I want him so bad.
I’ve worked with this guy for more than 1 1/2 years and had 2 boyfriends that I really cared about. From the minute I saw him, I was like “wow”. But I’m the type of girl who will do whatever it takes never to let him know until I’m 100% sure he wants to be with me, and that’s pretty much impossible as far as I’ve learned.
He is gorgeous, smart, everything. Kind of sesitive at times, but cool about whatever at the same time. I hide it so well that when he tells me (every once in awhile) that he’s lonely or that he wants a girlfriend, I don;t react. I’m scared to. At the same time, I consider myself down-to-earth and fantasize how perfeect we’d be together.
In reality, I’m scared to death of admitting to him how I feel, and I’m not even sure I feel this way, but I don’t know what I’d do without him in my life.
Hence, why I won’t tell him. There’s a big chance he’ll be weirded out, even though I think he does really like me and maybe that’s why I’m afriad. Confusing?? Yes. Real?? Very.
He does flirt with me all the time and I’ve never felt like just friends, like I said, since the moment I first saw him. I work with him 5 out of 7 days a week, even through summer at the pool. (lifeguards).
I feel so- ugh. But I knwo I’d “never” tell him anything. Ilove the way things are now, and the way I “know” he wants me, but he flirts iwth other girls.
Maybe I have trust issues cuz my first boyfriend 3 yrs ago in 9th grade split up with me because he was a senior and the school year was ending. Even though we were more madly in love than anyon eI’ve ever seen or heard of, he said it was because he didn’t want to hurt me (in the long run, having to go off to college and leave me, etc).
In the days and weeks following that ifrst breakup, I felt a feeling I think is probably the worst thing anyone could ever experience, and when I called him he would say in his spanglish “don’t make me be hard with you”. meaning, stop trying or i have to be mean. i loved him more than anything. ever. to this day.
We haven’t really spoken for two months now, pretty much the biggest break since I met him in these on-and-off, boyfriend-in-between 3 years & 2 months.
I don’t want him anymore, but he’s always been there. I am not sad he is out of my life. I pray he stays there, yet I wants my coworker guy who I’ve been infatuated with for at least a year now to be almost surreal, and one day just surprise me with a kiss like my 1st bf did. i know that my expectations are surreal, but even with the advice of friends, it’s hard to change them.
I wish I could just come back down to earth.
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Just tell him how you feel. You never know how he feels until you ask.
talk to him about it
i want to but everything i’ve been holdin gon to for like 2 yrs will change.
But it might change for the better…
sometimes im not even sure if i want it to, i lvoe flirting with him and- not being vulnerable.
loving someone and being loved means allowing yourself to be vulnerable
i know, i just don’t think i can handle him not feeling the same way, and him knowing how i feel.
Fear is a terrible thing. It can keep you from your blessing. Be courageous. How much longer do you really plan on sitting on this? It’s already stressing you… tell him
Invite him to dinner/supper/walk in the park… whatever, and just tell him how you feel! What’s the worst thing that could happen, huh? If, he’s a normal guy I don’t think he’ll make fun of you or something… so just do it!
Once I met a girl. It also was like you say, the moment I saw her I felt like “WOW, Oh my god!… etc. ” And I came to her immediately!! (I never did before) Feels good! ;)
I know wat u guys r saying, i appreciate it but i know he’s afraid of being hurt to and that’s the only reason he wouldnt have a girlfriend for so long. We’re really alike in that way, so afraid of getting hurt again alot of times it feels like it’d never be worth it. I’ve come to the conclusion that’s why we’ve been doing this all along.
I do feel like talking to him and just getting it out, no matter what, is probably the only thing i need to get on with my life.
We’re coworkers too (makes it 1000x harder)
okay sorry to be the pesimist here…but if he really wanted you he would have made some advance……
He has but i dont know how to handle it wen it comes to him, like ive gone with him to like wakeboard, get food b4 work, and even wakeboard.. but it usually stops there.
**i meant smoke for that last part, oops.
Wow, there is fate staring you in the face and you don’t want to tell him?! :) Well, granted… it’s hard to just come out and say something, but how about inviting him out…. ask if he’d like to get together for something or other, and take it from there. Without saying anything, I think he’ll get the idea that you’d like to know him better, and here he is telling you he’s lonely!!! *hint hint*! After your “date” tell him you enjoyed yourself and let’s do it again!
