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so this is my story

i have a best friend. a guy friend. im a girl. andd…long story short, ive known him my whole life and i liked him when i was three, and now he likes me, and i think i like him, but i cant be too sure.

i talk to him all the time and have settled for letting him think i like another guy.
its really painful and sad though because every time i bring him up he starts giving out one worded sentences and seems a little cold and i can tell he is frustrated.

agghh. i cant date though.

i just have this feeling that one day out of the week he is absolutely JUST a friend, and nothing more, and that is leaving me feeling that im just confused

i hate myself for it.

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Anonymous #
6 months, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

well if you know that you have some feelings for him thne try it out and see if it goes anywhere. tell him tht if doesn’t work, u’ll jst sty friends =]

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i may not be sane offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 293 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

just tell him u cant date. thats really rude that u do that so y let him suffer?

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heather* offline Verified User (9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
Eugene, OR, US | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (17 hours, 13 minutes after post)

Well, I’d say you may be able to wait it out, but because of how long you’ve known him that might be a little useless. Have you tried asking the friend you talk about if he knows why the other friend acts like that? And this may sound crazy but it works: Ask a guy not involved in the situation what to do in person, explaining what’s going on. He may have some insight. He could even be a friend.

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Anonymous #
6 months ago (2 weeks, 2 days after post)

talk to him

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furiouslove offline Verified User (6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Mission Viejo, CA, US | 6 months ago (2 weeks, 5 days after post)

talk to him.
no secrets.
just calm and honest communication.

you can’t control most things.
but you can control how you handle this…
your part, at least.

your concerns are probably rejection…
this is something you cannot control at all.
so don’t fear it. fear creates the victim.

accept yourself as acceptable.
you are okay…knowing this will
ease some of what you feel will be awkward.

but when you do it, if he is mature at all,
it will actually be EASIER than you think.
and as long as you stay secure in yourself,
it will ease his mind, too–regardless of the
outcome.

you will only lose, if it is discovered that
you have not been honest.

go for it–and if you fail–fail boldly.

take care,
sperling
www.FURIOUSLOVE.com

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Anonymous #
4 months, 4 weeks ago (1 month, 3 weeks after post)

ok heres an idea
if u like him dnt b scared go with ure gut i no it sounds a bit of but it can wrk n ders no harm in trying!
so, go with your gut. if u like him go for it but if it doesnt wrk out thats jus lyf so move on its a very cold truth but its the only way to feel ready for pain move on n if u need help wiv dat we will cross dat bridge wen we cme 2 to it! =]

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