Day help: I watch the days go by and wonder if its time. - Help.com

That’s very sad. Fact or fiction?

fact

What happened?

car accident i was driving

Ouch. That’s terrible. How many cars? Just yours or did you hit another one?

Edit: Or did they hit you?

just mine hitting a tree

Well, was it your fault?

i was drunk so yes it was all my fault

Hmmm…well I suppose that it was…but truth be told you can’t beat yourself up forever. How long ago was it?

2 years ago, its just gotten to the point of being unbearable.

I see. Well I stand by what I said. You can’t beat yourself up about it forever. You need to find a way of forgiving yourself. Do you think this person would forgive you?

sometimes i think she would, i think she would want me to let go. but its just so hard.

Sarah? It is not time. You were so much better. Remember about the purpose you have to find.amy

I understand that it’s hard. Lot’s of things are hard. Have you apologized in any way? For example, going to the grave site and just sitting for awhile, talking, maybe an apology, until you feel it’s time to leave. Or a private seance. I don’t normally advocate ouja boards or anything, but they have been known to help.

I will want to talk with you.
Serious talk.
You know where to find me!
Hugs

Have you tried talking to this person’s family? Will they speak to you? Sometimes letting the people that you hurt know how you have been feeling can be theraputic for everyone involved. Just be prepared if they aren’t willing to speak with you, after all, they lost their loved one.
Look, we all make mistakes, sometimes terrible lifechanging mistakes. But life must go on. You must live. Perhaps you can use your experience as an opportunity to help other people. Speak publicly about your ordeal. Speak to high schools and groups of young kids. Through your actions you might help save someone else’s life.

You know, this site is a good place to make a recovery. Try not focusing on what you did in the past. Focus on the now and try helping other people with their problems too.

I think the best way to let go of guilt and unhappiness is to do as much as you can for other people. Seeing other people happy or better off as a result of your words/action is the best therapy there is. You made a big mistake and I’m sure you’ve learned from it in the hardest possible way. However you are not a worthless, useless person, there’s so much good you can do in the rest of you life.

Perhaps campaign against drink driving, share your experiences with others so they realise how dangerous it is? Preventing others from repeating your mistake would be a fitting tribute to the friend you lost.

Honey,I’m hoping this post was just to get something out that has been bottled up and that you feel better for doing,saying it.I know it may not eem like it,but you have come a long way so far.Listen,at first it was hard to help much,but now that you have told me what is holding you back from any hope,We can talk about the loss that have experienced.Then I know it will be much better.Please stay with us,I’m going to tell you something more.

I know you loved this person very much and no amount of guilt or or pain you inflict on yourself is going to bring them back or change things.But they will always be in your heart,till the day you die.I always see things as they ‘could be worse’ You will see,someday you’ll be going along and it will come to you,a thought,and you’ll think Wow.maybe thats why that happened.I believe there is a reason for everything,good and bad.You just can’t see it right now.It was their time.It’s not your time.Do you know that song by the Beatles,the words came from the Bible,About a time for love,a time to die,?I’m going to find that for you.Just hang in there hun,Your on your way out of this :)

I cant find it right now,still looking,,,When I find myself in times of trouble,Mother Mary comes to me,speaking words of wisdom,let it be.There will be an answer let it be.A time to be born,a time to die,a time to laugh ,a time to cry,a purpose unto heaven..There will be an answer let it be……Please,say something.

Okay-if you have your Bible handy its:Ecc.3;1-8,If not here is some of it ;There is a time for Everything and a season for every activity under heaven, a time to be born -a time to die / a time to weep ,a time to laugh/ a time to embrace a time to refrain/ a time to Love and a time to hate/ a time to keep, a time to to throw away / a time for war and a time for peace. Its time for you to let go of their hand and do things on your own.They will be your angel watching over you, telling you it’s ok to move on ,its ok to let go ,its Okay.Im here for you.when luck happens,thats me,when your spared heartache again,that was me,with you.

hello, my email is still available to you, But I hope you find the answers you need on this place, stay awhile… Hugs to you, glad to see you have come back.

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