Thanks. seriously, i do feel better.
just have to find courage i guess :]
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And maybe he’s a little short on courage right now too, so….. ask him out…. and then again…. it’s a non-verbal message that comes in loud and clear! ;) Perhaps he’s insecure ’cause you haven’t responded to HIS hints….
good point about his hints
hey anyone with suggestions for Vday? like.. real/ plausible/ actual suggestions?
wait for the right time than talk about it
he is interested in you. if not, he wouldn’t tell you that he is lonely and needs a girfriend. he is trying to give you hints. just tell him how you feel
hmm he’s very open though
yet he’s never actually told a girl he likes her or made anything happen (i know him, lol)
he probably feels the same way you do. he is nervous. break the ice
its weird cuz i know he is, yet something just wont let me.
that’s normal. just don’t wait too long, make youself talk to him. if not, you may miss your chance
sometimes i think i already did and that its too late- oh well,, but thank you though
is he single? if so, it’s not too late
yeah. he does have a girl on the side though. she lives like 3 hrs away, but they hook up. idk i almost knwo he likes me but =/
then tell him, don’t let that ***** take him away, lol
ive seen a pic, im pretty sure he doesnt like her except for company & a booty call.
i hate that part tho.
do you ever hang out with him outside of work?
occasionally. ive gone w/ his fam wakeboarding, we went to a bakery once, i smoked w/ him & a few friends from work @ his house. we actually got rly close that night but nothing serious happened. & we hardly talked about it, only laughed at how ridiculous (funny) i was wen i was high. i was like hanging on him the whole time tho, eventually we fell asleep & i was like laying beside him w my arm across him. he asked me again the other day when im comin over to do it again. like just yesterday he asked me how im doing with the “boys”, meaning is anything going on. but we’re friends so i cant tell if he’s just being w/e or if he wanted to know for a certain reason.
when we were high im pretty sure he said soemthin glike “We should totally start dating”
he is obviously interested. just make yourself talk to him. it can’t be that hard, have a drink or 2 first if you have to.
Lol i think thats my best bet actually. i knew he gave me crip brownies for a reason.
good luck, i hope everything turns out good.
Valentine’s Day is a great opportunity… any little thing…. a card, a cupcake….something that says you thought of HIM. :) That’s a good message! And then ask if he wants to get together for…. something.
aagh i wish, im so not like that though
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Life is too short to be scared, wait for when you feel like it’s right and just tell him, honestly you have nothing to lose and you will feel alot better about it. If it works out then it was worth it and if not at least you tried and trying is better than just not kowning :)
yes i say tell him!
Ahhhh what happened next i’ve just read all that. DID YOU TELL HIM!!!!!!?????????
i feel the same pain…..there is someone i really want but hes taken and it makes me soooo jealous and mad……..i feel like i positivly LOVE him!!!!!! i dont know how to get him though 3
I had a serious crush on a guy for a long time - though not as long as you! I used to hang out with him whenever possible. A few times we did things together - we went on a weekend away with some friends and had dinner, but it was never a date and never really just the two of us. I seriously pined over him, but I convinced myself that if he was interested he would ask me out. I thought that him not saying anything meant he didn’t want to be with me, even though I hadn’t said anything to him.
Anyway, I eventually spent so long thinking about him that I decided I needed to just bite the bullet, so I sent him a text saying that I had a crush on him and asking if he wanted to go for a drink. It was the scariest thing I ever had to do but he said yes and we’re now dating - and it’s amazing, because it’s something I wanted for so long.
It sounds like he’s more than casually interested in you, but if you haven’t responded to any of his hints he may be disheartened. TELL HIM. People find being asked out attractive - it’s always amazing to now someone wants you.
Moreover, the worst that will happen is he says no. It’ll be hard, and you will feel bad, but not as bad as you think. And at least, finally, you can move on and not be stuck halfway anymore.
You know what no one cares whether or not you and this douche bag get together so please leave your comments off of the internet because no one cares you nacker. . .!?!
Did it work?? Did u tell him?! :D
i love dis boy him name is mike klett 3 and he don`t like me no move y idk
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