Love help: I have a lot on my plate and need some support. - Help.com

You sound overwhelmed! How old are your kids?

one of mine had heart problems as a baby. i know how stressful it can be to have a sick child, and the doctor bills don’t help matters. is there anything you can do daily, even something little, that could help release your stress?

They are 7, 4, and 2

I understand the everyday stress with kids running you down, no time for yourself, no time to breathe. However there is a solution to that problem. Take a walk. Have a cup of tea.Find a baby sitter. My kids are 16 and 12 and boy let me tell you do they challenge me everyday. What type of problems do your kids have?

Do your kids go to school?

So, I am sure you devote a majority of your time to them. Just remember though, you can be a better mom to them after you have taken care of yourself. Many people have this screwed up belief that if we take time for ourselves that we are being selfish. WE also deserve a little TLC and there is not a thing wrong with finding the time to do that.
Carve out some time- even if it is 5-10 minutes here and there to do something you enjoy. Read, exercise, meditate, listen to music, draw, paint, pray, talk with a friend on the phone or on-line- all good ways to alleviate some stress.
Then practice gratitude for what you do have. You have great children, fabulous husband, I am assuming a home, etc… Keep your focus on the positive and don’t the negatives pull you under.
Best wishes!

My daughter has unknown (the specialists haven’t figured it out completely) GI problems and now is partially deaf. My son may have hydrocephilis. (sp?) My oldest goes to school, and my middle one is in 4 half days.

Wow that is a full plate.With your daughter being partially deaf there is the doctor his name is Dr.Hirakawa he’s and ear,nose and throat dr. he’s wonderful maybe you can locate him or wait I’ll give you his number ok call him and see what he can do for you.Hold on let me get the number……ok sorry I spelled the name wrong..Dr.Hirrokawa 877-6001 his address is 247 North Broad St. Milford Ct. I hope this helps you some. What is hydrocephilis? I’m so sorry your having a tough day. Take 10 to 15 min for yourself. That’s what my mom tells me.

bjk60 wrote:
Wow that is a full plate.With your daughter being partially deaf there is the doctor his name is Dr.Hirakawa he’s and ear,nose and throat dr. he’s wonderful maybe you can locate him or wait I’ll give you his number ok call him and see what he can do for you.Hold on let me get the number……ok sorry I spelled the name wrong..Dr.Hirrokawa 877-6001 his address is 247 North Broad St. Milford Ct. I hope this helps you some. What is hydrocephilis? I’m so sorry your having a tough day. Take 10 to 15 min for yourself. That’s what my mom tells me.

i think she already has doctors, plus i don’t remember anon saying she lives in ct.?

Thanks so much everyone. Seeing that people are listening is helping to ease a little tension right now. I know that I will get through this, I have my faith. I just needed an online shoulder, or two, to lean on.

I didn’y say she lived in Ct.either it was a suggestion out of the kindness of my heart and because I feel bad for her.

Sometimes it helps to have a shoulder to lean on and sometimes that’s what really helps is to have someone really listen.

that’s why we’re here, anon, to help and get help. get a verified login and get to know us.

bjk i wasn’t trying to attack or anything. i know you’re trying to help. i did think you maybe knew more about the situation from a previous post or something. peace.

No no offense taken. I have family that is dealing with the same situation so I know what I’m talking about.

My husband is currently living in 5 hours from us, due to his job. So for about 8 months it has been just me taking care of my 3 kids(9,7,5). It is stressful. You need to find some time to yourself. I know with a 2yr old this is hard. If the 2yr old takes naps that would be a great time. I have the kids watch tv and I go soak in the tub and meditate. They know to only knock on the door if it is a life emergency. Put on music and light a candle. And don’t think about the house, the kids, money, or your husband. Just try and breath in a little peace. It makes a huge difference for me.

Sweetie, I feel for you. I wish I could help you. It is so hard to have a sick family member but worse when there are children involved and so hard to being done all this alone. You need to ask for help from family, friends, church, school, community or where ever you can find help.

If you can arrange it, you could probably use some alone time to take a long bubble bath or take a drive. Clear you head and find something to help you relax. Caretakers often put themselves last, especially after the children. I hope you get some good news from the doctors soon.