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Oh my goodness… I don’t have the answer for you but I’m sure someone on this site does and will help you soon. It’s good your family and co-workers know. Let them help you if they can or are willing. Hang on!

Hon, I can identify with you. I’m not going to say I know how you feel, because everyone feels things differently. But I can tell you that I’ve been in a similar place…it sucks really bad. You have already taken an important step in getting help: admitting you have a problem and that you want to get better. Please, is there someone in your life that you can turn to for help? You need to see a professional that specializes in eating disorders. I know how scary that thought is, but the hardest part is reaching out, and you’ve already done that. You don’t need to be afraid of people finding out your secret, since you say that everyone already knows. In that case, tell them, now that they know your secret, you need help to get better and that you can’t do it alone. Having an eating disorder is NOT YOUR FAULT. You don’t want to be this way, and if you had the choice, you wouldn’t be this way. An eating disorder is like any addiction: you need help to stop. I have no doubt that your family and friends love you and want to help you. There is NO SHAME in admitting that you need help, and there is no one better to turn to than someone who loves you.
I used to do the same thing: binging/starving. I was willing to do anything to be thin: starving, pills, diet programmes, fruit diets, lettuce and celery diets…. I got sick recently…I was in so much pain, I couldn’t eat, I dropped ten pounds in one week. I was bleeding internally. I finally had to go to the hospital where they told me that I have ulcerative colitis. It means that I have to take medication, possibly for the rest of my life, or until it goes into remission (hopefully the damage to my intestines aren’t so bad that I need surgery). I can’t eat the way I used to, I can’t eat some of my favourite foods. I’ve had to change my lifestyle. None of this was caused by disordered eating, but what I wouldn’t give to be able to have my old life back. I wouldn’t have worried so much about what I looked like.

Please, eating disorders are so dangerous. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, and its not an on-coming train. Life can be so much better than it is for you right now. See your family doctor and ask how you can get help from a specialist.
Good luck!

What I know someone with an eating disorder. She has been in and out of treatment hospitals. Therapy, group therapy. One thing she noticed is that most of the women had been sexually molested as children. This was their way of having some control. Then it becomes an addiction and you lose the control. I suggest you get professional help.

Oh my god , what is your obssession about your weight ? You are trying to lose weight or controlling it by killing yourself slowly !!!

I think you have deeper problems with yourself than your weight , I think you need to see a shrink & a nutrition doctor as soon as possible .

You have a wound in your soul that you are trying to cover it with food not to heal it .