Problem help: Is that typical for males to ignore the problem if they just think they can’t do anything, even without trying? - Help.com

Unfortunately, yes. Inability to sort the problem equals failing as a man. Damaged ego, diminished social standing. All of these things in the fragile little mind of us men. How to make them care? Jeez. Tough one. Men like to ignore feelings and focus on problems with neat little solutions. Unfortunately for man, life just doesn’t play that way. If you can make him see that the bad feelings that will arise as a result of his unwillingness to address the issue are avoidable, with just some effort on his part, then you may have some success. Make it a problem with a manageable solution. Break it down. Keep it simple. If you have to explain how you feel, that his not trying is making you feel bad,try to do it with as clearly as possible, without getting too animated. Men are really bad with emotions. Except anger and lust. We do them fine. If only life were that simple.

Me and my partner had a great discussion about this, he said he feels helpless if there is no fix, immediate answer, practical way to resolve something. Thing is with emotion and hurt, sometimes its just there and there is no quick fix or resolve, so they tend to ignor it, as there is nothing they see that they can do.

What more particularly are you wanting to ‘get him to care’ about. I’m sure he does care, just doesnt show it in the same way as we would expect him to. Talk to him, communication is the key.

Most of the time, males do not see any problem, so they do not fix it. Their mott: Don’t fix when it is not broken.And what’s more, most of the time,they are focused with their own concerns at work or school.

Obviously you have a problem or you wouldn’t have made this post. The problem with that is, you haven’t said what the problem is. Only that I or any other male is going to ignor it.

Not knowing what that problem is I have no other choice but to ignor it. If you tell me what the problem is, then I can do something about it.

You must understand though, that although the problem might be a massive one to you. It might not be a problem to me, because I dont see that there is a problem, then I am not ignoring the problem. It’s just that I haven’t seen any problem, so I dont know the problem exists.

So now that we have established that there is no problem, how on earth am I going to be convinced that there is one.

I dont see any problem here at all.

As to men fixing things about the house etc. This isn’t a problem at all, it’s quite easy to see that nothing needs to be fixed, untill it is completely useless. It is only then that it becomes a problem.

I just dont understand why women cant understand this.

Hello itsmag, i can understand generalization. :) But we will understand you BETTER if you can pinpoint an exact moment when you did not understand how your man could just ignore your feeling. Sometimes, i would want my man to read my mind.At least i hope he’d do something without me even telling him to do. lol And of course he could not do so if i do not tell him what the problem is. But that is all because men and women have different communication skills. And both of them should learn how the other thinks.

Okay and you are welcome. Take your time. :)

so what if it is typical? that doesn’t matter. your specific situation matters. the communication in your relationship matters. try a bullhorn, an airhorn, punctuate it with a trumpet blast, put hot sauce in his coffee, i don’t know, just tell him plainly what the problem is. if you’ve done all these things and he’s still staring blankly, then well.. you’ve got a problem.

I’m going to be mean to males out there. They can be STUPID AS ROCKS. (Most of them) They dont’ see a problem if its right in front of their face…sometimes they do, just not in the right way though….