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I am a 40 year old mom who just divorced and is completely lost as to how to restart my life.

I am completely disorganized and just cannot seem to focus on how to start to put my life back in order. Any ideas on how to get organized?

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pineconereforestatio offline Unverified User #
CA | 5 years, 3 months ago (9 minutes after post)

perhaps dating a young, virile, fireman will help

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menjen offline Unverified User #
US | 5 years, 3 months ago (34 minutes after post)

exercise every morning - get out of bed and get it going girl

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Sans offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 years, 3 months ago (1 hour, 48 minutes after post)

i’m in my 40s and divorced. starting over is not easy after a divorce. everyone who gets married thinks they’ve found the love of their life. the knowledge that you were wrong makes it hard to hope again for true love. plus, your ex probably does little to help your self-esteem, or actively tears it down. i don’t know. it’s hard.

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Pretoria, 06, ZA | 5 years, 3 months ago (8 hours, 9 minutes after post)

It seems that I could have written this post. All I can say is hang in there. It has been a year now and the emotional part of it does get better. The rest is just to start living again. Get one good friend and stick it out. Good Luck!!!

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Eden, NC, US | 5 years, 3 months ago (3 days, 13 hours after post)

I’m 38 and my wife sought out a younger man.
Keep your head held high.

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Washington, DC, US | 5 years, 3 months ago (6 days, 3 hours after post)

Start by caring and loving yourself. I am 39 and my 8yr old relationship has just ended. It’s tough and takes a lot of determination to get back on track. There is lot of work to do on my mind such that negative thoughts are kept to a minimum and on the physical level appreciate and improve on what I am…..

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An Unknown Location | 5 years, 3 months ago (6 days, 5 hours after post)

I can understand exactly how you feel. I was divorced at 36, 8 years dating, 8 years married. Had a daughter in the 8 year marriage. Wow, suddenly the love of my life changed, deceived me by cheating more than once and said I dont love you anymore. Pick up what is left and you have to move forward. Over time it starts to get better. I am at the point now where I met a really good woman, dated her almost 2 years and I am very scared move forward. It is different now, not the same outlook as when I was 19, everything is changed but I am trying to see through my issues. All I can say is it is not easy and you have to move forward. Eventually you realize how stupid you were, how bad you were hurt and there is someone else in this world that will love you for you. It is just working through and allowing that to happen. It will not be like it was when you were you and no responsibility. That is where I am after two years after divorce. I love y 7 year old daughter, she is my world and also wants a family but I am also trying to think about me again for a change.

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