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I just want to make the choices in my life and choose my own destiny, not have the uncontrollable diseases and events of my life define me.

Hi everyone, I’m new to this site. My problem is that I am trying to stay positive about life, but so many bad things have happened to me. When I was only eight years old I was diagnosed with a degenerative eye disease called Stargaurd’s. This disease has left me legally blind. It’s been hard for me to move on because my doctor has told me that I could lose more vision at anytime in my life. This disease is very unpredictable. Right now, my vision is stable but I worry it will worsen. It’s taken me years to overcome the obstacle of being legally blind in everyday life sitiauations. Just when I felt like I finally had a handle on life and things, I was just diagnosed today with a hormonal imbalance called Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. The symptoms of this hormonal imbalance which cause an excess production of anti-androgens can be devastating to a woman’s confidence. They include severe acne, excessive hairiness (hirsuism), irregular periods, and possible infertility. On top of all this, I have burn scars from a childhood accident with hot water which has left parts of my skin discolored. All these problems has caused me to become out of touch with reality. I feel like there is nothing I can do in my life within my control and reach. I try to stay a positive person, despite all the tragic events of my life. It’s hard though, and I feel like I’ve reached a dead end, and am now sinking into a state of depression and anxiety. I’m so messed up. I need help! Any advice?

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Forsaken Reject offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 Add Friend #
Grifton, NC, US | 1 year, 9 months ago (5 minutes after post)

I would suggest instead of focusing on what is negitive and bad in our lives, go for something that is good and helpful. I’m sincerly sorry about your eyesight and POS, those are bad cases, but yet you are still alive, and you can help others that are in need of wisdom and advice. It’s good that you are trying to stay positive, and the only dead in you’ll come across is death itself, which is in the far future. If anything, Pray, even if you are not a believer, and ask others to pray about your stituation, I’m still young and unexperienced in a way, but you can count your blessings but realizing you may not be bad of as the person who can’t move.. who can’t even think for themselves, people that have lost their parents when they’re young. Hope your life gets better.

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Almanda offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 Add Friend #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 1 year, 9 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Wow, you sure are brave! You’re okay, it’s okay, help is on the way. I know diseases are hard to handle, it sounds grim and I don’t know how you are feeling but if I could share some of my hope with you… if you can accept hope into your heart, I think it might help. Do you have family? Friends? Help line that you can call? I’ve often thought with my own problems that people are sick of hearing about them… the truth is that people want to help… it’s in our nature. It’s okay to feel scared or sad sometimes, angry even too, just to get it out and keep on going. Doctor’s are usually good at referring or offering suggestions on where to turn…
Take care, I hope you get lots of good responses soon!

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hydeehee offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 Add Friend #
Orlando, FL, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 month after post)

Hello,

Come on over to www.everythingblind and leave a message through any of our email links or our online form from the home page.

You can visit the personal growth page to find all kinds of support resources to use through your problem.

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