t understand and Issy is right too.

What exactly goes wrong? Or could it be because you’re down that you’re seeing it opposite to what is actually going on?

Yes! If you want.

hell i’m angry too.
we should be friends.

but honey, listen, life doesn’t have to be bad.
i know it sucks, and it shouldn’t.
but you CAN get better. in time, with work.
with help.

You are talking to a person who told her counsellor that she wished to God she could have been born a snail and burst into tears.

I have now progressed to wanting to be a fish…

Keep trying. Can’t hurt.

“i’ve been trying to fix this for months….it just seems to get worse..”

what have you been doing?
i think we need more detail now.

i.s.s.y. wrote:
hell i’m angry too. we should be friends. but honey, listen, life doesn’t have to be bad. i know it sucks, and it shouldn’t. but you CAN get better. in time, with work. with help.

And it always gets worse because you can see no way for it to get better. Issy is right!

No to make excuses or in any way belittle your pain, but now that I know you’re in school, I think I should point out to you that adolescence and the teen years are a time when you’re still growing, your hormones are changing, and (if you’re a guy) your brain is literally still forming. It is a very, very difficult time for many young people. So even if things are going really, really well, we all (at that age) have spasms of emotional pain that we just can’t fathom. When I was in high school, I would periodically burst into tears, with no idea why. When my sons were in high school, they experienced all kinds of pain that I could not help them with.

One reason I suggest seeing a therapist is that, if you find a good one, he or she will have experience understanding what’s going on and helping YOU to express for yourSELF what it is you are feeling. Just saying these things out loud to another person will help you clarify and work through them. You won’t leave there ecstatic … you will just be a little further along in the process of acquiring self-acceptance and self-understanding. It’s a process that occupies many of us for most of our lives–really, a lifelong quest. But you can and will feel less helpless about this.

Do your parents have health insurance? Your primary case physician can definitely refer you to someone who can help.

She didn’t turn her back, but she didn’t help either. Go to her in person, maybe she didn’t think you were serious, that it’s a prank but sweetheart, it does get better, it really does.

It takes work and commitment and you can use your anger to help make it happen. Don’t take no for an answer. Scream in the halls if you must. You do not have to go through this alone.

Don’t fail yourself, blow the rest of the world, we aren’t living your life.

Try this number—–

Emergency Phone Numbers for Denver, NC and the West Lake Norman Area
MENTAL HEALTH SERVICES HELPLINE 24 Hour Service 704-735-4357

Good luck! Keep us posted!

Yeah good luck sweetheart, we all care very much.

XX

In your post you said you caused pain in someone else. Would you mind telling me what you did to cause someone else pain? Talking about those painful things help release some of that pain you are having.

i agree with theresape, if you could find a therapist you can really talk to, you’ll feel sooooooooooo much better!

Just a quick note, severe depression is not a state of mind but a real medical problem. If you feel like you can’t fix it yourself, that may be why. Sometimes you may have an inbalance that requires medication. If you were a diabetic, you’d take medication to help balance your blood sugar. Sometimes you need professional help in order to start your climb back up to the top.

Please read my post you may find something there to make you feel better.