Love help: About a month ago I was forced to break up with the love of my life. - Help.com

i think you should have a serious talk with her.

i think u should do ur last option
don’t keep in contact and let her walk all over you, it’ll just end up breaking you x

She likes you man… but she doesn’t want a serious relationship. If you can handle that, then great. If not, then don’t let her back into your life at all.

O My hun! You should decide if your heart can take yet another round with this girl or not. To me, it sounds like she is playing with you. Don’t let her keep you as her “run-back-boy!” She obviously is not serious about the relationship, especially if she is telling you she is to busy to deal/talk about your relationship and how you feel about where the relationship has gone.

then take that as rejection and move on…

Yea…if she is snapping just drop it. You will find someone better and she will regret it when she gets your wedding announcements! ;o)

That is ok hun! Thta is the purpose of this website! i come here for the same reasons! :o)

I doubt that she is trying to screw with you. It sounds more like you are her hometown booty call guy.

Don’t answer hun. I have the same problem with a guy i am with. I want the relationship to go somewhere, but he just wants it to go to the bedroom. Well, I do not want that. He calls, but i do not answer usually. Sometimes I will call back but only if i have “reasons” for not being able to hang out with him.

ohhh, and you shouldn’t settle for being that. Always have respect for yourself even when others around you don’t.

you sound like a great guy and i know you will find someone much better than her!
best of luck =)

oh i am sorry to hear that sweetie! Just forget her!

if u wanna talk we can!

this doesn’t sound good for you. if you were detached and wanted something casual, i guess it could work. but that doesn’t seem to be the way you feel. if she can’t meet you all the way, and it does take all the way, there’s no half way about it, why continue to give it your attention and energy? admit it was great, but you need more and that’s OK!! know that there are other people out there worthy of falling in love with that will appreciate you and want to share thier whole world with you, i would look elsewhere… gently. be careful with yourself.

Hey, I wouldn’t believe every rumour you hear, but it does fit into this story like a missing jigsaw piece.

That said (and I know it’s easier said than done) try not to get caught up in the detail…step aside a minute and look at the bigger picture:

Your relationship with this girl was not making you feel special, loved or respected. Someone who truly loves you will make you feel a million dollars, stand by you no matter what, hear what you have to say and love you wholeheartedly. This seems like the polar opposite of what you shared with this girl.

I hope and pray that you find true happiness soon…
Farah :)

Well…she can’t seriously expect no comeback; what goes around comes around. Good on you for ‘outing the trash’, so to speak! :)

Yep…defo made the right choice. As for seeing her once a month and openly drooling over her, save yourself the disrespect and her the satisfaction. I don’t know about you, but I’d rather be happily single than in love with somebody who barely noticed I was there. Rather, get out there. Mingle. Network. Anything. Just don’t sit at home moping around. Your outlook will improve and in time you’ll find somebody new who loves and cherishes you and gives you the respect that you deserve.

Oh ok…do you go to college? Or work? Maybe you could network a little more when you’re out and about? Maybe attend or set up clubs/ societies. Definitely hang out with your mates and get this girl off your mind in any case.
I wish you the very best of luck,
Farah :)

This girl doesn’t feel the same way as you do and I feel sorry for you !!!I could have written that POST a couple years ago , I know how you feel , DEVASTATED is a understatement !!! I know I’ve been there , You sound like a smart man , MOVE ON, yes it will hurt , but YOU deserve to be treated the way you treat someone !!!LOVE is supposed to make you want to LIVE!!!!

Hey,

If she left you, then it’s hardly a principled move of her to still come after you. You’re still that same guy with the DWI. The girl is just playing games, and, to be able to play games like this, she clearly can’t love you as much as you love her.
If she was absolutely besotted with you, then she would have stood beside you no matter what; love is blind, remember.

Presumably due to you crime, you don’t have a number of different jobs to choose from? Tread the water and get through these somehow. If you’re bored, then ask for more work to do; if nothing is available then just do anything to stop you from being left alone with your thoughts. Go to the gym before work perhaps, and always have your evenings planned out beforehand; even if it’s to just order in food and watch a DVD at home. At least that way you’ll have something exciting to look forward to.

From the sounds of things, I don’t think that finding love will be a problem for you. However, in order to be loved, you have to love yourself a little first. If you feel that you’re an embarrassment and an absolutely despicable person who is lower than everyone else, then most likely that’s how others will perceive you too.

You’re an intelligent guy; look at the bigger picture here. You made a mistake and were absolutely reckless. Beg forgiveness from God, wipe the slate clean and move right on. When all is said and done, we’re only accountable to Him for our past sins; not the people on this Earth who will all perish and turn to dust someday.

Most of us have done things in our lives which we’re thoroughly embarrassed and ashamed of doing, however, to look at us, people would be none the wiser. We beg forgiveness from God and get on with our lives, why should you be any different?

Also, looking at things objectively, you’re a better person than before, as now you know better than to drink and drive. Everything in life happens for a reason. Maybe by this happening to you now, you avoided some major calamity in the future.

Sure, you have a breathaliser in your car, so your nightmare is still haunting you, but it’s not like it’s strapped to your person. There’s no label on your forehead and it’s not like you were a local celebrity before this happened and everybody knows your business.

I know that you can get through this and God Willing, you will. Patience is key. Feel free to shout me anytime.

Farah :)

if you love her let her go. she is tearing you apart and no one desearves to be done like that. when you love someone you are never too busy to talk to them. make yourself happy, leave her and be happy with you. i wish you the best.

Yo Caesar! How’s it going?

Yeah, you’re definitely doing the right thing. Make excuses, avoid her, move on. I don’t know how this girl truly feels about you, but it does seem to me that you’re somewhere near the bottom of her priority list. Perhaps all the invitations have dried up and that’s why she’s calling you now?

Remind yourself that:
1) She makes you feel rubbish about your past and dents your confidence.
2) She is self-absorbed and cares little for your needs and wants.
3) She wants the relationship to be on her terms. She’ll kiss you if she wants to, hang out with you if she wants to and call you if she wants to. It’s a pretty one-way street.

You need to somehow realign this relationship so that you’re back in control of yourself. This is not going to happen overnight. In the meantime, she’s going to keep contacting you whenever she’s bored to ‘hang out’ again, on her terms. What this girl needs is to be brought down a peg or two. She knows that you are still, in some way dependent on her…come hail or sleet you come a-running. This needs to stop.

Keep busy, get out and about, take up some new hobbies/ activities, expand your social circle. Fill up every second of your day if this is possible. You need to move on from what’s happened and get your confidence back. In time, you’ll meet someone new who loves you unconditionally, cares about you and respects you to no end. Praise the Lord that this one isn’t the last girl left on Earth!