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I don’t think I love my boyfriend anymore.
We will have been together for a year in a couple of days but I really don’t want to be with him anymore. I’m too scared to break up with him because I don’t want to break his heart and I don’t want to be single again. I really like this guy from work but he’s seven years older than me and he also has a girlfriend. I can’t stop thinking about him and I feel so guilty about staying with my boyfriend when I don’t love him.
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If you don’t want to be with your boyfriend anymore, break up with him. But don’t come between the other guy and his girlfriend, because that would be wrong.
if you don’t love your bf snymore, you need to tell him. Just becsause you don’t want to be single again is no reason to string him along. As for this guy you work with…YOU’RE NOT DOING ANYTHING to find out how he feekls. This guy you’re referring to already has a girlfriend so why jepordise their relationship? Ir’s human nature to want more than you have but, stop and acknowledge what you have,
You’ll have to do it eventually, and the longer you wait the more painful it will be for both of you. Being single is better than being in a loveless relationship.
It might break his heart and you don’t deserve the pain of a break up anymore than he does. But when the love has gone it’s the only right thing to do. He will get over it in time, and he’ll move on.
It’ll be worth going through the pain for a little while to achieve happiness with someone else in the long run. Life is too short to be with somone you don’t love.
All the best.
Didn’t we have this conversation a week or so ago?
Being afraid of hurting him is not a good reason to stay together–he’ll be just as hurt being with someone who doesn’t love him and not knowing what’s wrong. (Who knows? Maybe he’s staying with you so as not to hurt you.)
And being afraid of being “single” is not a god reason either–if you want to be available when the “right” person comes along, you cant be tied to someone who is just taking up your time.
And don’t be thinking that the older guy is going to jump in and fill the void. He’s taken, and he’s at a different plane in his life, and YOU need some time in your life to regroup and figure out what you want in your next relationship.
Don’t be in such a hurry to pair off again–you have PLENTY of time.
Good luck, and be happy.
You have 2 separate but interrelated issues. First, you need to handle the first one, separately, regarding your boyfriend. Make a decision if he’s the one or not for you long term and deal with it. As for the 2nd issue, you’ll have just to wait it out and see where it goes. Good Luck!!
The longer you leave it the more painful it will be.
You are doing both yourself and your boyfriend a favour by ending it asap.
Both your hearts will be broken..but broken hearts heal. Its not the end of the world.
You need to just break up with him! I am sorry, but you might have to break his heart. Just tell him how you feel, dont waste your time dating someone your not into. And just wait, maybe your crush and his girlfriend wont work out. Or just give him some little hints that you might like him a little
if you dont love him then your waisting both yours and his time. you should get out of it…. ya your going to break your heart and ya you dont want to be single but you dont love him so there is no point to dating him anymore
I was in the same situation.
I was with my bf for about 1year and 2 monthes, it was a long distance relationship and I had just met this new super hot guy just a few days ago. I broke up with my bf, and broke him badly…
Now this new guy.. I don’t really like him and he’s pretty much in love with me. The thing is, we mostly want to have the things we DON’T have, do you want to break up with your bf because of the other guy, or because you don’t love him anymore? Don’t break up with him for some other guy, chances are, you’ll regret it. Get to know that other guy better before you do anything.. Maybe ask for a break? To sort things out, but don’t make any risky moves.. 1 year of love shouldn’t be thrown away for a new fling.. And I’m speakin from a very painfull experience..
HI could you please help me. .I just had a break up with my boyfriend for just a simple reason. and now i feel so guilty about it.
Hi, if you don’t love him anymore, for your sake and his, the best thing to do is to end the relationship. I know this is hard, I’ve been through that too. Just remember that if you’re not happy, your boyfrend will probably not be happy either because he will pick up on it. Living a lie will not make you happy. When I was with my first boyfriend, I felt so guilty about not loving him anymore. I stayed with him another 6 months because I couldn’t bring myself to end it. If you need support to be able to break up with him, talk to your friends or to anyone who will support you. It’s normal for feelings to change. That is life. It means you’re evolving. Don’t beat yourself up. You’re not a bad person just because you don’t love him anymore. Yes, it will hurt him. But that is life. If your boyfriend didn’t love you anymore, would you want him to stay with you anyway?
Trust in yourself. You can do it!
From the replies I see here I’m guessing most of the people are teenagers, with lots of possibilities to find new partners. That’s just not how it works later in life.
flawless_mamm had a good point when she said you always want what you don’t have. I have a boyfriend and we fight a lot over small things. Sometimes (like now) I don’t like him at all. But finding a partner is not about finding someone who is perfect. Newsflash: NOBODY IS PERFECT. He’s not perfect, but neither are you.
Ask any old couple and they will tell you that a relationship takes hard work sometimes, from both partners. The “falling in love”-hormones die down within a few years at most, and then all you have left is caring for someone and being cared for in return. Now, if that is not in your relationship, then go ahead and break it up. But if it is, then thank god on your both bare knees for having found such a great partner in life.
Dont be a “Home-Wrecker”! There is plenty of single men out there, you dont need to wreck someone else’s relationship just because you fell out of love with your boyfriend. I hate home-wrecken hoe’s that cant find a good man on there own, and have to try and take someone else’s! Grow up and be a real woman, dont be trailer trash and take a man that is already taken! How’s that for advice…
P.S. I’ll pray for you!
Hey todd, when you’re praying, start by asking forgiveness for calling somebody a hoe. It’s not nice. And technically it’s not even true.
you should tell him how you feel… if he doesnt listwn slap him! and shaggg himmm nioceeeee nd hard!
Oh my god, I’m in the same situation!
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